She Says the Watermelon was at Fault
@Ruby3881 (1963)
Canada
May 28, 2017 12:08pm CST
My daughter went out to the prom after party with some friends last night. To my knowledge, none of the kids in the group was actually graduating or had attended the prom itself. They were just wanting to go to the party, which was held at a house up the mountain that is known for hosting parties where the kids feel they can do whatever they want and not get into trouble.
I wasn't keen on my daughter attending, but my husband wanted to let her go. I understand why. If we keep kids away from such events, they never learn how to look after themselves at drinking parties. And it's better that they learn when they are still living at home so Mom & Dad can come to the rescue if needed.
We talked about it a bit and we looked at the fact that her father was available to drive if needed (he usually works the evening/night shift when these parties happen.) We finally decided she could go, but with the caveat that she was to play it safe and call if she needed help.
Well, it turns out that by the time she needed help she was too far gone to make that call. Luckily, someone else did it for her. She was rescued by a none-too-happy Daddy, but at least she got home safely.
She blames it on the fruit.
Apparently, she was eating watermelon and other fruits that had been inoculated with alcohol. If you've ever had this sort of thing, you'll know that it's easy to consume a lot of alcohol without realizing it. By the time she knew she'd had too much, it was too late. She never knew what hit her!
As much as we warn our kids about drinking and the risks they take at a party, sometimes they just have to make their own mistakes. I hope she'll learn from this one!
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
28 May 17
Sorry she was not able to call you but glad someone else did it for her. I have had watermelon soaked in moonshine and ate quite a bit of it. Glad we was camping out at friends place because It did me in.
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
30 May 17
@Ruby3881 Right. I hope she learned her lesson from it and she did not feel to bad when she woke up in the morning
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
31 May 17
@Tina30219 She spent most of the next day lying about and feeling sick. But she did get up to help cook supper later in the day, and she was ready for school this morning.
@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
28 May 17
I'm very glad her friends looked after her. And that she had the chance to learn that, even if we disapprove of her drinking so much, we are always going to come to her rescue first and ask questions later.
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
28 May 17
I hope she will learn too.
She is very lucky to have the both of you.
I learned the hard way with no parents around...wow was that bad.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
28 May 17
@Ruby3881 She probably does not Kyla. Youth...doesn't know.
I pray that she will turn around on that hanging out with bad ones...it does not pay off. I was thrown right into hell, and believe me, no one can get by me now. God protect her. Seriously, it is so dangerous. How old is she now?
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
28 May 17
@TiarasOceanView Actually, it was the kids who often get into trouble themselves who looked after her until her Daddy could get to her and bring her home. They are not bad kids, per se. But kids who get into trouble themselves at home & school. This little group of kids really likes to take care of her because they know she's generally a good kid - doesn't smoke, doesn't usually go to the parties, gets good grades in school and is a youth leader. They want her to stay good and not get into trouble the way they have.
If for nothing else but that, these girls are good friends to her. They look out for her and try to keep her safe. Just this time, she took a chance that none of them saw coming, I think.
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
28 May 17
I hope so too. I plan to have a serious talk with her when she's more herself, as does her father (he's out for the day taking a class, so he may have a separate talk when he gets home.)
@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
28 May 17
I'd rather that she went with our consent than for her to sneak around to go. Because she went with our knowledge, she also knew she could call if she needed help. If she had been sneaking around like many girls her age, she might have stayed at the party and gotten seriously hurt or sick.
It's difficult to know how to handle drinking and parties with an older teen. It's out there - even sometimes in the daytime at school. We can try to shield our kids from it, but I've seen that backfire many times over the years. And by forbidding something, it sets it up as something to be desired. So kids try really hard both to get it and to hide what they are doing.
I know my kids can get into trouble, but I'd rather they did it when we are able to help them. If we wait until they are legal and off to study at university, they will lack the experience to cope and will be in even greater risk because they are too far away for us to look after them.
@teenspirit (1597)
• Israel
29 May 17
wow so weird, after such an experience i am sure she will learn
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
31 May 17
@teenspirit Very true! That's why we try to let the kids learn the consequences from their own experience instead of from listening to us tell stories about ours.
@teenspirit (1597)
• Israel
31 May 17
@Ruby3881 yes...sometimes we need to learn things in the hard way..
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@celticeagle (168420)
• Boise, Idaho
29 May 17
I think that our job as parents is to teach our kids the basics and then let them go forward to make mistakes or whatever. I think this is the logical approach to raising children. And keeping the door to good communication open too.
@andriaperry (117157)
• Anniston, Alabama
29 May 17
Yes they have to live and learn, but she hears what y`ll say.
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
29 May 17
Yes, hopefully our kids will learn.It was good luck that you were around
@Slayqueen (918)
• India
29 May 17
She's lucky to get such understanding parents.. if it ever happened with me.. I know my mom dad would never talk to me..