The value of family / myLot

May 28, 2017 7:06pm CST

Anyone else here been separated from their husbands or wives and children for a long period of time? I've been away from mine now for three months and it is sucky in the extreme. The longest previous separation from them was about two weeks in the whole 23 years we've been married. It has made me realize just how much I love my wife and also how much I have taken her for granted. We chat everyday online but it's not the same. I am intensely aware of the empty space besde me when I fall asleep at night and not having someone I care about to share the beauty I see around me every day. I was wondering if other members have experienced similar and how you cope with it. I think perhaps being connected every day might actually make the longing worse. Any advice would be hugely appreciated.

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@atoz1to10 (6780)

• Australia

29 May 17

I think it's always easier for a woman to be separated from her man as she has housework to do and the children to take care of... then when it's night time, even though she will miss her man, she will be too exhausted to think much... I'm not sure why you are not with your wife but it's a temptation for man not to be with his wife, especially for a long period of time. I'm not sure what advice I can give you but we are here to support you... Think of your wife and the good time you have together... Stay strong. When are you going to be back home?

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Robert Turner

@artner (60)

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29 May 17

Thanks for the feedback @atoz1to10 I usually have my family with me. I am on a research project for a book and they left three months ago to be with an ailing relative. Yes, I agree it is probably easier for her in a way. We've been married for ages, are the best of friends and usually share everything. That's what has made this so difficult. Temptation is not an issue, trust me if a westerner can remain faithful in Asia they will be faithful anywhere. It sounds corny, but it feels like there is a piece of me missing and I have another three months of it to put up with. I am.immensely grateful for having them in my life. I can only imagine the pain someone must go through that looses a soulmate?.

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@atoz1to10 (6780)

• Australia

29 May 17

@artner I'm very happy to hear that you are a faithful husband... They are very hard to find these days...Even when they are home with their other half they can be unfaithful... Why don't you ask her to come to you? But you know what, it's said that couples should spend sometimes apart so they can cherish one another more, and to test their love as well as to reflect on their marriage...

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Robert Turner

@artner (60)

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29 May 17

@atoz1to10 Under normal circumstances she would be here right beside me. She s tending to her mother who is very ill, so she has this cross to bear on that side, but the support of her family is at least there for her.

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Manju vishwakarma

@Bodyandbrain (13797)

• Gurgaon, India

29 May 17

Being away from the loved ones is really painful. Whenever my husband has to go somewhere without me, we miss each other so much and keep in touch all over the day by calling and whats app.

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