Do You Always Criticize, Condemn or Complain?

Singapore
May 30, 2017 1:17am CST
"Do not criticize, condemn or complain" is among the Fundamental Techniques in Handling People according to the book "How To Win Friends And Influence People" by Dale Carnegie published in 1936. He said in that book that "To handle people well, we must never criticize, condemn or complain because it will never result in the behavior we desire". Is that statement still true, valid, effective or relevant in the computer age?
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• Agra, India
30 May 17
Some people are like that. All they have to do is to complain, criticize and condemn. Such people spread negativity and nothing else.
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• Singapore
30 May 17
@amitkokiladitya You are absolutely correct 100% my friend about your observation! And I wonder why so many people have that kind of attitude or thinking?
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• Agra, India
30 May 17
@magnumopus they make others life hell as well
• Singapore
30 May 17
@amitkokiladitya Yes they do my friend for the sake of causing havoc to other peoples lives.
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@shaynas (5487)
• India
30 May 17
I think the statement means a lot, if we stop doing all this, life will be much peaceful!!
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@shaynas (5487)
• India
30 May 17
@magnumopus Yes, very much.
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• Singapore
30 May 17
@shaynas That's true.
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• Singapore
30 May 17
@shaynas Yes because words can really hurt the feelings of other people.
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• Preston, England
30 May 17
It's often the people most deserving of complaints, criticism and condemnation who try to silence the nay-sayers
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• Singapore
30 May 17
@arthurchappell Yes that's also true.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
31 May 17
It could be on a case-to-case basis, depending on the situation like when someone is stepping on your rights already! You can complain.
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• Singapore
31 May 17
@acelawrites Yes it could be that on a situation-to-situation basis.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
30 May 17
Yes , I think so.
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• Singapore
30 May 17
@responsiveme Hi and thanks for your reply.
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@luispas (1674)
• Venezuela
30 May 17
I think that's really important because no one likes to have a finger pointing at them.
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• Singapore
30 May 17
@luispas Yes you are right on this.
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@josie_ (10034)
• Philippines
30 May 17
The best advice would be "If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing." Although I find it more satisfying to use sarcasm when responding to negative and narrow minded people.
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• Singapore
30 May 17
@josie_ That may be true.
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@EMuhungi (1712)
• Nairobi, Kenya
1 Jun 17
Very true. You dont scare something you want to catch.