Do you struggle with oversharing?
By Lily Goito
@GrayCats (23)
June 9, 2017 3:23pm CST
When I first started working at my former job, I wanted these two girls that I worked with to like my so bad! When ever there was an awkward silence I would fill it in with chatter and they would laugh and that would ease the tension. But the problem was, that the chatter I provided often contained details of my life that I wasn't ready to share and yet I couldn't stop talking! In the end we all became fast friends but I still cringe when I remember all of the things I told them and I wonder if we would have become friends if I hadn't told them all of those things.
But anyway! Do any of you struggle with talking too much and accidentally sharing personal details of your life? Or other people's lives? Can you guys share ways that you use to prevent this?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jun 17
I used to share my feelings and cried a bit too much when I worked. I got overwhelmed easily.
I just learned that not everyone was nice or wanted to be my friend. Getting hurt more than necessary is what got me to learn from my mistakes.
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@Tierkreisze (1609)
• Philippines
9 Jun 17
The thing is, that's how you really are. If you change that, then you might get uncomfortable. Have you tried asking them about their personal details after you've shared yours?
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@Courtlynn (67080)
• United States
10 Jun 17
I don't believe in "over sharing". You either open up. Or you don't.
@CandlelightHeroes (22)
• United States
10 Jun 17
If it's an online conversation, I'll be more guarded since you never know who else might find your information or how they might use it beyond the person you're talking to.
In person, I usually run into a different problem first before oversharing can come up, that people are generally super-busy and distracted so they're often not even paying attention to the important things to be said to even get to the place of dealing with unnecessary information to begin with.
In light of that, I think you found some special people who were willing to listen and I'm glad you were able to make friends with them. :)
@GrayCats (23)
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11 Jun 17
Yeah, online I don't have that issue, I think the oversharing comes out face to face.
And that sucks that people don't pay attention! Well I guess not if you're having an issue with oversharing, but for regular conversation that kind of sucks.
And yup, I'm glad I found friends who weren't weirded out by my blabber mouth.
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