Friend or No Friend?

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As I get older, I tend to distance myself from everyone. I really don't talk to anyone right now except my sister, my boyfriend, and my kids. I think it is because I hate drama, and it seems that the friends that I had would absorb themselves with drama. I have always had more "guy" friends than I had "girl" friends. My best friend of 22 years recently got into a relationship and he basically consumes all her time....a bit controlling, but she doesn't see it that way...so I just let her do her thing, she will figure it out. Recently I quit talking to the only one of my "guy" friends that I have left, ...we will call him "w"... because he proclaimed his love to me and basically told me that I am making a mistake with my boyfriend. "W" and I have been friends for over 21 years. And we would always run into each other at the most difficult moments in our lives. We were like a team, we were always there for each other and we have years of good memories. I was upset that he waited to tell me how he felt...now that I am in a relationship. I miss talking to him, but I don't think it would be fair to my boyfriend, knowing how "W" feels about me now. My boyfriend is gone a lot because his job requires him to travel. I can go without seeing him for three weeks at a time. Sometimes I get so lonely, and just want to pick up the phone and talk to "W" to see how he is. We would always go walking in the woods and explore nature, and I want to go so bad. I am a very loyal, trustworthy person, and I don't want to do anything that would jeopardize my relationship. So your thought on these questions... Do you think it would be wrong to contact "W" to see how he was doing? Or should I just avoid him? Would you throw away a friendship of over 21 years or would you try to maintain that friendship?