Can you stand a long distance relationship?
By Curlann
@annierose (21571)
Philippines
June 19, 2017 6:10am CST
A friend told me before that long distance relationship doesn't work. It is much better if the two persons can see and be with each other. In short, she does not believe in it. Ironically, she got married with a man who work overseas. They were not in a long distance relationship before but after they got married, the man must leave to work abroad. They do have 2 kids already and as far as I can see, my friend was able to stay in love with her husband even though he is very far from her.
Do you think you can stand a long distance relationship?
12 people like this
16 responses
@Courtlynn (67080)
• United States
19 Jun 17
Considering I'm in one and have been for 7 years.. yes. Its not really a matter of the distance, its if you can handle it as a person.
3 people like this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
@Courtlynn I agree. I have been with my long distance boyfriend for almost 4 years now.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
@Courtlynn 7 years is such a long time. But I agree with you, it all depends on one's personality.
1 person likes this
@Courtlynn (67080)
• United States
19 Jun 17
@annierose yes it is. But it flys by.
1 person likes this
@marlina (154130)
• Canada
19 Jun 17
@annierose Easy to cheat on someone when that person is far away and that's what he did.
2 people like this
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
Hi, Marlina! Most of the friends I know who were in a long distance relationship also didn't work out.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
I do believe it works with some people and not with half of the percentage.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@jaiho2009 I agree. Some people cannot stand being too far to the one they love for a very long time.
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@annierose Coz sometimes, the distance make some relationship cold.
1 person likes this
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
It's different when you are married and when you aren't in a long distance relationship. The bond in marriage makes the trust stronger, especially if there are kids as well. But of course it's no guarantee that there won't be cheating. Cheating is innate in one's personality I think, whether married or just in a relationship, a cheater will always cheat.
But I think you have an idea how difficult it is to maintain a long distance relationship, especially for people whoa aren't married. It's not that I don't believe in it, I think I could be in a long distance relationship, but I think I would find it frustrating sometimes.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
@toniganzon I agree. Sometimes I get frustrated when I need him so badly but there is no other way for him to visit me as soon as I want to. I have been with my long distance boyfriend for almost 4 years now and I think that one reason why we don't get bored in our relationship is that we are looking on the same directions.
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@toniganzon Oh, without a constant communication, I think that even those relationships which are not long distance relationship will not work.
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
@annierose And you do see each often than others do. Plus the fact that we have video calls these days. Can you imagine if you don't have smart phones and the internet and you can't contact each other except through snail mail? That would make a big difference.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@LadyDuck What was the reason you broke up with him? Was it because of the distance?
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@LadyDuck I got it. It is difficult if couple do not share the same interest. I will just do a guest. Maybe he does not love travelling. I know you love to travel too when you were young just like me.
1 person likes this
@LadyDuck (472060)
• Switzerland
20 Jun 17
@annierose No, it was not at all because of the distance, but I realized we had very little in common, not the same interests, we were too different.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@shaynas I agree. Are you in a long distance relationship too?
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
21 Jun 17
@shaynas That's good. Some married person cannot stand the distance when their partner is abroad, so they look for other man or woman to fill the emptiness that they feel.
1 person likes this
@shaynas (5487)
• India
20 Jun 17
@annierose No. I am not. But even if my husband moves out to a new place for a while, i don't feel that will affect our marriage in any way.
1 person likes this
@youless (112583)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Jun 17
I don't want the long distance relationship. It is easy to lead to breakup. Sometimes the situations are more complicated than you expected. It is better for two loves to live together. It is just alright to seperate for a short time.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@youless It is understandable. I think no one would like to be separated from the love of his or her life for such a very long time. It will be too miserable for those people in love.
1 person likes this
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
19 Jun 17
I think I can, but I don't want the distance to be forever. I want to have some timeline and concrete plan that will eventually make us spend the rest of our life together. That's is after all the reason why I would be in a relationship with someone - to spend time with, grow together, and be with each other during the good times and the bad.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@Raine38 I agree with you. I always yearn for happy endings.
@tech40 (23121)
• Philippines
25 Jul 17
@annierose It was totally depends on the couple, I've been in long distance relationship for a year, but it was stopped sudden since we no longer have enough time to continue that relationship, so actually it was totally depends on the 2 person who's engage on the relationship.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
26 Jul 17
@tech40 Hi MrSleepy! It is the first time I see you in here. Nice to meet you. You made a good point in that. Life is so good to waste on relationships that we think will not work out. I am sorry to hear about your experience. I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years now and so far, both of us can manage the distance because we are both busy couple.
1 person likes this
@tech40 (23121)
• Philippines
26 Jul 17
@annierose Wow.. 4 years!! That is so cool! so how's your communication? through text? facebook? skype? hmm
@lillywriter (1143)
• Lithuania
19 Jun 17
Few years I had a meetings with my husband only once a year, he worked in other country. And our marriage perfectly survived.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@lillywriter I believe that love in a long distance relationship can be successful too. I am happy for both of you.
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
24 Jun 17
@shshiju Hi George! Have you been in a long distance relationship?
1 person likes this
@JESSY3236 (20040)
• United States
20 Jun 17
I'm in one. I live in North Carolina and my fiance lives in New Jersey.
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
21 Jun 17
@JESSY3236 HI Jessice! How long have you been in a long distance relationship?
1 person likes this
@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
Some people say long distance relationship doesn't work at all.
But, few says it does as long as there's a constant communication.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@rachz_kisses It works for me. I think that it depends one the personal attitude of a person. Can you stand a long distance relationship?
1 person likes this
@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@annierose Nope. I have trust issues.
1 person likes this
@Alternative4 (449)
•
20 Jun 17
Distance gradually kills every relationship. Only strong people in a strong relationship survive it. The point is to make plans and try to change the situation and really make it just temporary.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@Alternative4 Have you been in a long distance relationship?
@CinnamonGrl (7086)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
19 Jun 17
I don't want a romantic relationship at all anymore, but no, if I sought one it would be someone I could get to know up close and personal. I wouldn't want to find out a lot of secrets and surprises.
1 person likes this
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@CinnamonGrl Thanks for sharing . Yes, we all have our preferences and it is good to know where can we really be happy.
@augusta123 (6649)
•
5 Aug 17
I have been in a long distance relationship and it like any other relationship.
A good relationship whether far or near does not depend on distance. is basically the attitude of the people involved.
the parties just need to be true to themselves and focus on making the relationship work and that is it.