RELATIONSHIP ADVICE NEEDED
By Virtue
@raqchicc (166)
United States
July 2, 2017 3:23pm CST
Hey guys. Wanna hear y'all opinion on this.
I was with some friends of mine, and we were talking about boys as usual, and one of my friends told us she's been seeing another guy apart from the guy that we know as her boyfriend. We were shocked that she was seeing two guys at once considering how serious she was with the first original boyfriend. But she said she fell in love with the second one, and still loves the first one.. in fact she loves both but want to break up with one cos she's tired of dating both, so she asked us what we thought and my other friend simply told her to go with the second one cos if she was truly in love with the first, age wouldn't have fallen for the second.
So what do you guys think?
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8 responses
@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
2 Jul 17
She can love both but she can only have a long term relationship with one. So she has to pick one and shooould do so to avoid hurting both of them
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 17
You friend is playing with the fire. She is going to hurt both the guys. She should take a stand about one guy, whom she wants to date and should clear the position to the other guy.
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@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
2 Jul 17
That's a tough one. I kinda don't like her: she wants to break up with one just because she's tired of dating both? So what if she has enough "energy" to date them both then she will keep seeing them? So what I am gathering is, if she is breaking up with one of them for the wrong reason, then she will keep seeing the one left for the wrong reasons as well. She is not even sorry for what she is doing. I wonder how she would feel if the situation is reversed. Anyway...
I would suggest to pick the second one. Because if she truly loves the first one, then she wouldn't even entertain the second one in the first place. I don't know. Whatever we or you tell her she will end up doing what she wants anyway. I guess all you can do is be there for her as a friend as she learns this lesson when it finally blows up to teach her.
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@Courtlynn (67081)
• United States
2 Jul 17
I 100% agree, if she loved the first she wouldnt have started anything with the second. But. I personally wouldn't get involved.
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@aCUNCUKabroad (42)
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2 Jul 17
In my opinion If she was truly in love with the first she wouldn't have been open too, or met the second one. But if she still feels she is in love with both, then she needs to make a pros and cons list of both. She needs to exam which one matches her now as well as future goals.
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@lenapoo (678)
• United States
3 Jul 17
Honestyly I would say she probably doesn't love either because if she did then she wouldn't be putting herself in the position to choose. I have felt like that before myself and it is a little bit of the fear of being alone so you have a back up plan as well as just living in the moment and realizing that you have options. The real question and situation at hand though is do either of these men love her? She can weigh out the pros and cons and consider which would be the best option for her honestly.
