Tired of being a single mom. What to do.
By mom4life.ph
@Rianne009 (187)
July 15, 2017 1:51pm CST
I am a single mom and my daughter is just 7 years old. I love her and i stand for her no matter what. But recently i change job with much better pay and it tooks me 3 hours of travel due to heavy traffic. So it took me around 6 hours a day to just go to work and get back home.
The actual travel time could only takes 1 1/2 hours only if there is no traffic but it is impossible and will never be happened.
So i told my daughter that i am planning to rent near my workplace and that she will be staying with my parents and i will just go home every week during my off to see her. But she just cried and said that she will not do good with her school if i will not be coming home everyday.
Because she wants me to be home everyday and see me. She is an honor student so i don't want to disappoint her. Now i am tired thinking. I don't know if i just got tired being a single mom or just tired with everything.
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@Rianne009 (187)
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16 Jul 17
Thank you, i am undecided about it and still thinking of the best solution until now. I might stay for the main time because i've been telling her to do better in school then i will go home everyday.
Then last night i saw her studying like she's only seven years old and it is weekend. She supposed to just play. She might just do it to pleased me. So i just hugged her and told her she doesn't need to do it.
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@dodo19 (47315)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Jul 17
@Rianne009 It just shows how much she wants to spend time with you. It's sweet that she was studying, so you guys could spend time together.
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@Rianne009 (187)
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15 Jul 17
That will help me pay for her tuition fee. I enrolled her in an exclusive school. My fault, but i just want to give her a good background when it comes to education.
My parents wanted me to enrol her in a government school but i insisted and i told them that i can afford to pay because of my new job. Those days that i was still excited to work that i couldn't think of the travel time. But after few months i become tired. If i change my job near our home then i don't know of where to get money to pay for her tuition. It's like i need to sacrifice my time again. I always sacrificed things for her. I'm so tired of it really. But i love her.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Jul 17
That is a tough situation. =( I am sure as her mother that you will make the best choice for you and her.
@Rianne009 (187)
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16 Jul 17
Yes very tough. In fact, i couldn't sleep last night. I maybe sleep at around 5am already. I've been thinking of it and it's disturbing me. But looks like i will stay first for the main time. Maybe someday if she already understand then maybe that's the time that i will rent near my work. I still need to sacrifice things for her until she grows up.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
15 Jul 17
I am sorry to hear this, but that's too much of traveling. Take care and hope you make the right decision
@Rianne009 (187)
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15 Jul 17
Thanks, the only problem is the time. Worst traffic that can't be improve. If i only have an airplane then probably it could be easy but i can't afford it hahaha
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
15 Jul 17
You have to do whats best for both of you no matter how she cries..that is crazy travelling all that way but I know you have to or you would not be doing it.
I am sorry to hear all this.
Yes you are only human and can only do so much.
Children can adjust better than we think.
If that is the only way you can work, the only job you can do, then she will be safe with your parents right?
@Rianne009 (187)
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15 Jul 17
Yes, i know she will be fine with my parents and my parents already agree with it. It's just my daughter that shes been crying. Shes also an honor student in her school and when she told me that she will not do good in school if i will leave her with my parents. That really hurts me. Because, i work hard for her so i can send her to good school. But probably she's too young to understand the situation.
She's been telling me also of why do i have to leave her if her father already left us. That hurts more. That's why i couldn't sleep for few days now. Like today might be my off and supposed to sleep to get better rest but i couldn't sleep and it is already 3:34am here.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
15 Jul 17
@Rianne009 Yes that is bad..she says she will not do good if you leave, but you are doing this for her and yes she does not understand.
I feel so bad that she is crying like this to make you feel bad. You go on and do what you feel is best. Kids do this, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
I am sorry. I wish she knew how blessed she is to have both you and grandparents to keep her safe.
Let us know what you decide to do...I am behind you all the way on this.
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@cancergirl (918)
• Beijing, China
16 Jul 17
You are very great my friend,I think you should insist you decision,and have a good talk with you daughter,let her know you difficult ,when she older she will understand you better
@Rianne009 (187)
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16 Jul 17
Thank you, i already talked to her heart to heart but she really can't accept it. Even if she can still see me every week. But she promised me to do more better in school. That's the main reason why i work hard for her.
@cmoneyspinner (9219)
• Austin, Texas
19 Jul 17
You're fortunate you have some family or friends to assist you. There are others who have nobody to help. It's difficult being a single parent. But it's hard on the kid too! The child didn't ask to be born. When you brought them into this world, you took full responsibility for them. That means it's on you until they're of legal age to take care of themselves. It's a lot of tired parents out there. They work long hours but they come home to their kids every day.
@Miria44 (100)
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16 Jul 17
Hey, am not sure if you should do that, please reconsider moving with her and getting an early car pool or if the bus can get there. We always have options.
