A Thief for a Mother – How Dare She Rips Off Her Kids

This is not my mom
@poehere (15123)
French Polynesia
July 27, 2017 11:48am CST
My mom has gone to far this time. I just received notification from my bank in the US that my mom closed my account. When I called the bank they told me that she came in yesterday and requested a cashier’s check to close my account. I am furious to say the least right now. She refuses to answer her phone or even answer my text messages. Years ago I had to open a bank account in the US for my work. But when my father took sick I would help my parents each month. One time I was in the US I thought it would be easier to have her name added to my account. This way all she had to do was write a check for what my dad needed. I never had an issue with this until yesterday. My dad died 5 years ago and she has never touched my account since this time. Yesterday this all changed. I finally was able to talk with my younger brother and he told me that my mom has booked an Alaskan cruise and she leaves in 3 weeks. He wanted to know where she found the money for this. Well guess what? Now he knows she emptied my account to fund her Alaskan cruise. After my father died I knew she had lost her mind. She immediately sold the house that belonged to my grandmother and me. Afterwards, she bought a house that has been nothing but trouble. She has poured all the assets into this house and is screaming for more. Before my grandmother died she transferred the two houses to my mom and dad. It was written in the transfer papers that one of the houses was mine. However, the two houses sit on the same lot and were sold together. The first major mistake my mom made was to tell me that they were hers and I didn’t get anything from the sale of the houses. I can no longer support this woman. In the last five years the things she has done would fill up 10 novels. I have tried to be understanding and forgive her for her bad decisions in life. I had always known it was my dad who kept her in line. But after this there is no forgiving her and now it is time to disown this woman I use to call my mom. How can a mom steal from her kids? She thinks we were born to take care of her and to fund her vacations and give her money. My dad left her well off and she doesn’t need more each month to live on. She has more than enough to live on and have a good life. I know how much she has because I had to file all the papers for her. I think that an income of 4000 + US dollars per month is more than ample for a single elderly woman to live on. Most people don’t have anywhere near this to live on each month. I am not sure I can do much about this according to a few attorneys I have talked with. I did add her name to the account and in the end it is my fault I didn’t have it removed when my dad died. There was just too much going on and too much to do when I was there after he died. In my eyes she died at the same time my dad did. I no longer have a mother and will not forgive her again. She has gone too far this time and now there is no turning back. Picture credit - purchased - personal clip art image
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@marguicha (223825)
• Chile
27 Jul 17
If you had a joint account, there´s not much you can do now, except by opening a new account only in your name. As for the houses, I don´t know. It would depend on the transfer papers although there, if it is done, you cannot do much either. Do what you can for the future.
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@DianneN (247184)
• United States
27 Jul 17
I can't even begin to imagine how your mother can steal from her children. It boggles my mind. Based on the information you provided, she may not be mentally balanced, even when your dad was alive. Btw, welcome back!
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
I think she is mentally balanced. She has a new group of older women she is hanging out with. They do a lot of traveling and she wants to join in. Recently she purchased a brand new car so one of these women could drive her around in it. I questioned her decision on this one but my two brothers said leave it be. Now this and I am about ready to have her committed to a hospital and have her checked out. I can't support this any longer and I am done with her. Hope she has a good life because if she ever contacts me again I won't be there to help her.
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@DianneN (247184)
• United States
27 Jul 17
@poehere If she's mentally balanced, then $4000 a month US is not enough to keep her in the lifestyle she sees herself living. What a shame for her.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
@DianneN I have to agree with you on this one. Considering she purchased this new home outright and owes nothing on it at all. That is why I can't see why she needs more each month to live on. Her bills are very low and there is no need to waste all this money each month.
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@jstory07 (139996)
• Roseburg, Oregon
27 Jul 17
I do not see how a mother could steal from her own children and feel good about herself. That is just wrong.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
Oh tell me about it. Furthermore, closing out my account has caused me many problems. That account received monthly deposits in it and now my company is after me to open another account. Problem being I am here in Tahiti and I can't do this online. I have talked with the bank and have papers to fill out and send back to them. But this all takes time and my deposits will be on hold until the mess is fixed.
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@jstory07 (139996)
• Roseburg, Oregon
27 Jul 17
@poehere Make sure your mothers name is not on anything ever again.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
@jstory07 No this was the only thing I had her name on that was mine. All the rest of my affairs in the US are in my daughter's name. I should of put my daughter's name on the account instead of her. But it was for my dad and she had never done anything like this before. Even when my dad was alive she never took money from that account unless I told her to and how much to take.
@RasmaSandra (80812)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
27 Jul 17
you have rendered me speechless. How awful. Yes definitely loose all ties with this woman. I just wish there was a way for you to get your money back. Blessings to you.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
28 Jul 17
That is my plan. I don't want to ever see her or speak with her again. She has done some awful things to me in the past but this goes beyond awful.
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
27 Jul 17
You have your reasons of not forgiving her this time, you have been so understanding, just sad that things happen in the way we don't want to be
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
Yes, this time I have a good erason to never forgive her for what she did. If she really wanted to go on a cruise all she had to do was ask. She didn't have to rip off my retirement account and take all my money that was in it.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Jul 17
That is terrible. I can not even imagine a mother doing that to their child. She should be able to live quite well on what she is making each month.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
29 Jul 17
Reminds me of my Aunt. She used to put all bills in everyone else's name including my Mom and sister. She even maxed out my mom's credit card and my mom still wanted her around. Makes no sense when relatives are like this. Maybe your Mom has spent the other is why she had to touch this?
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
29 Jul 17
No not at all. She feels like we should give her all we have so she can take giant wonderful vacations. She does not care about us and how we will live once she is gone.
@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
27 Jul 17
There is a saying that hindsight is 20-20. You possibly even suspected her of being capable of this. but she had not touched it in years so it was easy to forget. You do not owe her anything further, that is for sure.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
You are right. She never took out of the account when my dad was alive and she never touched it again in the last 5 years. My mistake to think that she was a decent person. Now I know what type of a person she really is and I don't want anything to do with her ever again.
@celticeagle (168367)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jul 17
I thought you had gotten to place where she was low key. Sorry to hear of this. Yah,noting legally you can do. I'd wrack my brain and be sure nothing else has her name on it. Look toward the future.
@celticeagle (168367)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jul 17
@poehere ......Thank goodness. Too bad you can't call the cruise line, pretend to be her and get a refund. He he.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
@celticeagle That would be fun, but I have no idea where she booked her cruise/
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
Yes, me too. I had thought she was calm now and happy. But looks like I was wrong. No there is nothing else at all with her name on it.
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• Eugene, Oregon
10 Aug 17
So sorry to hear this. That part about "written in the transfer papers" caught my eye. If that is true, you would have had to sign off on any transaction about the property. I worked in title insurance in California. This makes me wonder if your signature was somehow forged.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
10 Aug 17
I am still not sure how she sold the house without my signature. She did and this makes me angry right now. I am going to go to see my daughter soon and will contact a lawyer about all this mess. I need to stop her and fix all the damage she has caused so far.
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
28 Jul 17
OMG @poehere , how awful. $4,000 a month? I should be so lucky; I make 1/4 of that. I don't blame you one bit for being maddern' hell; I would be too.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
28 Jul 17
She was never really a mother to me at all. Over the years she has done some awful things. But, this is the worst. I can't go back and say it is OK. This time I have to cut all ties with her and just go forward.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
29 Jul 17
@nanette64 I have sort of an adopted mom who I love and adore. She is the same as your mom. I truly wish that she was my mom when I was growing up and had to put up with the mother I have.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
29 Jul 17
@poehere It's one thing if it's a cousin or nephew but for it to be your own Mom? How truly sad. I wish you could have met my Mom; she would have given the shirt off her back for you.
@thelme55 (77164)
• Germany
28 Jul 17
OMG! How can she did that. The only thing you can do now is open a new bank account. Trust is being abused by your mother. Maybe there's a new man behind this act?
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
29 Jul 17
@thelme55 Right now I am so mad at my mom, I hope this woman uses her for all she can. She deserves it after what she did to me.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
28 Jul 17
No there is no new men in her life. However, there is some women that has just moved in to her home. I think she claimed it was to help her out when she was sick. I think it is her behind all of this.
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@thelme55 (77164)
• Germany
29 Jul 17
@poehere oh I see. I hope this woman is not abusing and using your mother financially. That would be so bad. Well, you know Karma is just in the corner of our lives.
@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
28 Jul 17
Wow, I am so so sorry what she did to you. I hope where you live now you have your own bank accounts with no name on it. I remember when I was married and the marriage was bad I tried to make sure he could not get into my bank accounts and he found out from someone that I opened a bank account somewhere else. It is terrible when that happens. Your own mother. How could she do that to you and also not give you anything from the sales. How greedy she is.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
29 Jul 17
She is very greedy and believes that she had children to support and take care of her.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
30 Jul 17
@Hannihar Thank you so much.
@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
30 Jul 17
@poehere Ann, I am so so sorry what you are going through from far away. Believe me I understand that but not with a mother.
@fly802 (1383)
21 Aug 17
This is unexpected.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
22 Aug 17
She still is trying her best to get into my investment account. I am lucky her name is not on anything else of mine.
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@fly802 (1383)
22 Aug 17
@poehere Please be careful.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
22 Aug 17
@fly802 I am. I have everything protected now and she can't find anything about me or get into any of my accounts. She has no legal right to do this now.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Jul 17
I am so sorry! Your mom has double the amount of money my family of 7 has each month!! That's crazy, she should not need more than that and she definitely should NOT have stolen from you! That is awful.
@Tampa_girl7 (50541)
• United States
28 Jul 17
So sorry that this happened to you. Could she have some form of dementia ?
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
29 Jul 17
No she is just greedy and wants to live out of her means. I am sure if she saved up for a few months she could of done this one her own.
@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
27 Jul 17
Sorry to hear about what she did. On the other hand she is still the only mother you have and it hurts to hear mothers and daughters at odds. Have you talked to her and told her how you feel and ask her to pay it back? But as you say it is an ongoing problem and you need to protect yourself and your heart
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
She will not answer the phone or any text message I have sent to her. She doesn't want to speak with me at all. So now all I can do is go on and forget about her.
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@andriaperry (117146)
• Anniston, Alabama
27 Jul 17
I am sorry to hear this, its not a good situation. And yes 4,000 a month is a nice living.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
She is single, owns the new home she purchased outright, and has no need to do this. Except she is greedy and wants all her kids have and more.
@skydream (1445)
• Agate, Colorado
27 Jul 17
That's so horrible that your mom would do that! Especially when she's getting 4000 a month that's more than enough for someone to live off of. Even if she didn't get that and was struggling it's not right to steal from your child like that. I'm sorry you're going through that.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Jul 17
Thank you so much. I have to agree it is not right to steal from your children. I would never do that to her.
@Ligxie (25)
28 Jul 17
This is really scary, mothers usually starve, just for their children to feed and live fine. A mother stealing from her child is strange. I can imagine how heartbroken you'll be. I wish you can just go do something that'll teach her a big lesson, like sell her house or steal all your money right back. So sorry about this.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
28 Jul 17
I think right now it is best I just forget I ever had a mother. I now pretend I was adopted and I lived with the wicket witch of the eat when I was growing up.