Dreams and Realities
By SirenOnFire
@JeeyanDee (2692)
July 30, 2017 8:32am CST
When we were younger, we had so much hopes and dreams for the future without thinking of the hardships we have to go through just to get them. As we grow up, we get to realize more and more that things are not as easy as we have expected them to be. Being a doctor means burning the midnight oil, sacrificing sleep for better grades, studying tons and tons of books and many more. The saddest part for little girls, not everyone can be a princess and marry a prince. How aweful is it sometimes to see the hope in a child's eyes to slowly fade away as he or she come to see and realize what the real world is all about.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
30 Jul 17
So true @JeeyanDee . The world of today is a cruel place and it doesn't take long for reality to set in.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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30 Jul 17
And it's hard to stay true to yourself and others with all the pretense and negativities surrounding you
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
30 Jul 17
@JeeyanDee It's hard to be out-going but cautious at the same time.
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@jobelbojel (36021)
• Philippines
30 Jul 17
Big dreams mean more work to do. And it takes a lot of courage and never-giving-up attitude.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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30 Jul 17
The thing about society today is that it makes us think that what we do and what we are just aren't good enough. It's always strive harder, be better. Plus, it seems like giving compliments nowadays is just too hard to most of us, even to parents for their chidlren. Its should never be like that. They re supposed to be their number 1 supporter and protector.
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@TheHorse (220082)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Aug 17
I enjoy being around littlies, for whom life is fun and the future is a world of possibilities. The key for me is helping make those possibilities really possible. Most of us won't be princesses and firemen, but we can be neurologists and architects.
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@TheHorse (220082)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Aug 17
@JeeyanDee I've worked with some kids whose dreams are squashed by their own parents. It can be frustrating.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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21 Aug 17
@TheHorse I know some too. Maybe because some of them believe that they know better than their kids, and so by forcing them in taking a different path, dreams are indeed broken.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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20 Aug 17
True, but what we must teach children is to never give up, keep going and fight no matter how hard the hurdles and obstacles they have in reaching their dreams. There are also many ways in reaching their goals ,so if one doesn't work, use another.
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@hydraa (806)
• Mumbai, India
30 Jul 17
I think that is where the fun part comes. If it was easy, it wouldn't have been fun. Also, people have a tendency to take things granted if they got it easily. It is through hardship and efforts that we realize the value of everything. And I personally feel that hardship is important because we learn from it and evolve.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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30 Jul 17
Yes! That is exacly what I mean. It is all a matter of perception though. Not everyone thinks of hardships that way. Instead of seeing their errors or push themselves to be better, they blame everyone else, leading of course for them to be more miserable or worse than before.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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9 Aug 17
@Farcha Well I am happy that this issue interests you and you got my point. When you blame people instead of acknowledging that you lack something, then that's where the journey of failure starts. To succeed, I believe you have to learn from previous mistakes, take it into heart and consider those when making certain decisions.
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@Farcha (677)
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9 Aug 17
@JeeyanDee I guess about blaming that it is a good habit, takes us to another side, being irresponsible, just blaming others for our failure. It is a kind of escaping from the reality. That's we call we are not sel-confident, we escape from barriers and make others guilty, responsible of our failure and our sadness. Dreams to achieve should be in a serious scheme, even if we have failed don't blame someone. Searching for the reasons and correct the mistakes. I am sorry for making redundant, but I find this issue more exciting and ideas come easily.
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@TheHorse (220082)
• Walnut Creek, California
21 Aug 17
@JeeyanDee Yes, we learn from our mistakes.
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@Prshnth (907)
• Bangalore, India
31 Jul 17
@JeeyanDee yeah man..that's the way to go
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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31 Jul 17
It would wither make you or break you. Like what my father has repeatedly told me when I was younger, it does not matter how many times you fall, what matters is the number if times you stood up and fought.
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@Farcha (677)
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8 Aug 17
Unfortunately, there is always a big difference between dreams and reality. A child has a large imagination because he has no obstacle, he is childish, innocent, and spontaneous. The shock is when we don't reach this dream which is plotted in our mind. That's the question, thoughts/ideas in mind were reasonable, or we cannot achieve them, or we have no willingness and patience and perseverance. dreams are like a candle we should be aware of them so as to not be turned off/switched off.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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9 Aug 17
The hardships that we face as we journey through life to achieve our dreams, should not and must not cause us to lose hope but rather, make us stronger and firmer. Unfortunately, this is not what's happening for most of us.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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9 Aug 17
@Farcha Not everyone takes hardships that way though. That is the reason why I said that it's all a matter of perception. Success too is a matter of perception. Some believe that in order to be called successful, you have to be wealthy while others think otherwise.
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@Farcha (677)
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9 Aug 17
@JeeyanDee It is said that more we face barriers, hardships, we become more able to accept bad and good side of life. So, can we acquire immunity to these shocking hardship? Or to be lost, we can accept it, afraid to face it, we have no energy to get rid of it.
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@vandana7 (100533)
• India
21 Aug 17
A deep question...not easy to answer. But here is my take. A child's vocabulary and understanding is limited. A child is unlikely to understand the words that come with serious stuff like crimes, betrayal, rapes, molestation, partly because the body is yet to develop and feel much of that and partly because even if we told the child they will forget it...the memory cells are still developing just like the rest of the child. So there is plenty of rehash going on. I believe the stories that we tell soon get into that rehash and are reworked, so even though we tell them about prince and princess, that rehashing process that cells of their body are doing pretty much mixes it up with periodic reality and that softens the blow. Same is true for other things such as being a doctor or whatever. :) So we are not really hurting a child with that unless we tell the child that she is a princess and she should be living like one, and treat her like one. We just tell her about others ...what is told to the child for permanent retention gets imprinted more permanently sort of. That is where we need to exercise caution.
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@vandana7 (100533)
• India
22 Aug 17
@JeeyanDee .. I believe that all harms that come to us will be compensated, if not in this life, in the next. Same thing as all harms that I do, will be punished if not in this life, in next life. Some will get nullified because of past, and some will be nullified because of present..for example somebody cleverly hurts me, and when I retaliate, pretends that the intention to hurt was not there. I won't be punished for that and they would have received the pain that came their way through me.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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22 Aug 17
What I was actually pointing out is if only the world is the same as the child's reality, like if you do good, you'll be rewarded, if you do bad, then you'll get punished. The reality is nothing like that. Many good people are harmed, many bad people are patronized. As a child, I believed in humanity and the world so much and as I grew up, I realized that evil is real in the world and it's not under my bed nor inside my closet. If only all of us can be as pure and innocent as a child, I really believe the world could be a better place. It's because us adults have so much stuff pulling us down and many baggages on our shoulders that make our life so difficult and make us easily give up. Plus our tendency of looking at a half empty cup rather than a half full one. It's not about us hurting the child, it's about how reality could hurt a child.
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