My Stepdaughter is Now on Facebook...I Don't Know if That's a Good Thing

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Today when I logged onto Facebook, the first thing I saw was my stepdaughter's face staring back at me as "someone you may know." I guess her aunt and uncle must have decided that now that she's in high school, she's old enough to be on social media. I don't know how I feel about this honestly. I don't really like it when underage kids are on Facebook and I typically won't add them. I used to add underage relatives but now I don't. Had too many issues with 11-year-olds mouthing off to me because they don't agree with stuff I post or because my religious or political views weren't the same as theirs. I won't tolerate that crap from adults, never mind from a snot-nosed kid. And all of the underage family members I had added liked to act too big for their britches once they got online. I remember one of my boyfriend's younger cousins cussed me out for not being a Christian once (what a Christian thing to do!) so he got deleted. Too many kids don't have respect for adults on social media. (Too many people don't have respect for each other on social media, for that matter.) Not that I'm saying my stepdaughter would do that, but it does make me uncomfortable knowing that if I add her that she could see things in her newsfeed that I wouldn't necessarily want her to see. I have a lot of raunchy friends and I already have to ignore a lot of posts I would normally respond to because of the way Facebook is now. I don't like it when something I commented on shows up in everybody else's newsfeed. I'm sure Great Aunt Betty loves seeing the naughty joke my friend posted because I happened to laugh at it. I know there's ways to limit what other people can see, but I'm not sure how reliable that is because my mom apparently sees EVERYTHING. I am forever getting confronted by her over things my friends post because I liked it or commented on it and she saw it. So I'm not really comfortable knowing that if my stepdaughter gets added to my friends list, she could see these things. I also don't like having to censor myself because now there's a kid in the mix. And I don't know how wise it is to even let teenagers use social media, since so many of them abuse it. She has disabilities and that could make her a target for bullying. I'm sure her aunt and uncle probably took all of this into consideration and decided she was responsible enough to handle it, but it still makes me uncomfortable. Not that what I think matters. So now I'm in the weird position of not knowing whether I should send her a friend request or wait and see if she sends me one. She hasn't sent one to her father yet either, but she is already friends with her aunt and uncle. It will upset both of us if we see she's friends with other family members without adding us. She has added a bunch of other adults in her social circle, and it is a bit hurtful wondering why her dad and I aren't among them. Even though I don't know if I even want to be Facebook friends with her to begin with. Sigh. Remember the old days when things like this weren't ever a problem? All social media does is complicate family relationships. I wish underage kids would stay off it.