Do anxious people make you anxious?
By The Horse
@TheHorse (220872)
Walnut Creek, California
August 8, 2017 4:05pm CST
I tend to be a pretty "chill" person. Things don't bother me much that might bother others, like angry customers at a store, Taco Bell workers that can't count to 100, and poopy diapers.
The only thing that makes me want to take out my flamethrower is texting drivers. Well, that and people who talk but don't listen. And people with entitlement issues. And people who can't lose an argument gracefully. And bossy coworkers. But other than that, hardly anything.
Anyway, today, I got an email from our band "leader," the lady who sings Sugar Moon, which some of you have heard. She wants us to commit to gig dates she has scheduled out to a year from now. She has an anxiety disorder and compensates by being a control freak.
I don't even know exactly what I'm doing next week, much less a year from to now! I have unpredictable clients, sick relatives, vacation time I need to use, etc. Upon reading her email, my mood went from chill/productive to slightly anxious. I'll still get stuff done (already printed out the syllabus for my class and turned in six progress notes), but after reading her email, I'm feeling grumpy and slightly anxious, rather than chill and focused.
Do anxious and/or controlling people make you anxious? Or can you be "Zen cat" all the time? I'm working on it, but I'm not there yet
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17 responses
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 17
I have depression and schizophrenia, so when it strikes, I will get anxious. I do get anxious when people with anxiety speak to me or do something with me. So it is double anxiety for me.
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@celticeagle (168932)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Aug 17
Try dealing with a bi-polar person with a learning disability. Anxious people make me anxious. I am stress and anxiety ridden at that point. A "zen cat" not very often. Severe depression with anxiety attacks is my diagnosis.
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@celticeagle (168932)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Aug 17
@TheHorse .......No, it isn't. Not controlled. More over run.
@andriaperry (117302)
• Anniston, Alabama
9 Aug 17
I only get anxious when I have to learn new tech but I wont let it show. I am pretty much a chill person too.
Now why not make a schedule of the playing dates? I used to book this one band dates all the time so they could get those dates off to play. To me its just part of business.
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@Letranknight2015 (52171)
• Philippines
9 Aug 17
I never had the experience but it happens to me I might get anxious myself or paranoid. Because I don't know how to deal with that kind of person.
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@Butchcass4 (5895)
• United States
9 Aug 17
I have adult children who are very nervous, loud and abnocious at times. Like last Friday we got together for a few hours and they were being nervous, loud and edgy. But I was prepared by praying beforehand and reading God's Word. I was able to stay calm. But I can take only so much. I have other family members who are like my son and daughter and I just have to be prepared to be around them. Lots of drama and energy. So you're not alone my friend.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
9 Aug 17
Yes, people like that who want to know right now bother me a bit. I don't like planning that far ahead, something always happens.
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@Marilynda1225 (83234)
• United States
9 Aug 17
I try to be "chill" and like to be organized but I would probably get anxious if someone wanted to plan something for me for a year from now. I don't blame you for being anxious after getting that email. Care to share that flamethrower?
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@teamfreak16 (43418)
• Denver, Colorado
9 Aug 17
My anxiety is off the charts. So yeah, being around someone else with anxiety kind of makes it worse.
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@teamfreak16 (43418)
• Denver, Colorado
9 Aug 17
@TheHorse - Oh yes, it's definitely better after a ride.
@ANAYAtair (128)
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9 Aug 17
Depends on the heights of anxiousness he or she influences on me!
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@much2say (56522)
• Los Angeles, California
9 Aug 17
People think I'm a cool cat - but I'm definitely not exactly chill on the inside (ask my Hubby 
). Anxious/controlling people can make me anxious though I won't show them that . . . I've learned to make come backs to those kinda people (but it doesn't always work). Yah, making a commitment to dates that far in advance is too difficult for anyone!
). Anxious/controlling people can make me anxious though I won't show them that . . . I've learned to make come backs to those kinda people (but it doesn't always work). Yah, making a commitment to dates that far in advance is too difficult for anyone!
