When you went on a date for the first time, what did you pay the most attention to?

@sol_cee (38219)
Philippines
August 8, 2017 11:00pm CST
My friend, after a catastrophic heartbreak, is getting back into the dating scene. I’m actually excited for her but no pressure at all. She is starting to open up her heart and that’s what matters. Though I can’t help but reminisce the time when I used to date. It was fun and dating (I think) has a few perks. No two dates were ever alike yet I always paid attention to one particular thing. If he talked down about his friends or anybody else, it certainly was a no for me. How about you? When you went on a date for the first time, what did you pay the most attention to? (Though I’d also want to ask those who are dating and those who have plans to go on a date.) Photo is from Google.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
9 Aug 17
I would watch how he treats the waiter/ waitress.
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@YrNemo (20255)
9 Aug 17
This could be very misleading. I know someone who always seems to be generous to waiter/waitress, but out of the public eyes, he is stingy & mean as anything.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
17 Aug 17
@YrNemo Great pretender!
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@LadyDuck (471482)
• Switzerland
9 Aug 17
I paid attention to his manners and what the talked about. If it was sport, friends and his Mom it was a big NO for me.
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@LadyDuck (471482)
• Switzerland
9 Aug 17
@sol_cee Exactly! Stay away from them, their Mom would always be the best cook, the best housewife, the best everything.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
10 Aug 17
@LadyDuck stiff competition which I don't need! haha
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
9 Aug 17
Mama's boy! hahaha
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Aug 17
I take notice if he keeps looking and talking with me.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
11 Aug 17
@sol_cee Then he isn't interested. Why should I too?
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
10 Aug 17
And if he doesn't?
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
12 Aug 17
@SIMPLYD fair enough! :)
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@antonbunot (11093)
• Calgary, Alberta
16 Aug 17
Well, my first date was when I was 16. I was still studying in the seminary and it was summer vacation. I was introduced by a friend to a pretty lady, also a 16-year-old. I invited her to see a movie with me. She agreed (without thinking) coz who would say no to a goodlooking, saintly seminarian (ahem). So, with not much ado, we ended up in the balcony of our one and only moviehouse in our town. Anyway, our first date was just eating peanuts and hopia, drinking pop, giggling, and nothing more exciting than those. . . I wanted to kiss her but I got butterflies. . .
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@antonbunot (11093)
• Calgary, Alberta
17 Aug 17
@sol_cee Her pretty face!
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
17 Aug 17
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
17 Aug 17
SO what did you pay the most attention to, saintly devil? ;)
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
9 Aug 17
I paid attention to his honesty and sincerity. I think that's what's important.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
12 Aug 17
True.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
12 Aug 17
@PaigeMay (58)
• Jacksonville, Florida
9 Aug 17
When I go on a first date with someone I always pay attention to their body language. You can tell right away if they are hiding something, if they are nervous, or if they are into you. I also pay attention to their manners. You can learn a lot about someone just from their body language and actions.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
16 Aug 17
I first look at their hands .. If their hands are same size or smaller than mine, we are definitely not compatible ..
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
17 Aug 17
Not the feet? haha
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@jobelbojel (35648)
• Philippines
10 Aug 17
I pay attention to how my date eats.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
11 Aug 17
@Genipher gross! Haha
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
10 Aug 17
Gosh! Should she eat like a mouse? Or gobble everything? haha
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@Genipher (5405)
• United States
10 Aug 17
@sol_cee Or chew with her mouth shut? Mouth open would be a deal-breaker!
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
11 Aug 17
Same thing, Sol, I listen to how he talks about his friends and family. If he is kind and respectful. But I haven't dated in a while, much to busy. :)
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
12 Aug 17
@sol_cee if I go out it is with a group of female friends and then I am either taking care of my Mom or working, so yes, no time to date.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
12 Aug 17
Always turning down guys Cath-san?
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
17 Aug 17
@bluesa Shall I call in the guys in myLot? ;)
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
9 Aug 17
Your criteria for judging is best! You can tell what kind of a person he is.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
17 Aug 17
Thank you. How about yours?
@Genipher (5405)
• United States
10 Aug 17
My husband says he was looking for a certain je ne sais quoi. After he said it I realized that's exactly what I was trying to express. I kept trying to remember what, exactly, I was looking for on our first date, but I couldn't name "it".
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
11 Aug 17
Yours is a lovely love story. :)
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Aug 17
I don't like dates before because it makes me feel awkward. But the ex-made it very extra special. He dated me to a fancy restaurant somewhere in the city with my favorite flowers and a card on my birthday.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
10 Aug 17
Effort! haha
@YrNemo (20255)
9 Aug 17
It could be terribly misleading, this first date business. However, I had a habit of checking to see if the guy had shifty eyes or not, and if he was acting a bit girly.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
10 Aug 17
Shifty eyes.. hmm..
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@dollaboy (6048)
9 Aug 17
Clothes and Body Language are most important
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@Genipher (5405)
• United States
10 Aug 17
A date should definitely be wearing clothes!
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@dollaboy (6048)
11 Aug 17
@Genipher HAHA, yeah Genipher
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
17 Aug 17
@dollaboy what kind of clothes?
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
10 Aug 17
Hygiene!
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
19 Aug 17
my first date? it was funny. don't ask, but it was.
@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
10 Aug 17
I am married, but when I dated (years back) if he spoke badly about others, this was probably an arrogant man. They are harsh individuals, to say the least.
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
6 Sep 17
Dating wasn't around in the small town where I grew up...It's a culture thing I guess. Scenario must have changed now.