I tried but now I give up
By Cait Tallon
@skydream (1445)
Agate, Colorado
August 18, 2017 4:47pm CST
I've posted before how a best friend and I got in a fight and stopped being friends. Well I saw her posting really depressing things like wanting to die so I asked a mutual friend if she was okay, which apparently pissed her off but I don't get why.
Anyway I wrote her myself over a month ago apologizing for my part in the fight things like that, after a month i get a response. It was basically saying how I was messed up and lets put the past behind us but kept throwing what I did in my face, though she messed up too in a big way. Then get told I have to prove myself, and she doesn't care about me. At this time I was trying to grin and bear it because we were best friends for so long, tattoo and everything.
Well after asking friends for advice and hearing my boyfriend say that when we weren't friends I wasn't stressed at all and now I am and seeing how my other friends treat me and talk to me when we have an issue I decided that it's best to cut ties. I tried and felt like I let someone I care about put me down just to try to save a friendship.
I'm hoping now that I decided we won't be friends any longer that my stress level disappears. My next goal is to head to the tattoo shop and get this fixed.
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9 responses
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
18 Aug 17
You probably did the right thing Cait.
Listen, I had a friend for 30 yrs and she was a big drain on me and when I finally cut ties, I felt so much better in myself. You just have the good times for memories is all.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
18 Aug 17
@skydream I think you did my friend..life is so short..you are young, and better to not waste time with someone that you cannot help. I know it is sad, but bless you.
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@skydream (1445)
• Agate, Colorado
19 Aug 17
@TiarasOceanView So true. We don't know how long life is and it's better to spend it with people who treat you good, thanks
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
18 Aug 17
I'm very sorry. Yes, it sounds that it's best to cut ties. As her message wasn't an apology or anything nice that someone who wants to be friends would write. I am sorry you lost a once bestfriend, i know how that feels. And i hope you can be at peaslce with it now.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
19 Aug 17
@skydream cause you don't.
Almost anything can be fixed, with friends. If both parties really want to fix it and then try again. The friendship just will never be the same again.
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@skydream (1445)
• Agate, Colorado
19 Aug 17
@Courtlynn Exactly. And certain things she did I wouldn't have forgiven other friends for but oh well.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
18 Aug 17
At times when friends become nuisance; when they are abusing the friendship, it is best to cut the ties and find more good friends.
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@skydream (1445)
• Agate, Colorado
18 Aug 17
That's true. I think memories keep us holding on longer than we should
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
19 Aug 17
You did the right thing by cutting ties. You tried to apologize and in return she tried to make you feel like it was all your fault by putting you down. Friends don't do that. Your don't need friends like that.
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@tammys85 (30065)
• Baltimore, Maryland
25 Aug 17
I didn't know she got mad at you for showing concern. Who does that? I'm sorry it wound up like this, but I think you did what's best for you. If she wants to leave things in the past, then she shouldn't keep throwing the past in your face. And it still baffles me how she can tell you that she doesn't care, but yet she wants you to "prove yourself" to her. -Smh- You're a good person, Cait, and maybe one day she'll realize that she lost a great friend.
