Jealousy

August 18, 2017 6:35pm CST
I'm really such a jealous person and I don't know why. Not jealous of other people- I'm jealous when I'm in a relationship and that's why I tend to never start relationships because I'm aware of how I am. I wanna know what makes everyone else jealous. I get jealous over things that I know are stupid and trivial but to me, they're just HUGE things to be jealous over. Then again, I also felt jealous about certain partners because they had a flirtatious history and I'm a person who separates friends, one night stands/lovers, and coworkers. To me, a lot of the times things didn't work out because I would be so jealous of my partner talking to someone they used to have sex with even if it was just casual conversation. I mean, there's always that "what-if" in the back of my mind: "What if they rekindle feelings?" "They did it once so they sure as hell can do it again." And several times my suspicions were correct. It's left a huge gash in my trusting department. I just have a lot of trust issues. I'm not really looking for comfort or to be bashed, but you're free to do so. I just wanna know what makes other people jealous, even if it isn't relationship-based.
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
19 Aug 17
When you really love someone it's hard not to be jealous. It's not a matter to trust or not, you are jealous because the time he speaks to the others is not time he spends with you. I understand you so well.
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
20 Aug 17
@happybeann I think that what you feel is a normal sentiment for someone who is in love, but men most of the time cannot understand (or they do not want to).
@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
19 Aug 17
You have a point.
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20 Aug 17
Thanks, you're right. I hate that he talks to other people when he could be talking to me. Like hello? I'm right here :(
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@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
19 Aug 17
We're the same .I'm a jealousy wife. To my husband. But I trust my husband so much. But I don't know why I'm jealous if my husband put like of some photo of girl his friend on his Facebook account.. But that's only like. But I think because I really love him so much. But I think so much jelousy is not good in relationship.
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@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
19 Aug 17
@Paige32 I'm always asking to myself why my husband need to like those pic on his Facebook account
@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
19 Aug 17
@Paige32 no his not used other pic to make his profile. He only like the pic of the other girl. His profile pic is our pic. So I love it that way
@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
19 Aug 17
@Paige32 you right ma'am,
@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
21 Aug 17
I'm not really a jealous person. I don't mind my partner being friends with the ex or other girls as long as I don't see or feel anything off. Usually when I feel a hint of jealousy, I tell my partner. Usually if the explanation is okay, I let it go.I think the only time I do get jealous is if I see the girl trying to catch his attention (we can sense that, right?) and he doesn't see anything wrong with it. I still try to explain though but sometimes... guys aren't as sensitive to stuff like that. My partner had an ex who moved to a different part of the country and then she came back and visited. She went and asked him (of all people - and of all the friends they have in this area) if he could drop her off at the airport. Since my partner didn't think of it as being an issue, he said okay. When she followed up through text, I was the one who saw it (partner asked me to see who texted). Needless to say, I was pissed. One, with him not telling me she was around and two, him saying yes to that without even asking me. I mean, I let him do his business but I don't think it would be ok to be seen with his ex alone in the car going off to who knows where. Am pretty sure she'd have asked him to eat somewhere since he'd be dropping her off. Girl has not moved on from the ex and when he replied to her saying that he wouldn't be able to drop her off at the airport because he would be with me, her disappointment was posted on FB. (Insert eye rolls here). But yeah, I guess a little jealousy is okay but it wouldn't be fair with your partner if you are jealous for no reason at all or are constantly suspicious of him even if he has not done anything to deserve it. Relax that hold a little and I am sure that he will love you all the more for it.
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26 Aug 17
Ouuuu, I would be flaming if my partner took his ex to an airport. She can ask SOMEONE ELSE. I'm glad that your partner accommodated and was understanding of your feelings. I guess I'm insecure about my partner because he used to be a flirt right up until the time we started dating and no one can possibly change their habits in the blink of an eye. Thank you for your feedback.
@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
19 Aug 17
It ruins our good deeds you know! we should avoid jealousy
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19 Aug 17
I try to avoid jealousy but everything just makes me so angry and suspicious of my partners. GAH, I wish I weren't this way sometimes.
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@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
19 Aug 17
Yes you correct ma'am, because jealousy sometimes cause of fighting of couple
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@mohit459 (12565)
• Haldwani, India
20 Aug 17
Ya everyone gets jealous when the saw their love with other!!
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@mohit459 (12565)
• Haldwani, India
21 Aug 17
20 Aug 17
Yeah, I guess it's a common thing.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
19 Aug 17
Loving someone could make yourself into a jealous partner that goes crazy over trivial matters. However this is not a good sign to a relationship. Jealous over other people success or happiness is common but it will lead you deeper into failure. Instead, learn what is their secret.
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20 Aug 17
I'm not jealous if they succeed or if they're happy. I get jealous when they interact with other females. I am quite happy for their successes and I support them during failures so no harm there ^_^
@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
19 Aug 17
Jealous is feeling that affecting you when you see or thought that your love one is talking or with other person. If its too much maybe the proper proffesional can help you.
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20 Aug 17
Maybe. I think I'd usually just end the relationship though.
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