Have you every had a friend in an abusive relationship and did not know what to do?
By Miya Ford
@miyaford (295)
Nashville, Tennessee
August 19, 2017 4:42am CST
One of my close friends is in an abusive relationship and I constantly let her know that if she wants to leave him she can come stay with me for a while until she can get back on her feet. I know that I cannot make her leave him but I keep wondering what is making her stay. She takes care of him financially and he just misuse and abuse her constantly. I hope when she gets tired she stands her ground and really leave him but I just hope it's not too late.
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@angelmels (541)
• Australia
19 Aug 17
Sometimes when we keep on telling our friend, it doesn't get into their head. She will eventually understand it when she gets sick and tired of how she is being treated. So what we can do is to just be by their side and support her at the moment and hope that one day she will come to her senses.
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@angelmels (541)
• Australia
19 Aug 17
@miyaford I was once in an abusive relationship so I can relate. It took me 4 years to finally wake up.
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
19 Aug 17
Letting her know help is available is a good thing. Ultimately she must make the decision herself.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
19 Aug 17
I suddenly remember my friend. She was physically abused by her husband but she never told me at all. I find bruises in her arms but she never said anything about that. I knew she wanted to keep it to herself and she wouldn't like it if I pry. So I just let her feel that I was there for her no matter what. Then they moved to Canada and the moment they arrived, he found another woman and left her.
Now she's doing good on her own with her son and she has a boyfriend who loves her. I'm happy for her.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 Aug 17
Good riddance then. And, I'm happy that your friend is doing so much better with her life and hopefully happy. It's so much easier when the abuser just leaves and walks out and then it's over and done and nothing left to be said, but in court for marriage dissolution. The hard thing to deal with is when the abusive husband or boyfriend is the emotionally needy one and doesn't want to let go. Then when you try to leave, it turns stalkerish. Ask any woman who's been in an abusive relationship and she'll tell you the same.
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