What if your boss started courting you?

Baguio, Philippines
September 2, 2017 10:00am CST
Shocked! This morning, I received a text message from my boss and He's asking some personal info about me. I'm so curious why he's asking until he said that she loves me. Haha, I can't believe it.
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Pitstop
@pitstop (14987)
• Australia
2 Sep 17
Tread carefully. Sometimes these things take unexpected twists and turns. Use wisdom.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
2 Sep 17
@pitsop. Hi, Thank you so much. I will put that in mind. And yeah, I don't know what is his intention of doing so.
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Pitstop
@pitstop (14987)
• Australia
2 Sep 17
@shantalclay is he already married?
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Sep 17
@pitstop Not yet, pitstop but he has a daughter.
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Laurel (L_B)
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Sep 17
I would avoid that situation all together. It can lead for a lot of complication and if things go wrong you could end of losing your job.
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Laurel (L_B)
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
3 Sep 17
@shantalclay it is hard to know what his intentions really are so best just to avoid the situation.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Sep 17
@Happy2BeMe That's the better option for now my friend.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Sep 17
That is what I am thinking and I don't like that to happen. I was in the company to work and not to ruin it. Unless he truly have a good intention.
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sishy7
@sishy7 (27166)
• Australia
3 Sep 17
Did he give you any hints before that something like this is coming?
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Sep 17
We talk often but he never give me hints that he will court me. I don't know. It just happened. I didn't expect it. Now, I don't even know how to deal with him when we are at work.
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sishy7
@sishy7 (27166)
• Australia
3 Sep 17
@shantalclay Oh, it's going to be awkward, that's for sure...
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Sep 17
@sishy7 It really is, dear friend. Urrgh, I'm not even ready for this.
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hereandthere
@hereandthere (45635)
• Philippines
2 Sep 17
is he single or married? how long have you been working for him?
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hereandthere
@hereandthere (45635)
• Philippines
4 Sep 17
@shantalclay stay professional. if you can't bear it anymore, tell HR.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Sep 17
He is single with a daughter. It's already 6 months now since I work in the company. So, I don't totally know him personally or the way he deal with girls.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Sep 17
@hereandthere I will surely do that, but for now, as the others said, I will try to avoid him if it's not for the business.
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (318816)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 Sep 17
I would be shocked too. That is totally inappropriate.
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (318816)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
4 Sep 17
@shantalclay If it were me, I would look for another job. Here that would be considered workplace harassment and you could bring charges against such a person. I don't know what the laws are in your country for such things. I can imagine is it awkward and yes, annoying. Keep your professional attitude, and find another job.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Sep 17
@just4him That is a very good idea, Valerie. However, I did not finish my contract here yet. And I need a certificate of employment as a great qualification for finding another job and that can only give by my employer if I followed my contract. Here in the Philippines, it's very hard to find a job if you are out of a working experience and that is my problem because this is my first job.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Sep 17
Yes, Valerie. It's really awkward at the same time annoying on my part because I just never expect it, or he was putting me into test how professional I am.What do you think?
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Jazon
@holdoors (2532)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 17
Never mix business with personal stuff if possible.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Sep 17
I agree with you Jazon. That is why I'm? thinking of staying away from him. I will just do my work and don't mind him.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Sep 17
@holdoors Yeah, that's right.
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Jazon
@holdoors (2532)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 17
@shantalclay Yes, you will be fine. Just stick to being professional at work.
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prashu
@prashu228 (37520)
• India
2 Sep 17
Ohh ...managers...be safe..
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Sep 17
Lol. Yeah. I better be careful.
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heyhey
@heyheyla (198)
• Aleppo, Syria
4 Sep 17
time for promotion
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Sep 17
Why did you say so? I don't think promotion has nothing to do with it because I don't even have a year working with them.
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Cassy Janine
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Sep 17
@heyheyla That I don't know. And that is unfair to the other employees because when it comes to promotions, there are many employees who are ahead of me and much better.
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heyhey
@heyheyla (198)
• Aleppo, Syria
4 Sep 17
@shantalclay but your boss likes you so he'll give you a promotion . right?
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