Loaning Money To Family Vs. Working For Money

@andriaperry (116936)
Anniston, Alabama
September 2, 2017 10:36am CST
I am sure everyone has that family member that is always borrowing money or either one that asks for work so they will have extra money for food or heat. This past week someone asked for money and said they would pay it back on September first, well I am sure you know how that went. I have not heard another word from that one! And I had a family member ask me for work this month, its not much money but I still said I would have to wait till I get all my pay before I could say yes. I usually do not loan any money because I have so much I have to pay out running the business and I wont be loaning anymore, since that one had not made an effort to even call. Sometimes life is disappointing. Live and learn.
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• United States
2 Sep 17
Oh dear sorry to hear this Andria. I learned a long time ago about this one. No more never again.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
It was unexpected that is for sure.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Sep 17
I don't loan money but I have given money many times. Money is the root of all evil, that's for sure. If I could live without it I would have nothing to do with it. If I can pay the bills and someone needs something, they will have it.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
I wish the same.
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
2 Sep 17
@andriaperry Lending to family, means they will sooner or later, be back for another loan and another.
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
2 Sep 17
@LovingMyBabies Yes, we give money, as the Lord leads us to reach out to someone. But we never loan any more:(
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@marguicha (223028)
• Chile
2 Sep 17
I lend money only for good reasons and to people I care a lot about.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
But most do not care about me!
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@marguicha (223028)
• Chile
3 Sep 17
@andriaperry So it depends on the situation. I just wrote a post about Carolina not being able to get her savings out of the Bank before she leaves. I hurried to send her mother as much as I could spare.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
2 Sep 17
Loan money to near one's just can't expect it on time for sure... Hope they remember
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
I will do an update.
• United States
2 Sep 17
Not everyone - I've never had a family member ask for money. If they did they would be told no. Neither a lender nor a borrower be.
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• United States
3 Sep 17
@andriaperry Well I guess I'll keep saying it when it applies to the topic.
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
Yes you told me this before, on something like this discussion.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
2 Sep 17
I never loan money because most times you never get it back and it makes for hard feelings. I would rather just avoid of all of that.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
It does cause hard feellings
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• United States
2 Sep 17
Sorry to hear you did not get your money back as promised. I don't like loaning money for this same reason as well. Have you touched based with the person yet?
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• United States
5 Sep 17
@andriaperry Hope its good news.
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
I will do an update.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
2 Sep 17
I do not loan money out.No one ask me.Which is good.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
I cant be doing it either, I have so much to pay at the end of the year.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
3 Sep 17
I guess loan for business is the best choice and the profit for the family
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
3 Sep 17
@andriaperry oh ok, these days bank loans has high interest and I never think of it to have.
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 17
I do not need a loan for the business.
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@RasmaSandra (79886)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Sep 17
When it comes to loaning money especially to family member I know that mostly family members think that it doesn't really have to be paid back. A long time ago when I lived in the states I knew a family who had a store. Whenever any family members asked for money they gave them tasks to do in the store to earn the money they needed.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
That is what most of my family does now.
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• United States
2 Sep 17
I've lent money to my children with no expectation of getting it back. Rarely do I consider lending money as it's the best way to create problems for both the borrower and the lender
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
It sure makes for tense times.
@sallypup (61133)
• Centralia, Washington
2 Sep 17
That's hard. This is why its hard to do anything with relatives- renting a room or whatever. Its hard to say no to your own and yet sometimes to stay afloat you must.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
I will have to say no, once was enough.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
2 Sep 17
I learned a long time ago, it is not safe to loan money. Most of the people I loaned it to in the past too long to pay it back. I no longer do this for anyone.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
3 Sep 17
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
I wont either.
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@holdoors (2517)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 17
I am thankful that I have never been in that situation. However, it depends on the severity of the situation.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
That is true but I can make it a couple days without money in my pocket.
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@GardenGerty (160677)
• United States
3 Sep 17
And we always hope for better, especially from family.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 17
And we usually get burned.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
3 Sep 17
I dont typically loan out money either. I hope they do get it to you soon.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 17
they have contacted me and said its in the mail.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
3 Sep 17
When I was working I have relatives who always borrow money from me but forget to pay. I'm really disappointed
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 17
I have been saying no for a ling time.
@TheHorse (218889)
• Walnut Creek, California
3 Sep 17
I actually have a brother who did some "taking " of money from me without my knowing it. He's never once offered to pay me for all of the work I do on the family cabin we co-own, but he's quick to demand money when taxes are due. It's caused me to question human nature.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 17
I have been questioning human nature for year, I often ask" how can people sleep at night when they do so much wrong, especially to family."
@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
2 Sep 17
@andriaperry Yes, every family has at least one, who goes around borrowing money. What's most upsetting about this, in our family the culprit has a job and spends his paychecks on whatever! Then, when bills come due, he scrounges and cries because his phone is getting disconnected! We lend nothing to this man:(
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 17
This one is exactly the same way!
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
2 Sep 17
@andriaperry After my brother uses one source of money, he moves on to another source. Yet, he owns two fancy Harley Davidson motor cycles! His priorities are S-E-L-F, and nothing interferes with that
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• Cedar City, Utah
3 Sep 17
When we tell someone NO; we won't loan them money, we teach them not to ask for money. It's important that we set our boundary so we won't allow ourselves to be used or taken advantage of. That being said, we probably shouldn't borrow from others, either.
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 17
I do not borrow.