Borderline Discussions

You are right. At times there is not much else to read and these pop out at you. There are one after another and nothing else in between. So you end up opening one of them to see what it really is.

@poehere It is a common misbelief among new members. As a result they acquire very few responses to each post, which makes them desperately churn out more.

@Asylum 30 a day is a bit much. I guess they just make one post for one thought. Oh well the more the write the less they earn. Nobody will ever realize how this site really works.

I really think you are right. It is sad that they have to make 30 posts like this one after another.

@poehere Ideally speaking, mylot or any other such site should not be joined by those who are less than 18 years of age. However, administrators of such sites probably has no way to check the actual age of a user, therefore, some users fake their age. I agree with you that some posts are not meant for a 13 years old boy/girl but if a 13 year old boy/girl joins any site, we have no means to prevent him/her from not accessing the site.

@dpk262006 You are right and I think a few of them are here. I can tell by what they write.

I was under the impression that this site was open to all. No matter what age group. That the things we post here shoul be able to be read by all age groups. That was why I am questioning these type of post. I don't think a person of 13 should really read these types of things.

I have to do the same. I think they are seeking attention and this is sort of bad.

@DianneN Some people don't know what to do with their time. So they invent things online. I have never been one to believe all that people say online. They are so misleading and if you stick around long enough you will find out that their story changes a million times.

@poehere It is bad.

Maybe you are right. I guess it is just a matter of not going to his posts and reading them.

@RichardMeister Me too.

@poehere There are some here that I don't read.

I read this person's post. It was also deleted. He was claiming he did not break the rules in his post that were deleted. When asked what he wrote about he never said. There is a valid reason to delete posts and Admin does not do this without that reason. So he must of violated the rules to have them deleted.

@JolietJake I saw that.

@poehere I believe he violated some rules.

This is an excellent idea and I should start doing this.

Basically, I only report spam or post that state their question in the title and in the discussion only write why. These are the type I delete. I also tried to comment to this person and suggest that he write about something else. That all of his posts about being drunk all the time were getting old. He did not pay attention and kept on writing. After this I stoped to read or help.

@poehere Sometimes the title makes it obvious, other times you do have to read a line or two. But if it is a topic I have no interest in for whatever reason I won't comment.

@AbbyGreenhill I understand. The point here I was making is that there are a lot of these posts recently. I can tell by the image, title and first two lines of the discussion if I would be interested in reading it or not. I skip so many of them and never open or read them. Basically, I am saying people have no morals or maybe it should be pride to post some of the things they post. I was a single mom and raise my daughter from the time she was 13 months on. If I had ever run across some of these posts she wrote I would be asking myself what went wrong. But also like you have said billions of times you can't change people. I am just happy that my daughter would never write some of this stuff that so many here write. Parent's today are busy and don't have time for their children. However, here on the site I have found some amazing parents and how they talk about their children and what they do with them. They are just like I was with my daughter. In the end you know for sure these children are growing up right and would never consider posting some of this stuff online.

I normally just read the first line and move on. There are many things I am not interested in and think they should not be posted. Most of them I just pass by and don't even bother to read at all. I just happened to open a few of them when I saw something really strange and was wondering about what was happening.

I am not sure why I opened it up. I guess it was a new member. I saw what she was writing about and yes I did think it was not a topic for this site. I feel if she had an issue or problem she shoul of gone to her mom to ask her advice. She was young I am sure of this one and I didn't feell ike it was up to us to give her such advice. I never answered on it.

Certain things should be kept in the family unit. She wanted our advice on birth control. I think it is up to her parents to do this one. When my daughter was younger I didn't want her to go and ask others. I took care of it myself with her. I think this is how it should be.

It is frustrating and also depressing. I no longer can read that stuff. I also stay away from it.

I think there should be too, but others say if you don't like them to skip them. I guess from now on I wull just ignore them and not pay attention.

I just saw a few of these and with all the influence on the net these days I didn't think there should be more. Kids read stuff and immediately act on it. I see it here on the islands and how fast things change because of t this.

@poehere ..I guess you have a point there! I just wished that young people must be in the right mind when reading discussions here..I just don`t know when and how you can control people here in the internet world since we have our own brains to run, When decision has to be made on their bad times

I am only one person and this was my way of thinking. I am far from being old fashion. I just feel that certain things should be discussed with your parents and not on this site. If you give this young girl one answer and she follows you advice who knows what could happen in the end.

@m_audrey6788 It is not easy to control them. I am just sad that this person couldn't go and talk with her mom. I never was like this with my daughter. I was always open minded and no matter what she talked about I never got mad. I only gave advice and let her decide what was best for her.

I have seen a few and was surprised. I would think this should have asked her mom and not us. Maybe she is afraid of what they will think of her.

It is better to ignore them and not comment. Maybe they will stop posting stuff like this.

@poehere Yes, I hope those posts stop. Negative tendencies should not be allowed so as not to create a bad atmosphere in the community. Better make it lively and full of positive thoughts. This is to uplift everyone of us.

@JasperTore Thank you so much. I am not trying to be negative here. I am just pointing out it isn't right to always be on the defensive.

@poehere I don't like those kind of discussions but I don't know if we can do anything about it. You are right as to who she should be asking those questions. I don't believe in putting your life out there like that.

That is the opinion of most here on the site. I guess it just shocked me to see a young girl asking our advice when she should of been consulting her doctor or her mother.

@velvet53 Neither do I, but no rules were broken. So from now on I just ignore them and move on.

@poehere I've seen that kind of thing too online. Do they think they can get expert advice off a internet social gathering. Even if they did it shouldn't qualify without some kind of disclaimer attached.

@Bluedoll I fear nowadays some children are afraid to talk with their parents. Social media sites make it easy for them to seek advice. All I can say is that I was happy that my daughter and I had such an open communication and she could talk to me about anything and everything. She is an adult now, married with 2 children and she still comes to me for advice.I just wish more parents would try harder with their children. It isn't easy, but it's also not that hard. You just have to sit down and listen. I guess nobody has the time to do that these days. Sad.

It is true. Most people see these posts and skip them. I normally do too. It was just the way the contraceptive one was written that make me open it up. She seemed so young and should be talking with her mom and her doctor about this. Not us here on the site.

This can happen from time to time. I always try and comment back to everyone.

@sathviksouvik I am happy. I try to comment on a lot of stuff when I have time. Not always easy, but I do try.

@poehere Yes Ann I find your comments very often.