Storms in our lives

United States
September 8, 2017 9:34am CST
My heart is broken for the people of Texas and Florida for the hurricanes, out west for the wildfires, and for mexico who was hit with an earthquake this morning. These are all horrible and devastating and I can't even imagine what these people go through. Like I can't imagine what it is like for people who suffer from a personal storm, like cancer. For example @Asylum is in his own personal storm, yet friends and family are also affected. Which is why I am writing this post after not being active for so long. However, I did check on Asylum many times, I just couldn't write anything for a while and I will tell you why. I also have a friend fighting cancer, so on Fridays, I go to her house in the evening to help with housework and grocery shopping for her. I only had been doing this for 3 weeks when my best online friend left a voicemail on my phone and I could barely understand her. When she finally did call when I was home, it was on a Sunday (she never called on weekends because her husband was home, so I knew something was wrong) I also knew a few years ago that she had discovered a lump, but she is across country for one, and like I said, she never called when her husband was home. I tried to tell her she needs to get tested, she refused. So when I couldn't understand her again, I asked if her husband was there and she said yes, I insisted she allow me to talk to him. I made him promise me that he would take her to the hospital (he said he tried in the past, but I said I will convince her) and so I did. Long story short, her body was riddled with cancer, it destroyed one lung (and why i couldn't understand her, she could barely breath) and a broken rib, which I found out later happened a few months ago and I was on the phone with her when it happened. She only lasted 12 days, and even though I never met her in person, I have known her since MySpace, we communicated daily, through Facebook, e-mails, and texting and we talked on the phone once a week. She was literally my best friend, it was her I would call when I was upset, or had good news to share. She always had a good word to share and was an amazing artist who shared many of her creations with me and even made some pictures just for me. I put off posting this for many reasons, one of which she died right before hurricane Harvey hit Texas, and I didn't want to take away from that plus after 3 weeks, this is the first time I have been able to talk/write about without breaking down. In fact, I am going to stop now, because I feel the tears coming, I tihnk I am suffering so much because in times like this, it was my friend I would call on, and now I have no one except my G-d. Thank you for reading about my storm and I am still praying for those who have gone through or will go through natures storms right now.
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
8 Sep 17
I'm so sorry for your loss of such a close friend. There is nothing anyone can say, really, to ease the pain of losing those we're closest too. I also have a friend like that, but she lives halfway around the world. I met her here, in mylot some years back. She's like my own daughter, if I had one. And she calls me her cyber mom. I can't imagine my life without her, even though we've never met. So many of us have our own personal storms these days. And most of us understand the deep pain of loss and the grief that follows. I'm glad you came here to express yourself and to share your feelings. Again, I'm so sorry about your friend.
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
8 Sep 17
@Carmelanirel2 You're welcome. I knew someone on here named writersedge and she had cancer. Maybe the same person. I liked her. And I have suspected the same thing about this person that I knew. Never meeting someone doesn't mean you can't have strong bonds with them. And yes, when they're gone....a terrible loss.
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
9 Sep 17
@Carmelanirel2 She was a very interesting person. I didn't have much interaction with her although I wish I had. There are several people that aren't here any longer, who I wonder about and would like to see them come back. WinterRose was another one. If you care to look at the discussions of writersedge they're here: Maybe it's too saddening to go there. I've read a few of them before and when I think that she was so optimistic....sigh.
This is writersedge's user profile on myLot. Discussions, responses, comments, likes & more.
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• United States
8 Sep 17
@deazil Yes, that is her, I could never remember her full username. If I remember correctly, she went the alternate route and it was through her I learned about foraging and how far away from a treated lawn I need to be before using any weeds. I miss her.
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@rebelann (112995)
• El Paso, Texas
8 Sep 17
My condolences for your loss. I wish there were a way to make hurricanes lose their momentum but that's not to be I'm afraid. I've heard about both the fires, one in CA and another in Montana, which I had hoped would be brought under control soon. If only we could funnel all that water in TX onto those fires.
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@rebelann (112995)
• El Paso, Texas
8 Sep 17
You are welcome I just wish they stop trying to build pipes to transport fuel when clearly we need to reroute water much more often @Carmelanirel2
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• United States
8 Sep 17
Thank you. I think the same thing, the waters in Texas and going towards Florida need to move out west...
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
8 Sep 17
Cancer can have a serious affect on almost every aspect of health. Even the chemotherapy, which is designed to help, causes severe weariness and fatigue on a constant basis. The reality is that once a person is diagnosed with cancer it becomes a fact of life, so we have no option but to accept this and do the best we can with what time remains. Sometimes I feel that it may be harder on others because they are unsure how to react or respond.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
8 Sep 17
@Carmelanirel2 The decision as to treatment is not only the province of the doctors but also the patient. I chose to go ahead with chemotherapy, but if I had been offered intrusive tests and treatment I may have declined.
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• United States
8 Sep 17
As you can see, my friend got no treatment at all, and it frustrates me that she didn't even try, even an alternative treatment would have been something. I actually have 2 other friends, not just one fighting cancer. One I don't know well is doing chemo, the other is someone I have known for years and is doing an alternative treatment. I also had a college professor who had cancer and just recently he passed the amount of time to say he is completely cancer free, so I know there is hope, and I and hoping and praying you overcome this too.
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• China
9 Sep 17
Nice to see your post !Sorry to learn that one of your good friends online passed away!She should have accepted your advice and had check-ups earlier.People are always plagued by ill health and natural calamities .Sometimes we can't help it.
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• United States
10 Sep 17
She was a retired cna (I think that means certified nursing assistant) and she only remember the horrible tests they did years ago, which I am sure are not as invasive today. She was such a big part of my life, I feel like I am starting over again, but don't sure what path to take. One thing I have learned through this, is who my real friends are, those who I thought would be there for me, have turned away, so I am kind of alone right now too.
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• United States
10 Sep 17
@changjiangzhibin89 Yes, so right now I am in the middle of a change and have to9 decide what to do now.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
8 Sep 17
you're a great friend. i do get concerned about other mylotters but usually don't know what else to say. many others have been helped by sharing their storms here, and i don't think it takes away from anything or anyone.
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• United States
8 Sep 17
She was a great friend and I should be grateful that she is no longer in pain, but that doesn't help the hurt in my heart. I am trying to get over it though, because I do have family and friends in Florida and along the east coast and I need to be strong for them.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 17
@Carmelanirel2 i hope they are safe and get through this with minimal damage
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• United States
8 Sep 17
@hereandthere thank you, I know a couple of them have already evacuated.
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@JudyEv (342277)
• Rockingham, Australia
8 Sep 17
That is very, very sad that you have lost such a good friend. I am so sorry. There must be many people facing some really tough times at the moment. I hope everyone remains safe.
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• United States
8 Sep 17
Thank you. I know for sure a couple of my friends have evacuated, but some have stayed, mostly because they won't be directly hit, but they could still suffer some effects from the storm.
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• United States
10 Sep 17
@JudyEv not only that, when I asked my sister about my nephew, she said he isn't leaving because it was going to hit the east coast and he is on the west, then a couple days ago, the storm moved and will hit the west coast. When I asked again, my nephew's wife got on and said since they are 2 miles from the coast, they are staying.
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@JudyEv (342277)
• Rockingham, Australia
9 Sep 17
@Carmelanirel2 We're hearing now that it has strengthened again. What a dreadful calamity to hit these towns.
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@AmbiePam (94045)
• United States
8 Sep 17
Oh, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine your pain. I wish I could offer you something, but I will offer up prayer. I know sometimes it doesn't feel like enough.
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• United States
8 Sep 17
Thank you Ambie, I know prayer works, even when I don't feel it and I appreciate it.
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• United States
8 Sep 17
So very sorry to hear about your dear friend Carmela.
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• United States
8 Sep 17
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• United States
8 Sep 17
Thank you.
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