Dating, flirting, and marriage...

I often wonder if people flirt after marriage because a) The marriage becomes devoid of humor. After all, flirting is part of that fun. b) They want to revive their confidence, if the spouse is just treating it as job done, and now concentrating on monetary goals. c) They can't help being like that. I think many times, it is the first two rather than the last one. But that said, do you like me does not even qualify as flirting..lol. It is too confrontational to be called that. The elements are slyness as you pointed out...then teasing, then funny remarks, basically to see whether the other person has enough understanding and ability to laugh and enjoy life with. Watching others flirt is fun too. :)

@vandana7 I think husbands do that to test if they are still attractive to girls. It fills their ego when someone says yes. What they try not to think is the girl is after their money specially when the man is already past his prime and obviously well off already because the kids are all professionals. And this is also true with the wife.But I don't like doing this, since I got married.

No...I am planning to write a book on flirting and another on dating. They will sell like hot cakes as prelude to Kama Sutra.

Nice one waiting to see

I think Islam has no such thing. You know what - I read through the basic tenets of Islam. I find many Muslims in our country are not following those. I have those Islam tenets in my cell phone. They are oh so logical! For example, Allah said "kisi pe bojh mat bano", (Do not become a burden on others). A mother has more children than she can feed. Then the elder sons when they start working, have to feed her and get her daughters married! Isn't that a burden? The point is, people just memorize the religious books (even Hindus and Christians). They do not REFLECT upon it. If they would reflect upon them, they would realize so much good is there in their religion, and once they follow it as it is meant, well, there will be no conflict what so ever, with people from other religions. Sigh. Take for example, the baker around here. He is a muslim. His assistant is a muslim. That man has three daughters. And he says he has to pay dowry!!! Dowry? I thought Islam did not allow that? I thought in islam it is Mehr. But he is not the only one who told me that dowry thing, which is a Hindu thing, has seeped into Islam. This is what happens when conversions are there. Old customs continue. Effectively, the religion gets diluted or corrupted.

@vandana7 That's fine you read it....can you tell me the exact verse no of the quran? and I think you know Arabic grammar well.

Online? All the time. If you want me to invite you over the next time, I will. lol

@mildredtabitha .. No no..I am speaking of light hearted flirting with no intention of even dating..just flirting for flirting's sake, because it can be fun too.

@vandana7 haha... I think people always talk about marriage then breakup