Keeping an open house ?

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In India the tradition has been to keep an open house at all times so that relatives and friends can freely visit each other at their convenience and since most households in the olden days had the joint family system , there were plenty of people around and plenty of food too. There are some villages and small towns where this system is still practiced. It is also true that some people don't want to change with times. They don't realise that in today's scenario where both the couple work, it is not possible to be available all the time . Last week I had a very annoying experience with one of my relatives . At 11 am he called me .. 'Where are you ? I am waiting at your doorstep ? I asked ' Have you come home? He replied ..Of course ! Anyway, I was at the bank and left in a hurry without finishing my work because he had come from anther smaller town. When I reached home he simply nodded his head without a smile . Later, he asked me quite rudely I felt .. ' I thought you work part time so where did you go now ? I thought it was better not to tell him anything knowing his mentality. I had to cook more rice and dhal and we had lunch while he spoke about his own family etc ...As he was leaving I politely requested him to call me before he leaves his home , the next time he plans to visit us. He sarcastically told me that I had changed with all the new ideas seeping into the society. I Said yes I have changed and again told him firmly to call me at least a day or two before planning to visit me which he did not take well, but that is his problem. Not all relatives are the same, some of them are so very nice and accommodating but many others fall into this category.. I guess it takes time to change ones mindset , but in the meantime we go through these highly annoying situations...