Should I stop this and go away far?
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
September 16, 2017 4:43am CST
Earlier today, I rushed outside because I heard a commotion. Mother fell on the ground because she thought there was a chair. She fell and luckily she didn't get hurt her head. I told her to be careful the next time. My second Brother scolded her because she's becoming forgetful.
And I told her to be careful because the next time she fell she'll probably can't stand anymore. She will have a broken bone and that will hurt her.
The third Brother thought I was scolding my good Mother and keep yelling at me. I got pissed off and told him not to do that to me because I'm the eldest and that he doesn't have the right. I was about to cry because I hated that much. He always does that to me but I just keep calm about it. But today is the time he should know that.
Now we are not on speaking terms.
See what I mean? They all against me being here.
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33 responses
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
16 Sep 17
Yes I do see what you mean and I had the same with a younger evil sister.
I do not speak to her anymore..they are so bad, I understand Bhem.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
16 Sep 17
@JustBhem Yes I am also the elder..I understand but mine is evil all the time and has caused immense damage in the family. She will pay through karma. I will not bow to her.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Sep 17
@TiarasOceanView
Oh sorry to hear this Tiara. We have issues with our Family. Is it too late for us?
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
16 Sep 17
They're ganging up on you. Next time I think it's best not to care.
To protect myself, I have to be cold to everybody. Not caring in what they do or what happens to them. In that way, I keep myself away from trouble and I wouldn't be accused of meddling in their business.
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
16 Sep 17
@JustBhem You don't have to hide. You can be as visible as you want but just be an uncaring biatch.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Sep 17
@toniganzon
I like this - uncaring biatch. Thanks, Toni.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Sep 17
Yes, that's what they do best. Because I'm not like them. I stand with myself. They want me to kneel down to them. But no, I'm the eldest and as long as I'm here I have all the rights. Besides they have their own Family. And the mother is biased as ever.
That's what I'm doing. I stayed the whole day inside my room where I find comfort and safety.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
16 Sep 17
haha who told you being eldest you have all the rights?
It is better to make him understand what was your intention. You don't meant in a rude way. It is the duty of elders to show patience and understanding towards youngers. Just relax dear, after all they are your brothers.
It is better to make him understand what was your intention. You don't meant in a rude way. It is the duty of elders to show patience and understanding towards youngers. Just relax dear, after all they are your brothers.3 people like this
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Sep 17
It's far different here. And I know it's what you believe.
Should I chill down and be stupid and give them all the rights to nag me?
No, you have your own perspective and us our own.
We have differences when it comes to Family norms.
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. (Are your brothers jealous of you being there or something?)
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
17 Sep 17
Sorry you had to go through this. Hope things pan out right and everything is settled amicably between you and your brothers.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
17 Sep 17
@JustBhem best thing to do is to let the whole thing blow over and then when everyone is a bit cooler and calmer, you can talk about the situation and sort it out.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Sep 17
@allen0187
I don't hold hate against my Brothers because they are the only one I got. And we are in good terms now.
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@Letranknight2015 (52072)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
@JustBhem that's not very healthy at all. if she doesn't redeem himself while alive, you know what happens. I feel sorry for her already. But you I think needs to be taking care of yourself..
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Sep 17
Sometimes my Mother is stubborn. How many times we remind her to look after herself because she is not healthy anymore. But she keeps insisted to stay outside and collect rumors. Neighbors call her the security guard for always looking around and stare at people. And gossip about them.
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@just4him (317250)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Sep 17
I'm sorry your mother fell, and glad she's going to be all right. What does it matter that you are the eldest? Siblings need to get along with each other and birth order shouldn't matter. I've never considered that, and I am the eldest. I'm sorry you're not on speaking terms. It wasn't good that your brother scolded you, but I'm sure there was another way to handle the situation.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
17 Sep 17
i know how you feel. i and my sister have some disagreements too. it is either i talk first, or she, to patch things up. i think having this communication of animosity will make our relationship as siblings stronger. i hope you will also have that with your brothers (whom i don't know why they are mean to you).
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
@JustBhem i hope you, your siblings, and your mother will be a happier family.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Sep 17
@ridingbet
Nah, it will never happen my friend. Just like today, she lied to me. I thought nobody is renting in the abandoned house we have but there is now for 3 months already. She kept it for me and collected the money, we agreed before that once we collected the payment, we will save it to pay some bills like water and electricity. For 3 Months, I was the one paying bills. And there would be no money left for me. That is why we are on a tight budget with the boyfriend. Imagine her being so cruel to me.
I confronted her and she still lies to me.
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@Courtlynn (67081)
• United States
16 Sep 17
Sounds like normal sibling fights to me. Especially if all live at home still.
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@Courtlynn (67081)
• United States
16 Sep 17
@JustBhem so maybe hes mad you still live at home and he doesn't. Theres always a reason for why people are rude to you, siblings or not
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Sep 17
@Courtlynn
I don't know what's gotten unto him why he yells at me.
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@aladyinutah (60)
• Cedar City, Utah
17 Sep 17
Sometimes I think it's wise to "take a vacation" from certain people. That's one way to teach them that you are not willing to tolerate disrespect.
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Sep 17
@aladyinutah
Oh, I got it now. Yes. I do that sometimes but that time I got fed up already that it's why it burst out of me.
@aladyinutah (60)
• Cedar City, Utah
17 Sep 17
@JustBhem - my perception of "taking a vacation" from certain people doesn't necessarily mean spending money. It just means refusing to interact with certain people for a certain length of time. You can decide how much time you need. The bottom line is that it's important to be good to yourself.
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@Christinb (390)
•
17 Sep 17
That's normal sibling misunderstanding but u should never ever scold your mum
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@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
17 Sep 17
I think you should discuss it with your other siblings. Taking care of your mother should be a shared responsibility among you. I think you should approach your brothers first as the oldest you should show them how to be humble and disregard the pride. Moreover, as I check on some comments of other myLotters, I suggest you stay. Now is the time that you get united with your brother especially now, that your mother need you.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
17 Sep 17
can you stay with your father instead?
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@LeaPea2417 (37369)
• Toccoa, Georgia
17 Sep 17
I am sorry that is happening to you.
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@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
17 Sep 17
Probably you were misunderstood. By the tone of your voice while talking to your Mom might have triggered them to talk back at you. Thinking that you were scolding your Mom.... 
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@Neiltarquin (1062)
• Rass, Saudi Arabia
17 Sep 17
To avoid additional conflict, it is best for you not to do anything harsh. No matter what happens, your mother needs you now the most.
Talk to your brother that what happened was an accident and no one wants that to happen. Blaming each other will not resolve anything and would never turn back time. Make them realize that what they did was not good. They should be the one who would understand the situation better becauae they are the older ones.
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