Do you ever feel lonely?
@1creekgirl (41387)
United States
September 23, 2017 3:46pm CST
I don't know what's got into me. I have the best husband a woman could ever want. Our kids and grandkids adore me, even though most of them live rather far away. I have relatively good health and to be honest, look better and younger than I ever have.
So, what's wrong? Maybe part of it is because I quit my part-time job in February. Ever since I retired years ago, I've have something part-time off and on. I get to missing being around other people when I stay home all the time.
We have a church, but it's small and no one really hangs out much together. I have a few "friends" who are really more acquaintances...they have their own friends they grew up with and sisters and mothers and tons of cousins. My relatives and I are not close, except for the aunt who just passed away.
Even after living in this small town for many, many years, I'm still an outsider because I wasn't born here, although I'm related to most everyone here.
Maybe I'm just sad after the death of my aunt. Maybe I need to join a club or volunteer at the hospital or library...anything to have more human contact. Maybe I'll feel better when I get some relief from the shoulder pain and can sleep.
Okay, I'm through whining and feeling sorry for myself.
Hope you all aren't lonely today.
The photo is one my daddy took of me.
Hope you all aren't lonely today.
The photo is one my daddy took of me.17 people like this
18 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Sep 17
I think volunteering would be a great thing! You could meet others while helping. =)
I get that way every now and then too.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Sep 17
@1creekgirl No relatives and no friends here.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
24 Sep 17
@LovingMyBabies I'm sorry. Have you found a good church yet? That will be your family.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
23 Sep 17
I guess even being so busy with your family, you can still feel lonely at times. Do you have any relatives near by?
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Sep 17
I understand completely. I have so much work but most of it I do alone, or I have Tony with me. But I am still lonely at times yet I am not alone.
I do love my family but I cannot stand to be around them all the time. I have friends but like you said they have children and grandchildren they are busy with.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
23 Sep 17
I totally understand. I'm not sure if it's more true in the south, but people seem to be so clanish. They have all the support they want and don't need anyone else. The people in our small town are so snobish and the funny thing is, they have nothing to be snobish about. We own more land than most of them, but we're "outsiders." We've lived here for 50 years and my husband is still "that boy from Arkansas."
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Sep 17
@1creekgirl I am not from this small town either so I do not know very many people here.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
23 Sep 17
I feel lonely when I think of my mother and father. But missing people who have passed on doesn't feel the same as missing people in your everyday life. I think that I sometimes wish for more social contacts, but the truth is that I am not really up to keeping my part of the friendship obligation. I should probably stick with virtual friends.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
24 Sep 17
I really am thankful for our virtual friends here at myLot.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
23 Sep 17
You're right. I thought about volunteering at our local library that I love, but realized that you can't socialize there! I'd have to be quiet and would probably just be by myself sorting books. I can be by myself at home!
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
23 Sep 17
I think we all go through the feeling lonely stage. As just because you have this or that doesnt mean you cant be lonely.. maybe missing something.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
23 Sep 17
I'm not really an outgoing type personality, but I find I do need human contact. I guess that's why solitary confinement in a prison is the worst punishment.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
24 Sep 17
I think we all get a bit lonely now and then, whether we're married or single or whatever situation were in. Some people even get lonely in a crowd. If it happens now and then, I wouldn't worry about it. I find that if we have many interests then loneliness is not much of a problem. These days, real friends are hard to find since everyone has so much to do. Are you going through a change in life?
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
3 Oct 17
I know how you feel, though I do have my daughter close by and I see her often. I live in a small town but I never really integrated, I belong to a church in my old hometown and I attend there. I know a lot of people but I am only friends with a few and sometimes I wish I had more close friends to do things with. I have met lots of great people through our exercise class but not made any friends, you know we are friendly at class but we don't do things together outside of class. I think in both our cases it is the lack of sleep that is making us feel this way. Here's to great sleep!!
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
4 Oct 17
@1creekgirl I did sleep almost 6 hours last night and I am feeling like a new woman right now!! I hope you did as well.
@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
3 Oct 17
I can see we relate. Hopefully we'll both rest well tonight. I'm at the Ortho doc right now and praying he will be able to help my shoulders. Thanks for the encouragement.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
24 Sep 17
I often feel lonely. I work from home and my partner is gone all day, then when he's home he spends a lot of time on his computer. Some days the only company I have is my cat. If I didn't talk to him, I might forget how to speak!
I don't enjoy being around a lot of people often, though, so I guess I'll take loneliness over being forced to be around others whose company I don't enjoy. I have some online friends who I talk to almost daily, and I talk to my mom and sister on the phone sometimes, or will go out with them when I need to get out of the house. I think I inherited my mom's family's reclusive nature.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
25 Sep 17
@1creekgirl I agree. If I go too long without human contact I start to feel very depressed and "nuts."
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
25 Sep 17
@Srbageldog I believe God designed us to have fellowship with other humans.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
24 Sep 17
Not everyone is extremely social. I'm not very much, but a person needs a certain amount of human contact. Glad you have your mom and sister.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Sep 17
I somehow don't ever feel lonely, not sure why, I sometimes prefer my own company. Sorry you felt lonely, maybe volunteering at a hospital or library is something you should try, especially since you were used to working. Sorry about your Aunt, may she Rest In Peace. And I hope your shoulder is feeling better and your heart lighter. :)
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Sep 17
@1creekgirl you're welcome, take care and have a good day.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
26 Sep 17
Thank you so much, Catherine, for the kind words.
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@Marilynda1225 (82704)
• United States
25 Sep 17
I get lonely occasionally. I have a few neighbors which are really just acquaintances but not friends and my very close friends all live states away now. As we retired we moved closer to our children and don't really get to see each other very often. I'm happy to be surrounded by my children and grandchildren but sometimes they can't take the place of a close friend.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
25 Sep 17
That's true. I know lots of people, but I'm hoping my only real friend will move back here in January.
@jillybean1222 (6407)
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26 Sep 17
love the picture. and yes, i totally relate to the loneliness. even though i'm around people often, i lack that quality friend time that i think i need. you should try to find something you enjoy to replace that part-time job.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
27 Sep 17
I don't think I could find a job for 4 hours, one day a week lol, but maybe some volunteer work. Have to see what the surgeon suggests about my shoulders first.
@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
27 Sep 17
Yes, I'm considering that. I need to see what the Ortho surgeon says next week about my shoulders first.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
29 Sep 17
Oh! I posted something same on Facebook last night that I am feeling sad but I don't know why so I think you should sit quietly and think about it that what's actually making you feel that so I hope you can get some better results that is what I also do
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
25 Sep 17
I am not alone and don't feel lonely as of now. That may happen in future.. hope you find a good place to spend your time..or hang out with
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
24 Sep 17
That is a cute photo.You are a bit down but hopefully that will soon pass...We have these occasional lows at times
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
24 Sep 17
You're right, I feel some better today already.
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@SerenityEngel (525)
• United Kingdom
25 Sep 17
I can't say I do feel lonely. Very rare and if I do it is fleeting. I read a lot and spend my time with my books. Sometimes I would like a hug, but I'm used to not getting those anymore.
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@Phelly02 (463)
• Philippines
25 Sep 17
I feel lonely too sometimes, since i live alone most of the time since my partner only comes home in the weekend, i think everyone does at a time. when i feel lonely I usually eat something like chocolate or watch a comedy movie. But your plan of volunteering would be great, having activities makes you less lonely too.
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@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
25 Sep 17
I think chocolate would cheer me up greatly! Trouble is, the calories would depress me, lol.
