~They Thought It Was A Secret~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
October 2, 2017 5:23pm CST
Hey everyone. So at the end of the month my husband has the opportunity at work to earn an end of the month bonus. The team members have to rate his performance and if they all give 5 stars he gets the bonus.
He's been working so hard and he found out the ratings today for the month of September. He was disappointed they gave him 3 & 4 stars when he's been working late and so hard for all of them...
Apparently they didn't know he would ever see the ratings because 3 out of 5 of them said they gave him 5 stars...nobody did though.
It's not a huge deal but my husband now has his eyes wide open and this has changed his perspective about some of them.
I feel bad, I know he's been working his hiney off. Oh well, win some and lose some.
How do you feel about two faced people?
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48 responses
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
2 Oct 17
Well it is clear these guys are snakes in the grass..husband beware of them.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Oct 17
@Tiarasoceanview Yes and he sees it clearly now. 
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
2 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies Terrible isn´t it Jennifer to be treated so badly and treacherous they are..when I know your husband is so good.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@TiarasOceanView It is horrible. They acted like they were his buddies the whole time...now he knows the truth.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@LadyDuck It would have been bad enough if money wasn't involved but that was $1,000 our family really needed. =(
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@LadyDuck Yes, lied straight to mine and my husband's faces!
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@LadyDuck (472121)
• Switzerland
3 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies People are really mean, what I hate most is they then say they gave 5 stars to show how nice they are.
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@GardenGerty (160998)
• United States
3 Oct 17
I like the saying, "Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer" as it sums this up well.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@Gardengerty Yup, that's what he's doing from now on...That was $1,000 they kept from our family!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@LilyBeBack I don't understand it either. It's not like it would be taken from them, it's not like it was coming out of their pockets, it's not like he didn't deserve 5 stars-he worked his butt off for all of them!
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@LilyBeBack (1994)
• United Kingdom
3 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies This is making me so mad 
I don't get why they couldn't all just give everyone five stars!!
I don't get why they couldn't all just give everyone five stars!!3 people like this
@BarBaraPrz (47706)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Oct 17
I find it odd that the other workers should determine if he got a bonus. Wouldn't that be up to the boss?
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@BarBaraPrz (47706)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies Well, that sucks.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@BarBaraPrz Yeah it does, especially since that was $1,000 they basically kept from our family.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@Barbaraprz They are technically all his bosses, they are project managers-above my husband so they all get to rate him.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
3 Oct 17
i saw your comment that he has a few offers, so that's good. so how did he know the ratings? someone showed it to him?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@hereandthere The boss gave it to him after he told the project managers it wouldn't be shown to him. The boss is just as shady as the rest of them apparently.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@hereandthere Yup exactly. They lied to mine and Johhny's face since one of them was in our home with his lies saying he gave him 5 stars! The bonus was promised if he got 5 stars from everyone-which he thought he was going to since they all lied to him... So messed up. The boss lives in a 6 bedroom home on the water in a very rich area here and has a brand new vehicle-doubt he's short on funds.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
3 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies by saying it's confidential, they felt "freer" to be more "honest" to the boss about his performance, but pretended "all is well" when they're face to face with johnny? was the bonus promised? maybe they're short of funds?
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@LilyBeBack (1994)
• United Kingdom
3 Oct 17
I won't say what I really want to... I'm sorry your husband won't get his bonus, that's not fair and it's not fair that he's working with people who can't be honest with him either.
My sister had a situation earlier this year where her colleagues promised here they'd tell the owner the truth about their boss who was bullying everyone, but once they got into their individual meetings they did what the bully had told them to do and they lied about everything, and when my sister told the truth she got sacked
Less than two months later, the shop started a closing down sale - I don't necessarily believe that karma always works, but sometimes coincidences feel a lot like karma.2 people like this
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@Lilybeback Thank you, I agree it's not fair at all. Yup, I can't stand workplace 2 faced people like that. I'm sorry for your sister as well. Yes what goes around does often come back around.
This one guy in particular makes us the most mad because he has hung out at our house a few times and my husband thought they were buddies...Clearly not.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@LilyBeBack I agree! It's not hurting them in any way and he worked his butt off for them! It's not like he didn't work for it.
No, he's not allowed in our home anymore.
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@LilyBeBack (1994)
• United Kingdom
3 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies If I worked in a place that used this system, I'd give everyone five stars! It's not like it's just a rating, it's money, and we all know how difficult it is to come by for most of us.
That's cruel of the one who was supposed to be your husband's friend, I hope he isn't welcome in your house any more
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@shaggin He didn't ask them what they gave-they offered the information to him. Which annoys him more.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
3 Oct 17
At my previous employer, every year we had to rate other employees in our group in addition to ourselves. And, no one ever gave themselves a perfect 5, because theres always room for improvement & growth. We did have to write a couple of paragraphs explaining our reasoning and justification not just a rating. Of course every industry is different.
I am sorry to hear his team members were two faced liars. Did your husband have to rate them as well?
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
3 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies That is clearly shady if your husband was the only one being rated? I wonder if his boss employer was just saying that to make it a motivation to work harder? Or, how does the rules apply if its a one way streak? But either way, I'd be totally pissed at the back stabber team mates he is working with! That bonus could helped significantly.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Oct 17
@infatuatedbby I think he was just bribing him to work his butt off all hours of the day and night to make him think there was actually a bonus.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@infatuatedbby No one else was rated though-just my husband. That's another shady part about all of this. Why wasn't everyone rated if they wanted to do things that way?
Thanks, the biggest thing is they lied to his face and they cost our family $1,000!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@SIMPLYD Yes they are very fake and we cannot stand that. He is being very careful now.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
3 Oct 17
I loathe two faced people. Unfortunately most work environments have them. Sorry your hubby was disappointed like that. That's really not fair to him.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@Srbageldog Yeah, I can't stand people like this. I Feel worse that my husband has to go back to work tomorrow and act like nothing happened, I would have a really hard time with that part if it was me.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
3 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies I would have a hard time with that too.
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@moffittjc (121740)
• Gainesville, Florida
3 Oct 17
Wow, that just has to be a terrible eye-opener for your husband, to work his butt off and only get 3s and 4s. Do you think they are rating him lower because he's new, or because they're jealous of his work ethic, or for some other reason? I wonder if they know they're not going to get a bonus, so they rate him lower so that he doesn't get one either?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Oct 17
@moffittjc I absolutely agree!
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@moffittjc (121740)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies Boss man shouldn't pull a douchbag move and dangle a $1000 "carrot" in front of the workers if he has no intention of ever paying it out.
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@moffittjc (121740)
• Gainesville, Florida
8 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies I hope this is not an indication of how this company truly is. Because it sounded like your husband finally found a great job. I hope they are reputable in every other way and treat their employees well.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@poehere Yeah, that's how my husband is with them now. He wants nothing to do with any of them. One of them gave him paperwork last night and he met him in the driveway-he said none of them are welcome in our home any longer.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
10 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies Good for him.I know he is not like this, but they gave him no other choice on this one.
@Courtlynn (67080)
• United States
3 Oct 17
That sucks they lied right to his face. I wouldn't trust any of them after that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@Courtlynn I know I can't stand people like this! He doesn't trust them anymore. And they pretended to be his buddy.
And they pretended to be his buddy.2 people like this
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
3 Oct 17
That is terrible but sadly there are many people like that around. I don't like two faced people. I work with a few of them.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@happy2beme I know, it sounds like your boss is one of them too.
One of them in particular makes us more angry because he hung out with us in our home!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Oct 17
@Happy2BeMe Yeah, I cannot stand people like this.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
4 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies That makes it all the worse when they act like your friend to your face. Yes my boss is.
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@snowy22315 (182384)
• United States
3 Oct 17
Well that's not cool. Did they at least give constructive criticism so he knows how he could earn 5 stars?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@snowy22315 Nope, just the stars.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Oct 17
@dodo19 Thanks, it was eye opening that's for sure. I don't like it either.
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
3 Oct 17
I hope he gets good ratings and gets the bonus he deserves it with how hard he works. I hate two faced people
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
3 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies Sorry to hear that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@Tina30219 Yeah he's not getting the bonus because they gave him such low scores.
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@LeaPea2417 (37384)
• Toccoa, Georgia
3 Oct 17
I don't like two faced people. Your husband is lucky he found out what snakes they are.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@Leapea2417 Oh yeah, my husband knows now and he doesn't want anything to do with any of them.
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
3 Oct 17
I try to steer clear of two faced people. Sadly there are many around.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@fishtiger58 Yes there are too many around.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Oct 17
@DrEdwi Yeah, he didn't confront them. He just knows what they are really about now.
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