Long distance relationships : have you been in any and has it worked out for you?

@Ri1089 (225)
Mauritius
October 14, 2017 8:03am CST
Nowadays I see loads of people in long distance relationships. I'm just wondering whether it's worth it or not. Recently I've been in one and I haven't been able to meet her. Finally she broke it up and it left me heartbroken. I wish I can see her one day. She's basically all I can think about all day but I know I can't work. I know that I won't be trying any relationships anytime soon.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
14 Oct 17
Yes they can work and they do. I have a few friends who were in long distance relationships and they are now married. It takes a lot of commitment and trust but if both people want it, it can work. Sorry about your break up. Breaking up is never easy and takes time to get over.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
15 Oct 17
@Ri1089 that is sad she would say that but you are right. There is somebody out there who will love you as much as you love them no matter what the distance is.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
15 Oct 17
@Happy2BeMe that's true but I'm a very patient person. I've been single for over two years now and i can wait longer.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
Thank you so much for your kind words. The worse is that she's saying it wasn't real for her. I guess I just need to find the right one for me.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
14 Oct 17
The only long time relationship that I was in was decades ago and it DID NOT work out.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
Aww sorry to hear that. But I think that these days it's easier to connect to someone
@LadyDuck (471992)
• Switzerland
14 Oct 17
Same as Marlina, I was in a long distance relationship many years ago, finally we split.
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@LadyDuck (471992)
• Switzerland
14 Oct 17
@Ri1089 Yes it is, because sometimes you stay too long without meeting in person.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
Oh okay. It is a very hard relationship to be in.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
@LadyDuck I would have waited a long time for that person if she just asked me too. But she kinda gave up.
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• Peoria, Arizona
14 Oct 17
I feel like they can only work out when you can meet up a few times every few months or so. And the main thing with them, you have to talk a lot, through face time and texting and talking on the phone. long distance is possible, it is just a lot of effort but worth it if you love that person. Love isn't easy.
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• Peoria, Arizona
15 Oct 17
@Ri1089 I'm sorry that happened. At least you tried! any relationship, near or far there is no telling what is going to happen. All that matters is the fun in the middle and the learning in the end.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
Yeah from the beginning we planned on meeting after 6months but neither of us saved enough. We did talk nearly every hour of the day, had movie nights using Skype, it was really fun but I guess it wasn't meant to be.
@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
16 Oct 17
@DesirousDreamer yeah I don’t have any regrets, maybe only the fact that I live far away from everybody. It’s like I’m on a deserted island sometimes lol
@Meramar (2695)
15 Oct 17
A long distance relationship only Works if it's based on communication, comprehension, and when one of the couple doesn't mind to move near to the other one and takes the decision at the right time. Some years ago, I started a long distance relationship. We connected online as the chats were the way we used to communicate. Finally, he moved to where I was living. Seventeen years later, we are still together.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
15 Oct 17
Wow what a beautiful storywhat you said is true and I'm happy that you guys made it work. That was inspirational.
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@Meramar (2695)
15 Oct 17
@Ri1089 Thank you! I am also happy that it worked out as we have now two kids (teenies already) and I really love my family It was (and still is) a nice experience for me. There are a lot we can learn through those kind of relations, as we belong to different nationalities.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
15 Oct 17
@Meramar that's amazing really, congrats on having such a wonderful familythrough this type of relationships, trust is already established before even seeing each other so I think that's why the relationship is very strong.
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@Shortail (845)
• Philippines
14 Oct 17
I never try that, actually I had a two years relationship but we end up that when she decided to go to other country to work, even we don't have any issue, we didn't fight, still we decided to end up that relationship.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
16 Oct 17
Yeah that happened to me as well once and I realised after that it was stupid to leave the country. But everything happens for a reason as they say.
@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
16 Oct 17
@Shortail yeah I’m still good friends with that person even though the time difference makes it hard for us to talk.
@Shortail (845)
• Philippines
16 Oct 17
@Ri1089 And much better that both of you has the peace of mind, nothing to worry about. The only thing missing is the word call "relationship" but aside from that, both of you can communicate also, and if the things go along on your way, go back to relation ship again, but if not, remain friends.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
15 Oct 17
I haven't been in one and I don't intend to be in one. I do believe that long distance relationships do not work at all.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
17 Oct 17
@Ri1089 true.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
16 Oct 17
Thank you for sharing your opinion. They are very hard to be in.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
14 Oct 17
This is one of the very hard to maintain relationships. It will work only if both of you have the will and great determination.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
I agree, it is also the best way to know about the other person, like how much they are willing to invest in the relationship.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
14 Oct 17
Well, its very hard. But so far, its working. Its been 2. years when we started LDR. So thank you to the technologies that we have now it really helps to survive that LDR thing. But in our case, though its expensive, we consistently try to see each other atleast once a month.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
I'm glad to hear that and I'm hoping that you guys cane make it work for many more years to come. I know that it's hard but two years is a long time for a DLR so I'm sure you have what it takes. Best of luck for the future
@lovebuglena (44716)
• Staten Island, New York
14 Oct 17
It's hard to make long distance relationships work. I've been in one but that didn't work out. And perhaps it's for the best because then I'd have never met my husband.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
Yeah I believe that everything happens for a reason in life. Long distance relationships are hard indeed.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
14 Oct 17
Been there, done that. Long distance relationships simply will not work out even if you do meet up in person for a variety of reasons.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
14 Oct 17
@Ri1089 I don't think about it one way or another anymore.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
Sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you. Do you have good memories about the relationship or did it end in a bad way?
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
@JohnRoberts oh okay I see, well that's good that you moved forward. Hopefully I can do the same soon.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
14 Oct 17
Its really hard to handle long distance relationship. You may trust each other but there are so many factors, happenings, jealousy and gossips that could destroy the relationship. If you can avoid LDR, avoid it but if it can't, just accept the fate.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
14 Oct 17
LDR is one reason why some good relationship fail. Maybe its just how it meant to be but I know it hurts.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
@ilocosboy it does. I'm very shy to meet somebody in person though. I always meet people online first
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
Yeah I agree. I just couldn't help getting closer to her. Lesson learned now.
• Havre De Grace, Maryland
15 Oct 17
trust issues is one of a long distance realationship killers people cant trust people anymore or your prior experiences kinda of way you down
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• Havre De Grace, Maryland
16 Oct 17
@Ri1089 Yeah things happen for a reason I have had issues with relationships and i never asked why stuff happens just try to do things differently
@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
16 Oct 17
Yeah but trust was never a problem. I trusted her and she trusted me. I guess it just wasn’t the right time or person for me.
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@genpius (466)
• Nigeria
14 Oct 17
Never try such, though my girlfriend is not in same location with but we still create out time to see each other
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
That's good. The most important is that you make time to be with each other. We used to Skype nearly everyday but it didn't work out after nearly a year.
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@genpius (466)
• Nigeria
14 Oct 17
@Ri1089 can relationship like that be very serious, there is a great chemistry in physical contact
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
14 Oct 17
@genpius yeah I believe so, it was the best relationship I ever had to be honest. Too bad we never met.
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