Discriminating fat people...

yes sometimes this does happen ...my friends is very overweight form her giving childbirth and she is having a tough time finding a job becaue they have told her she would be a risk to hire her ... she is trying ver hard to lose weight but its tough for her... as for have I ever ...I haven't thought about whether they were "fat" or not if I like some one I like them not matter what ....

Hey .. I was a fat girl too .. until 11th grade.I had back then 97kg(213 lbs) .. I can`t say that i felt discriminated , because i had lots of friends ..friends to hang out with .. but that was it .. nobody wanted a fat chik to be his girl .. and this was one of the reasons i started a diet . Of course i wasn`t comfortable at all in my skin being that fat .. because every time i went shopping with my friends or family .. i could never find something fashionable for my size too .. and that pissed me off .. And .. besides .. i have a skinny little sister too .. who keeps saying every day how fat she is .. but she`s only 48 kg(105 lbs) .. so you can imagine the stress i`m in every day . I managed to loose about 30 kg(66lbs) so far .. but with the weight i also lost my health .. because now i have eating desorders .. and i can`t eat normally because all i`m thinking is .. that if eat that or that i`ll get fat again .. So for almost 3 years .. my life is a continuous diet .. and that i can tell .. it`s not easy at all .. And in my oppinion .. and i have lots of friends .. those who are a lil` bit chubbier are the greatest persons alive .. and i`m telling you this for shure .. because that`s what my boyfriend tells me every time .. that i have a great soul and i`m so kind .. but if i would have been as fat as i was 3 years ago .. i`m shure he wouln`t even bother to get to know me .. to get to know the person under those extra pounds .. and this makes me very sad .. because i know people who just can`t get slimmer .. because they have tiroid problems .. but besides that .. are great friends and i`m shure that could be great lovers too .. so .. my question is .. why do we have to care so much about the outside .. when inside we`ve got great treasures that need to be desocovered .. ?

Well what kind of relationship do you mean? Discrimatoing agains relationships or with just friendships?

i have a very goo friendship with an over weight person and she is just wonderful. she does feel alone as there are people who make fun of her.

Yes they are discriminated against. They are not hired for as many jobs. It is funny because my husband is the hardest working person I know, but so many places have passed him up for a job because they think he is not fit and can't work hard. There have been places that wanted him and said he had the best resume but when he shows up and they see he's big they say NO .. Now he works at a grocery store. He started as a bagger and then after 2-3 weeks he went to a cart boy because he was the only one who did that job right .. then he went to cardboard recycler because he was the only one to handle the machine.. then he went promoted to a stocker and that was his promotion after only 3 months.. They usually don't promote to stocker someone with no experience. Now he is the favorite employee of the whole store. He works HARD and NEVER complains. He was sick and they put him working in the freezer and he didn't say ANYTHING. Finally his boss saw him and took him out and said to his assistant manager "OMG look at Luis he worked in the freezer and he is really sick?? He is almost dying and he never even complains! See, now THAT is a real man" The other day he fell bad and hurt his back and kept working . Again his boss saw him and said "damn you know so-and-so person when he falls he complains all day and wants to get sent home! But look at you just keep working" All those other places now that didn't hire him are missing out! My man is big but his legs are so STRONG and his arms are so STRONG and he has so much POWER.. and he is SEXY I don't care if he is fat I love big men. I would not be with a skinny man maybe I would but it is not the same!!

i think is true however they must loose weight in order to be respected your body reflects your mind and you should maintain a balance between these parts

It is unfortunate that we judge people for thier looks. I have been in a relationship with someone who was over weight but not obese. I met him in a bar and had a good time with him and decided to have a relationship with him. We dated for a while, but there was no magic. I was over weight for a few years and worked at it and loss the weight. I think anyone can do it if they are motviated, but they should not hurt themselves doing so. People should be happy with who they are and if conforming to societys view makes them happy, they should go with it. If not, they need to be themselves, but they still need to be healthy.

I got lot of friends who are on over weight side. I dont look at them any less than my friends who are average and skinny side. I know some people do discriminate people who are over weight but people around me are not.

The reason why i dont really date overweight guys is mostly cuz i like a guy who can keep up with me! i LOVE to run and i'm really energetic... if they cant keep up with me then its not as much fun for both of us. one of my best friends is way overweight he's an awesome guy but i can't help but not want him as a boyfriend because i know he wont be able to keep up with me. But when it comes to making fun of fat people its not right. some people cant help being overweight... sometimes its hereditary! i've just been blessed with a will to work out and stay in shape. Some people don't even care.

Well, I am an overweight woman and I have never noticed being discriminated against. I don't get why you even call us fat people. We have feelings and most overweight people don't want to be called fat. I have been dieting for 6 months and have lost 60 pounds. Unless you are a big person or have been you will never understand what it is like. I have had lots of realtionships, with all sorts of people. If I were to let being big bother me I would never have gotten any where in life. Some one is going to always be picking on someone. So I just don't worry about it. I feel people who pick on others must be insecure about there self.

i used to be obese then i lost a ton of weight. i was in love with a slightly fat chick, i loved her personality so much. fat people shoudlnt' be made fun of but they do need to take responsibility for themselves.

i am overweight myself and only ever gone out with one overweight person, i think you are what you are and my husband would love me if i was 10 stone or 20 stone. but the issue with overweight is medical problems i have high blood pressure and tired all the time.

i dont prefer as a wife but as a friend its ok to have fat friends.

I've never dated a girl who been over weight no. I personally hate it when people look at them and treat 'em cruelly. my mums a large women because of medical reason and i people used to look at her and think it was because she liked food or didn't do exercise etc. I like having a mouth for this reason. I do get in peoples faces for this and i always have, it's kinda hard when you care about people. (i used to do it at school too) especially when bullys would pick on chubby people because they thought they was a easy target. Mad joey =) Kudos!

they are afraid of what they don;t know...

I guess I do discriminate. I'm not attracted to obese men but I don't mind a lil extra baggage I just don't like excess baggage.

I am having some Fat friends, and believe me the best friend for me is the fattiest of all.... and i love being with her... she is fun all the time... but i like to kill ppl who keep starring at her for her fatness....

I personally have never had a relatioship with a fat guy. I think fat ppl have problems with getting a date. Though they can be a very nice ppl. Its just Im not attracted to fat ppl.

thats is true fat people are discriminated .but I personally feel its not ur size or ur body that matters what matters is the type of person u r for e.g people who r very beautiful may not be interesting because of their egos and etc but on the other hand even if u r fat but u r a good listener u understand people well and if u r the one who knows how to empathize well then ur outer appearance would not matter rather u will be the one called as an interesting person and people bound to fall in love with interesting people rather than gooord looking beautiful ones

thats is true fat people are discriminated .but I personally feel its not ur size or ur body that matters what matters is the type of person u r for e.g people who r very beautiful may not be interesting because of their egos and etc but on the other hand even if u r fat but u r a good listener u understand people well and if u r the one who knows how to empathize well then ur outer appearance would not matter rather u will be the one called as an interesting person and people bound to fall in love with interesting people rather than gooord looking beautiful ones