UH OH! My Boyfriend Is Sneaking in my Account!

@neildc (17239)
Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
October 19, 2017 11:49pm CST
I have this friend that told me about her problem with his boyfriend. Well, it's not actually a problem or should I say, not a big problem to her. Here's the story; The scenario is like this. One time, this girl had to make some posts or would like to upload photos of them both to her social media account. Since she was busy or she had a poor internet connection at that time, she asked her boyfriend to do the posting and uploading of the photos. So girlfriend gave her account details to him, that includes the email address and password to logon to her account... Time passed and this comes... One day, they were in the middle of a conversation with each other. They were chatting on messenger, exchanging sweet thoughts, no nonsense stories, etc. When all of a sudden, she noticed one message coming from her side but the thought of it came from him. So she asked him, "why are you in my messenger?". And so, they arrived into somewhat, misunderstanding, a cold war for a few days. Even when she intentionally gave him access, would you say that this is some kind of intruding privacy, opening her account without him asking permission or even informing her that he is logged on? Is it fine revealing your password and other security details, even to your loved ones, say spouse or sweetheart? Do you feel it's still safe that they know how to enter your account and get information of yours? Do you think girlfriend have to trust, still trust his boyfriend that promised not to sneak in again to her account without her permission? Will you trust someone of your password and have access to your account?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Oct 17
The boyfriend doesn't mind me sneaking around his Facebook account and since I know his password and all. I think it depends on both of you if you let the other one access your social media account.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
20 Oct 17
So i guess your boyfriend know also your password in your account.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Oct 17
@JustBhem I guess that is one reason why we also need at least one person know our password, in case we are gone?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Oct 17
@ilocosboy Nope. He doesn't know. Lol. I know most of this password but he doesn' know mine. But I did give him all my password in case I'm gone someday.
@YesWay (3674)
20 Oct 17
If you give someone your account details you have to expect that
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Oct 17
@YesWay I guess so. It's only that you still need to ask permission or just even inform him/her if you are logging on.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Oct 17
@YesWay Right.
@YesWay (3674)
20 Oct 17
@neildc Which is why passwords should stay private
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
20 Oct 17
Personally if this is an issue change the passworc etc to whsre you dont have to worry about it.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Oct 17
@KrauseHome As I have mentioned in the OP, it's not actually a problem to her. It's not even a big deal. Maybe she was just surprised at the time.
@josie_ (10034)
• Philippines
20 Oct 17
Maybe she got mad because she was chatting with another boyfriend?
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Oct 17
@josie_ I don't know.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
20 Oct 17
Sometimes its not good to sneak aeound especially when don't comfortable with. If you her then there shouldn't a problem. I think if one party doesn't like or wanted some privilege then so be it.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Oct 17
@ilocosboy I think you will never give someone your password if you are not even comfortable with that person.
@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
20 Oct 17
that is correct.
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@BigTalpha (117)
20 Oct 17
Yes I do I think you should be transparent with each other. I'm not saying give them access to anything having to do with your job per se but I do think you should be with everything that's personal. If something happens and you break up or divorce then you can always change all of your passwords and even create new accounts.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
21 Oct 17
@BigTalpha Transparency but still there's privacy between both. That's right, if everything gets rough we can still change the security level.