find a loner

Cavite City, Philippines
November 3, 2017 9:58am CST
If you see someone standing alone in the corner, clutching his or her drink, and looking miserable, don’t be afraid to walk up and introduce yourself. Typically, these people need a little help getting the conversation going.
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@BarBaraPrz (47313)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Nov 17
Sounds like good advice, but sometimes they are there under duress and would rather be left alone.
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• Cavite City, Philippines
3 Nov 17
if you start a conversation it could make them feel more relaxed and willing to connect.
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@BarBaraPrz (47313)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Nov 17
@jhayzelledc On the other hand don't be surprised if they tell you to go away.
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• Cavite City, Philippines
3 Nov 17
@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
3 Nov 17
Well, this should be your first activity here, introducing yourself since you are new to mylot, and that will lead us for more conversation with you. Anyway, welcome to mylot.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
3 Nov 17
yeah, but it would be better if you make discussion about introducing yourself. Many members would love to know a new member was here.
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• Cavite City, Philippines
3 Nov 17
@ilocosboy i need to do it ?
• Cavite City, Philippines
3 Nov 17
yes its my first activity here. hi im jhayzelle from cavite
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
6 Nov 17
I agree , we can smile and see the reaction whether they want to be left alone or want to communicate .
• Philippines
3 Nov 17
I guess I have to think twice before doing that. There is also a lot of psycho on this world. Don't dare come near someone who is a total stranger.. Because they might seem weak or trouble.... But better to take things carefully... We will never know if our safety is at risk.
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
5 Nov 17
I totally agree with this, specially in our country not really the best idea to just approach a stranger regardless if he looks lonely, miserable or what
@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
3 Nov 17
Sometimes, its scary to approach to stranger specially in my country. a lot of random bad guys around the corner. a lot of guys pretending a good guy but actually not.
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
5 Nov 17
I would agree with this, not really the best idea specially for women to just approach a stranger
@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
5 Nov 17
@phillyguy yeah that's why sometimes no matter how we want, our current situation is risky.
@rey123 (774)
5 Nov 17
Its such a good thought.'Depression' is one of the most commonly found mental conditions around the world.And 'loneliness' can be one of the main factors contributing to depression.So its never wrong to approach a person who you feel is lonely or in need of a company.......
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
5 Nov 17
never wrong but dangerous and risky would you agree? I think in theory it's a good purpose but in my opinion it is really not the greatest idea to approach a stranger just because he/she look lonely
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@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
5 Nov 17
@rey123 in that case I would totally agree with you, but just in the given scenario I think she's actually pertaining to some "stranger", since she mentioned something like walk up to him and introduce yourself
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@rey123 (774)
5 Nov 17
@phillyguy It need not necessarily be a stranger.As you've mentioned above,it may be quite risky to approach a total stranger to lend a helping hand.He/She maybe an axe-murderer,psychopath or a serial killer like Hannibal Lecter.But you can reach out to your colleagues and accquaintances who you feel are introverted or has a real trouble in socialising.This may really help them to beat their loneliness and depression
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
3 Nov 17
Yes, some are a bit shy of approaching others but if we take the initiative and approach these people then we both benefit.
@LadyDuck (471541)
• Switzerland
5 Nov 17
Following people and not visiting them to "discuss" brings nowhere. This site is all about interaction, do not stay in a corner, you do not even need to write. Go around and comment.
• Thane, India
4 Nov 17
according to 3rd wave feminist man should never reach to this lonely girl!
• Philippines
3 Nov 17
what if that person just whants to be alone to. maybe he or she needs a little alone time right?
@Shortail (845)
• Philippines
3 Nov 17
or maybe that person just want to be alone, and don't anyone to disturbed them. be careful if you going to approach them. LOL,