Frustrated with a couple of friends who are also co-workers
By The Horse
@TheHorse (220191)
Walnut Creek, California
November 30, 2017 9:33am CST
Ever been in a situation where you work with friends, but are frustrated with what they're doing on the job?
One is my immediate boss at the preschool. Yesterday, she shooed me away as she was dealing with a favorite kid of mine, a 2 1/2-year old who was crying and had been for 15 minutes. She's been micro-managing us, and I kind of wish she's just stay out of the classroom!
Another is an Administrator for whom English is a second language. I'm transferring my medical insurance to the preschool, and she's making it really difficult by giving me incomplete instructions and then dumping things back on me when she makes a booboo.
Oh well, this too shall pass.
The image is of Mark Twain's daughter, Susy, taken in 1873. Her expression reflects how I feel right now.
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@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
1 Dec 17
that is a pain...I also have one co-worker that drives me up the wall sometimes, she’s just a teacher same as I am but she’s approaching retirement and she thinks she knows it all that she’s always in everyone’s business...and the worst part of it all is that our principal listens to her without weighing the facts first! But I’ve learned to just shake her off and avoid her all together, and if she oversteps on my rights well I fight back...by smiling and pointing out that it is absolutely none of business...
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@vandana7 (100581)
• India
1 Dec 17
@TheHorse ...It is kind of difficult to tell others that. They take it as offense. Sigh...I have tried all the methods, and so I have realized best way is to rationalize, and if they don't accept the truths, then be nasty because it means they understand and realize and are still obtuse.
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
30 Nov 17
Thankfully no I have never worked with friends. Doesn't sound like an ideal situation for you right now. Yup that expression on Susy's face bout says it all.
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@thislittlepennyearns (62927)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
30 Nov 17
Just think of how much the kiddos love you. You're right this too shall pass.
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@Diamond55 (116)
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30 Nov 17
I hope your medical aid gets sorted out soon. All the best.
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@vandana7 (100581)
• India
30 Nov 17
Grumpy look...hmmm ...am I glad I am not the "administrator for whom English is a second language". If it is any consolation two and a half years old children are adorable. I love princess as you know. So she likes using my cell phone now...listening to motu patlu video while she tries to eat her lunch. She can't pronounce YouTube as yet. I kind of want her to stay at my home, forever. She drew up small rounds she called ice creams...and she said this is for dada (her father), this is for paternal grandma, this is for brother, this is for atta (that is me), this is for me (hmmm I came before her), this is for attata (my father), and then her mother. This one is really really great child. Pity she will grow up.
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@JamesHxstatic (29413)
• Eugene, Oregon
1 Dec 17
Sounds like those two can be a daily irritation.
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@teamfreak16 (43418)
• Denver, Colorado
4 Dec 17
I never could stand micro managers. Lots of them in the Army, though. Had no choice.
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@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
26 Dec 17
When I worked at a local daycare center, we had a screamer among the work staff! I'd be so stressed out, working under those conditions, for hours at a time:( It made the children, and me, a nervous wreck! On top of that, she lied to our boss and got me in trouble! People can be awful, so they don't have to admit they're wrong
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@TheHorse (220191)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Dec 17
What makes it really hard for me is that both people are good friends. The Director is GREAT, but she's been grumpy and overly controlling recently. Screaming at kids, as you experienced, is bad for them in many ways. I could go all psychological on you and say that screaming increases cortisol, a stress hormone, and chronically elevated cortisol is bad for the hippocampus, a brain structure essential for memory retention. So stress inhibits learning, and we're trying to get our littlies to learn!
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@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
26 Dec 17
@TheHorse The children were only being kids, Heather was acting like a jerk! Did I get along with her, yes I did. But working with a screamer, it's hard to deal with:( Finally, Peggy gave me playground duty outside, what a blessing! LOL
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 17
When this happens, you can get things done smoothly
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Dec 17
Reminded me of something I went through during band season (my kids are in band and I help out). I was in charge of the group of youngest kids, and they gave me a helper and the helper was a mother hen type of person and I didn't like how she was doing things.
Band season is now over... so as you said, this too shall pass.
@much2say (55969)
• Los Angeles, California
30 Nov 17
In terms of "now", I don't work but I do volunteer in the mornings in my son's classroom. There are a few other moms that I enjoy chatting with, but oh they drive me nuts when we all volunteer together. Of course one has to feel like the leader and another is just too slow with things. It's more than that - but I bite my lip.
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@shaqziad1610 (506)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 17
I make it a point to never be too friendly to co-workers, and never work with friends or family members. Call me anything you want, I don't mind.
@JamesHxstatic (29413)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Mar 18
I hope that transfer of insurance works okay, with her as the one to get it right!
@andriaperry (117141)
• Anniston, Alabama
30 Nov 17
I ran a a roofing company for years, I owned my own landscaping business for years, I have been a landlady for years, I know difficult people, especially co workers.
Relax, things will work out.
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