Wearing wedding rings?
By ruth roberts
@welshbabe (81)
United Kingdom
December 4, 2017 9:19am CST
Have just read an interesting post on this subject.
Personally I often used to wear my ring on the wrong hand - just to be a bit different I suppose. I don't see the need to wear something to show I am married - and these days only put my rings on for special occasions if going out. Its more comfortable to have no rings on your fingers and I used to hate getting soap underneath them and having to keep taking them off.
My husband and I have both got rings and have now been married almost 40 years - but my wedding ring is now too small so if I do wear rings I wear my late mothers wedding band - I have lost my engagement ring.
To be having to wear a ring (more so for women than men) was a kind of branding to show you were 'taken' and unavailable to other men - not very emancipated!
I am not one for putting a lot of store on these conventions - why should one ring be so important anyway - its the marriage that is important - not the trappings.
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@LadyDuck (472121)
• Switzerland
5 Dec 17
I am married from 45 years (will be 46 the next 27th of December). I wears my wedding band, but it's just for me, not to show to the others that I am married or because I judge that this is important. We are happy together, no matter if I wear or not my wedding band.
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@LadyDuck (472121)
• Switzerland
5 Dec 17
@welshbabe Absolutely, there are not secrets to be happy together.
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@welshbabe (81)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 17
Good for you - yeas we are almost 40yrs - so its the staying power that matters - not the trappings!
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@welshbabe (81)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 17
Good on you for doing what feels right for you - just wondering now if anyone has ever married WITHOUT rings?
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@youless (112591)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Dec 17
@welshbabe I don't know. It seems that it is a trend to have the wedding rings.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
8 Dec 17
@youless I knew someone who got married without wedding rings MY husband and I attended his friends' wedding and due to the religion of the bride (which I forgot) wearing wedding rings is prohibited. They got married without wedding rings in a Judge coz church wedding is also prohibited.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
6 Dec 17
We don't have the custom of wearing wedding rings although a married Hindu woman wears a mangalsutra, a necklace made with black beads and a plate like pendant around her neck all the time and put vermilion on the forehead . I wear one too because of sentimental values .
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@welshbabe (81)
• United Kingdom
6 Dec 17
Thats very interesting - to hear of the different marriage customs - thank you.
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
6 Dec 17
@welshbabe That's where I wear mine... I had a discussion on 'left or right ring finger' back in May of last year and I learned that wearing it on the right hand finger was the norm in some cultures.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
8 Dec 17
@sishy7 A lot of people really got confused on where to put the ring.
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@welshbabe (81)
• United Kingdom
6 Dec 17
Supposed to be the left 2nd finger as that has a connection straight to the heart apparently.
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@welshbabe (81)
• United Kingdom
4 Dec 17
I'm sure some people feel that their marriage will be in some sort of danger fi they remove their ring - but a ring is just a ring - not a magic symbol.
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@welshbabe (81)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 17
@Happy2BeMe Yes you hear of people in later years having to have their ring cut off as its not been off their finger since the wedding - ew - I'd rather take it off and wash my hands properly!
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@rosegell08 (140)
• Philippines
5 Dec 17
I like wearing my wedding ring not to tell the world that I am married but because for me, it is a symbol of your promises to each other. Not that if you do not wear one, you are no longer faithful or what. I don't know, maybe it is just me. However, if it no longer fits me, then I would definitely take it off instead of losing it. Anyway, I haven't taken off my wedding ring since I got married. Is it just me being dramatic?
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@rosegell08 (140)
• Philippines
7 Dec 17
@welshbabe Yeah, some of my friends do that too, especially those who wash clothes manually and what not. I think it actually depends on your preference and certain situation. :)
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@welshbabe (81)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 17
Nothing wrong with wearing it al the time if its what suits you. Though even when I worked I used to leave them on my desk to wash my hands etc.
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