Help Please
By Rasel
@Diamond55 (116)
December 4, 2017 11:49am CST
I have a friend and her family uses her for money constantly. Her step dad drinks everyday he does not work, and he demands a bottle of whiskey everyday and call her everyday when he is the bar for her to pick him up which she does. Her brothers are drug addicts who ask her everyday for money and she gives. She cant afford to get her own place because her money goes to everyone else and not her needs. How do i tell her that her family is using her without me seeming forward.
Please advice me.
Thanks
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6 responses
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
4 Dec 17
Sometimes you got to be blunt and tell it like it is. She knows what is going on and only she can stop it from happening. She is their enabler.
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@Diamond55 (116)
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4 Dec 17
@Laurel thank you so much. She is enabling them that is why they refuse to work.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
4 Dec 17
@Diamond55 yes she is doing them no favors at all only making things worse
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@Diamond55 (116)
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5 Dec 17
@Laurel that is so true. She has been planning to get her place for years but keeps giving her family money, so she can't afford to move out at the moment.
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@Mryougataga (27)
• Casablanca, Morocco
6 Dec 17
She only needs one thing, she needs to stand up for herself, and tell them to get a life, desapear for a couple of days, she got friend right ?
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@Diamond55 (116)
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6 Dec 17
@Mryou She is just too kind. And her family tend to use her
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@Mryougataga (27)
• Casablanca, Morocco
6 Dec 17
@Diamond55 thats why i said she got to stand for her self, enough is enough, i mean thats what happens when the person is too kind, forgive my bad english but ask yourself that, if you find a mine of gold will you say am just gonna take what i need and go ?! Of course not, and she is not mine f gold, one Day she will break down and none of her family will helo her
@rina110383 (24492)
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5 Dec 17
Tell her upfront that her family is economically abusing her.
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@Diamond55 (116)
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5 Dec 17
@rina i will tell her, i just hope it does not ruin our friendship. Some people do not like hearing the truth.
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@DreamAjinkya (43)
• Nashik, India
7 Dec 17
@Diamond55 yes speak with her soon try to tell her that she is destroying her own life by entertaining her family tantrums.
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@DreamAjinkya (43)
• Nashik, India
6 Dec 17
Tell her to get disappear for sometime , just don't respond to her family . make her family realize that they are nothing without her support and what she is going through because of them. i know it is not that easy to do but , sometimes our decisions help us to change things . nobody can help her unless she don't take a step to change her life.
Hope she get out of this problem as soon as possible.
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@Diamond55 (116)
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6 Dec 17
@ajinkya Sonar that is true. I will be speaking to her soon. He family is over doing it.
@Diamond55 (116)
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6 Dec 17
@Filip I will be seen her tomorrow and will speak to her. Thank you so much.
