My thoughts on "Me Too"

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When women typing "Me too" on social media as a show of solidarity became a trend, I made a post saying that it didn't apply to me, but I felt for those that it did. At first, I thought that "Me too" was pertaining to rape and it's victims. No. It's harassment in general. One of my friend's definitions is "anything that made you feel uncomfortable". In that case. Yes. Me too. Many instances. Some excusable. Unwanted attention is going to happen in this world. It's how the one giving the attention reacts when told to stop, or told no. Some inexcusable. Like the 40-something year old man who saw fit to ask my dad to save me for him when I was 14. He was willing to wait 2 years in order to marry me at 16. The real clicher? He was already married but thought I would make a splendid concubine/2nd wife. Some things were my fault. I've done things (not always of a sexual nature) that I didn't want to because I didn't feel like I was allowed to say no. This is not the fault of the person acting on me - rather this is the fault of society and not being taught that it is alright to say no. But some things were their fault too -- like the countless men who think "negging" me is going to get them - anywhere at all. It's a low thing to do. "Negging" for those who don't know... is when a want to be Don Juan approaches a woman and runs her down. Something like "Hey, I like you - but you sure are unattractive. A lot of men wouldn't even talk to you, but I like your personality. Would you want to come to my place later?" -- so the thought is that by running her down, and then stating what a generous person they are for mearly paying attention ... that the women will rush to their hotel room, home, etc - anxious to do whatever act or acts he may desire because, after all, she is lucky to have his attentions. I've had variations of that tried on me numerous times. And all it gets them is told to shove off. Now, of course this isn't the same as a serious offense as rape. But we need to raise 1) - Men who don't think that cruel mind games are a good way to get what they want and 2) Women who are strong enough to say no and to tell these jerks off. And what of the string of so many celebrity males who are getting called out for sexual harassment. Louis CK Mario Batali Matt Lauer Kevin Spacey Garrison Keillor to name a few. I don't know all of the details concerning what these men did. But I think there is a fine line and that we may be over re-acting. What is important to me is - How did they re-act to being told "no"? Did they stop or continue the behavior? Did they threaten the person with job, position or power? Of course I am happy that these perverts are being called out for their wrong actions, but I fear that these allegations may be going a bit too far, too. Like Garrison Keillor. I guess he patted a woman on the back. He said that her shirt was unbuttoned and his hand slide down her back. (I'm still trying to sort out the physics of how that happens, but...) she jumped back, he apologized and she remained friendly with him until just now. Of course that's his side of the story, maybe her's is different -- but is it going a bit too far? I think so. If that's how it happened - did he deserve to loose his job over it? I don't think so. I also wonder what this will mean for flirting and dating. Of course no one should be touched in a way that they don't want - people should stop when told no - totally yes. But what about casual hugs, pats on the back, handshakes? Will these things go the way of the dinosaur? I've always needed men to be rather direct before I figure out that they like me. Will they be too scared to be direct now? What do you make of it? Link to Garrison Keillor article :