Living with parents or giving up Love ?
By Icydoll
@Icydoll (36717)
India
December 18, 2017 1:54am CST
One of my friend is facing a love problem.her father is against to her's love.but the boys parents are willing her to marry.problem only from girls parents.my friend is trying to convince her parents.but she is helpful and going on sleepless nights as she is not ready to forget him.she decided not to marry anyone as she not willing to leave her parents
Is her decision correct ?.though not leaving her parents is right being single forever is not correct.Any suggestions friends?
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8 responses
@rina110383 (24492)
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18 Dec 17
If I'm in her position, I'll have to hear my parents' reasons for not being in favor of my partner. If their reasons make sense, I might consider them. Otherwise, I'll follow my heart.
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@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
19 Dec 17
Its complicated since the person has to choose love over family or otherwise. what do you think if your parents are away from you? for the sake of being equal, its better for the person live with the spouse than the family so the couple will be matured enough in handling and growing the family.
they can still visit both families... dont worry about that.
maybe if im in his shoes i prefer to stay with spouse rather than family because it may be avoiding the conflict of mother in law or father in law interferences with family matters. it doesnt mean that we should left and doesnt care about family but we should grow our family. we realy has to make decision from how to arrange the house and to keep it clean how to manage the finance between husband and wife because money matters a lot or how to take vare the children.
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@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
20 Dec 17
@Icydoll thanks for your positive response its long time i didnt response to mylot. your discussion is attracted me for the first time this year. i miss mylot. gud luck to your friend.
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@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
18 Dec 17
It is the usual dilemma but if she really loves the guy, she should follow her heart.
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@holdoors (2517)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 17
I think that sometimes one has to make the hard decision. If all efforts to convince the parents fail, you might just have to do what you think is best. If she thinks that this guy is gonna be the right partner for life, just proceed with it. Otherwise, she might regret what could have been. In life, we do not get things so easily. There may be challenges to overcome but they might come to terms with it in the end.
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@SanamGabriel (1)
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18 Dec 17
Dear, this is a tough decision her parents are the people that raised her and brought her into her life, but this man is the man she loves. I do think that she should ask them why they do not want this guy for her and consider those, then she should explain to her parents why she wants this guy. The solution to this is communication to her parents. She deserves to be happy and with the one she loves,
@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Dec 17
Well said ..yeah communication is needed.the conversation is going between them . her parents are thinking about caste.they don't want to give their daughter to a low caste person that's what their problem.its a prestigious issue for them they care more about their relatives words and respect they had till now will ruin.i totally don't understand this why can't they understand a daughters love.thanks for your response and suggestions .. between welcome to Mylot .
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 17
It is her life and moreover she is an adult, therefore, she should be all full liberty to take a decision about her marriage. I feel that staying with parents is not the solution to her problem. She needs to take a call.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
18 Dec 17
I think she has her best decision and her parents will gradually realize the worth of their daughter then agree for her love. It is not easy to give up the 'love' for parents and she did it, which proved her love to their parents as well. So she will never get disappointment in her life. I am sure her parents will agree her 'love' sooner or later.