Why this photo will never appear on Facebook

@TheHorse (220266)
Walnut Creek, California
December 22, 2017 1:16pm CST
Facebook is weird. Some people publish false political memes without giving much thought to them. Some people post photos that show how much more fun they're having than you are. Some post about what they just ate. Some post about how much more amazing or beautiful their kids are than yours. Some teens sill post "duck faces." This photo will never appear on Facebook because it's from a small music party I went to a few days ago. The host, Kathy (with her arm on my knee), invited a handful of her favorite music buddies. If I posted this photo to Facebook, other music friends might wonder why they weren't invited. Still others might "retaliate" with photos of their own musical good times. Humbug. One of the things I like about MyLot is that it's (almost) entirely separate from my day-to-day world. I do NOT invite friends and relations to join MyLot. I can write about whatever the hell I want, including them. Buwaahaahaa! Are there things you like and dislike about Facebook v. MyLot?
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topffer
@topffer (42156)
• France
22 Dec 17
Ha ha ! The Horse is unveiling his darker secrets here. I invited friends here when there was a referral program, but none of them joined. And not a close friend has a Facebook account.
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topffer
@topffer (42156)
• France
22 Dec 17
@pgntwo I never used one of these. I have been invited to join Linkedlin several times, but I resisted. I use often Skype though, and I even had a Skype phone number during many years.
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pgn
@pgntwo (22408)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
22 Dec 17
@TheHorse @topffer Facebook fanatics we're surely not. What about WhatsApp, now owned by Facebook, and... LinkedIn?
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Dec 17
I don't visit Facebook that often any more.
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pgn
@pgntwo (22408)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
22 Dec 17
Facebook? Mention not such feeble fancies on a hardcore place as this!
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yugocean
@yugocean (9963)
• India
23 Dec 17
Facebook is softcore? maybe or maybe not.
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pgn
@pgntwo (22408)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
23 Dec 17
@yugocean myLot is the hardcore site to which i was referring
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yugocean
@yugocean (9963)
• India
23 Dec 17
@pgntwo then we are the smartcores we are here.
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KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
22 Dec 17
I Love how here you can talk and share about what is going on in your life and world, and more people will ask about you. On Facebook it is all about Politics, who is making more $$, bitcoin, etc. Never just about you or your family and Health unless they're just trying to do a one up.
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Vicki, #1 Creek Girl
@1creekgirl (41744)
• United States
22 Dec 17
@TheHorse I really, really don't like people who always have a more serious illness, more brilliant grandkids, more vacation trips to more exotic places, and generally just more of everything than me.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 Dec 17
@1creekgirl That's what Facebook is for! Good point about even illnesses being a part of the game.
simplyme
@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
22 Dec 17
I don`t post too much of my life on Facebook
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simplyme
@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
23 Dec 17
@TheHorse Yes, Same with me
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Jan 18
@m_audrey6788 One thing that bothers me, though: If I DO post something serious (not necessarily about my personal life), it gets less attention than a breakfast post or something.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
23 Dec 17
I do post some of the fun stuff. Or the silly stuff. But the really personal stuff is for those who are truly close to me.
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BarBaraPrz
@BarBaraPrz (47670)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
22 Dec 17
Who is that behind you? Do you guys ever get mistaken for each other?
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BarBaraPrz
@BarBaraPrz (47670)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
22 Dec 17
@TheHorse Any relation?
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
3 Jan 18
@BarBaraPrz Not in the last few centuries.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Dec 17
His name is Rick, and he's one of the best bluegrass pickers in the East Bay of the Bay Area. Yes, it's happened.
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Shiva
@Shiva49 (26776)
• Singapore
23 Dec 17
I am not active at Facebook as I am a rather private person. I open up at online sites as I feel they are different from FB in the way people interact - siva
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Ptrikha_2
@ptrikha_2 (47079)
• India
25 Dec 17
Yes @Shiva49 reserved and slightly introvert persons like being on Mylot better.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
23 Dec 17
I try to have good boundaries on Facebook. I post mostly about music and about speakers I'm restoring.
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Shiva
@Shiva49 (26776)
• Singapore
26 Dec 17
@TheHorse Maybe, I connect with those who have an inner world too, at a deeper level, and that looks more real to me - siva
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maezee
@maezee (41988)
• United States
22 Dec 17
Ahaha I agree for all the same reasons. Nice photo by the way.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Dec 17
I wonder which family member I should gripe about today.
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Kharla Jolly
@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
22 Dec 17
@TheHorse Where he's at, the fire just keeps getting a bit warmer!
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vanny
@vandana7 (100603)
• India
23 Dec 17
It is an abnormal picture for this platform too. You are smiling Pony!!! Glare..LOL
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Jan 18
It happens now and again.
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 17
Yes that's the only thing I like about mylot as our friends and relatives may not read what we write here. But the irony is my wife sometimes reads my posts.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Jan 18
Oh dear. No complaining about your wife, then.
Anna
@LadyDuck (472060)
• Switzerland
23 Dec 17
I use FB only to keep in touch with distant family. I do not join groups or post personal photos.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (472060)
• Switzerland
24 Dec 17
@TheHorse Some of the friends I used to meet when I was a teenager contacted me through FB, it was nice to get back in touch.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
23 Dec 17
Distant family and friends not seen in a long time. Those are good things about Facebook.
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RasmaSandra
@RasmaSandra (80784)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Dec 17
I don't think about it. I use FB to connect with old friends I have long known online and if I have a photo to post it is usually an old photo. Like you photo you all look so happy.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Jan 18
It's a wonderful group. Sadly, we only see each other a couple of times a year.
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WorDazza
@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
22 Dec 17
I've never been on Facebook so can't really comment. From what I have seen it does just seem to be a one-upmanship medium.
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WorDazza
@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
23 Dec 17
@TheHorse I like the concept of a hierarchy of friends. I also have one. Those I speak to and those I don't.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Jan 18
@WorDazza Heh. You don't have that "between zone": people you're happy to talk to once every six months or so?
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
23 Dec 17
Yes, it can be quite silly. But it does allow me to keep in touch with old friends who are one level below a phone call
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Danna B.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
22 Dec 17
Things would get turned around pretty quickly. I say post the photo anyways. It's a good photo of you guys. And just Perfect for Christmas.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Dec 17
Don't want to stir up no drama. It probably wouldn't, but I don't want to think about it.
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Danna B.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
22 Dec 17
@TheHorse Good idea. Play it safe for the holidays.
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Blue Butter Fly
@fly802 (1383)
•
23 Dec 17
I dislike Facebook because I have seen most of the people of my area make the false profile and don`t value their relationship.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Jan 18
What kinds of things do they post that aren't true?
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Blue Butter Fly
@fly802 (1383)
•
4 Jan 18
@TheHorse Such as marital status, address even sometimes they use the fake name.This is really horrible.
Heather Echola
@GardenGerty (160977)
• United States
23 Dec 17
People on myLot know a lot more about me than Facebook folks. I just stalk people on facebook.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (342110)
• Rockingham, Australia
22 Dec 17
I don't use FB at all for all the reasons you give. Vince is on a couple of photos sites and one for people connected with our old home town but that's about it. I don't invite friends to join myLot either. It would seriously compromise my posts although I really try not to post anything that would lead me to know who I'm talking about - except Vince of course but I consider him fair game. Second time I've used 'fair game' in a comment this morning.
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Angie
@andriaperry (117146)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Dec 17
Same here, This is my hiding place from the facebook people.But I mostly just use it to promote my blog now
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Jan 18
Does it work? For some reason, I rarely (if ever) promote my YouTube music on Facebook.
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Angie
@andriaperry (117146)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Jan 18
Anshu Banerjee
@mysimplelot (1347)
• Calcutta, India
23 Dec 17
You are right the world of mylot is different . It is fun and engaging to participate here. Almost all other tasks are mundane. Also I just see facebook have wierd posts. So I never ever read fb posts.
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Sooraj yadav
@Surock786 (160)
•
23 Dec 17
So beautiful smiles , it looks awesome and nice decorated x-max tree
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Jan 18
Yes, it was a festive day. Hey, I like your beard. Mine is getting all grey!
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@saritflor (3914)
• Hungary
24 Dec 17
That's a lovely image, something that I don't like about FB is that people let themselves be over judging toward others. I don't like as well over exposing oneself. Never understood it.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Dec 17
People are quick to judge, aren't they?
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Dec 17
@saritflor I don't post any negative stuff on Facebook. Oh wait. I've engaged in a couple of political arguments. But I was civil about it.
just someone
@saritflor (3914)
• Hungary
24 Dec 17
@TheHorse Yes sadly they are, the luck we can change that with time I hope by giving our thought on that matter
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