What is it about deaths and births?
@gnatsmom (2575)
December 29, 2017 9:45pm CST
Has anyone else noticed that births and deaths bring "family" and "friends" out of the woodworks. I mean, really, where were all these people before the dramatic events?
My dad is dying. He has had health issues for years, but he is tough. He has plowed through and kept living life and loving his family. In June of this year, he was diagnosed with an incurable liver disease. He has rapidly declined with his health.
Today we brought him home from the hospital on hospice care. They have given him about 2 weeks to live. Now, all of sudden, there are people who have barely seen him over past years, people who have not spoken to him in more than 10 years, family who have not participated in his care, and people who have not sacrificed a minute to let him know they care wanting to plan the funeral, boss the family around, criticize how we have done things, and love all over him like as close as peanut butter and jelly.
I am not one for keeping my mouth shut and playing people's petty little games. I want to tell them all to back off or point out their hypocrisy, but for my daddy, I say nothing. I just want his last days to be peaceful and joyful. It is bad enough we are losing our dad, that my kids and grandkids are losing their grand dad, but we have to share our last days with him with a bunch of glory seeking fakes is almost too much to bear.
It makes a dying man happy, though, to know so many people are coming to be with him and love him. I can tolerate this because once he is gone, they will all go back to their homes. And once he is gone, he will be in heaven experiencing perfect peace and joy and will never have to worry about the posers again.
Am I the only who struggles with these thoughts and feelings?
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
30 Dec 17
my family only comes out of the woodwork when someone's dying to see if they're inheiriting anything.they must be fools if they think we don't know what they're up to.
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@Letranknight2015 (52230)
• Philippines
30 Dec 17
This reminds me of my own Father who is now in dialysis and won't live long.
He's too old for even a transplant though. The worst is that he is far away from us here.
@gnatsmom (2575)
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30 Dec 17
Yea, my dad was told his only hope was a liver transplant, but his health is so bad from other things, he is not a candidate. They said even if a liver transplant was approved, he would not make it through the surgery. My dad said he would rather die at home with his family than on an operating table. I am so sorry that you are so far from your father.
