The sad reality of a long-term relationship.

@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
December 29, 2017 10:12pm CST
You become more of friends rather than lovers. Sometimes sleeping off an argument is better rather than facing it while everything is hot. You don't need to fix it outright. Give them space to think it through. There will be a lot of unspoken words, a lot of unnecessary words thrown at you, and a lot of pride and changes to adapt to. Being on a road to a long-term relationship is good but never lose yourself while in it. Be with that person who will not mind if you get fat or your skin sags, dark or you lose the beauty that once made him fall for you, after all, you are not a timeless beauty. Make sure that you are in that road with someone who will be worth you LOVE, PAIN and ANGER, worth your TIME and EFFORT and most of all, worth of that KINDNESS your heart is yet to unleash. Can you add some more? Thanks. Let's all have a good one.
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Judy Story
@jstory07 (139578)
• Roseburg, Oregon
30 Dec 17
There is lots of good things with a long term relationship. You have love and a life time of happiness by being together.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Yay, thanks for adding some. Anything else?
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Danna B.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
30 Dec 17
Sounds good, but then again...
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
@db20747 What?
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
30 Dec 17
You should always be friends with your partner. But i think you should mostly be lovers. Hope things are okay with you and your relationship?
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
30 Dec 17
@JustBhem I'm glad you don't
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Actually, I don't have issues with my relationship. I just thought of how it takes to have a Long term relationship. I mean based on somebody's experiences.
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manya_pearl
@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
2 Jan 18
long term relationship can cause boredom... we miss the spark and passionate love while keeping it romantic when one another is getting blunt. i dont know also why i experinced short term.relationship, im the type who is easily getting bored with my partner if he is not that funny and cute...
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manya_pearl
@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
5 Jan 18
@JustBhem Yes i really prefer funny and humorist partner. The ones i used to date were boring ones because too serious. I didnt know why i attracted those silent persons...
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Jan 18
@manya_pearl I was before and I prefer loud person or those guys who always keep you laugh.
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
2 Jan 18
Hmm, my past relationship was all serious person. And you are right, there. We tend to get bored. But if your partner is a jester, friendly person and full of a sense of humor. I bet, there is not day, months even years on your relationship you get bored. I mean, find a person that can make us laugh all the time.
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Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
30 Dec 17
That's why it's best to end up with someone who became your friend first.
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Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
31 Dec 17
@JustBhem That's good. How long were you friends before you realised you were falling for each other?
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Hmm. The boyfriend was my friend first.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Jan 18
@toniganzon I think for 10 years.
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Honey143
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
30 Dec 17
This made me contemplate for a moment if I was on the same kind of relationship you are talking about. =)
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Hmm.. Tell us more.
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
@sw8sincere Oh, and are you in a long-term relationship at the moment?
Honey143
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
30 Dec 17
@JustBhem well, what I wanted to say is that I am hoping I can have the same kind of man based on the descriptions you indicated above since today is different than what it is tomorrow and anything that happens today might possibly change in the future. =)
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What'sUp_Cel
@rheicel (7065)
• Philippines
31 Dec 17
I'd been in a long-term relationship before but sadly it ended.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Jan 18
Oh, is it bad?
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
3 Jan 18
@rheicel Oh sorry to hear that.
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What'sUp_Cel
@rheicel (7065)
• Philippines
3 Jan 18
@JustBhem yes, bad break up.
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ShannyBananny
@shaggin (72116)
• United States
30 Dec 17
Long term relationships can be scary not knowing if they feel as strongly as us. I have trust issues so it’s tough.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
I see this is another thing to consider. When it comes to having a relationship. Other people get traumatized by the fact that they are being used and lied. And there comes the trust issue.
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allen0187
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
30 Dec 17
Wise words you got here.
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allen0187
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
31 Dec 17
@JustBhem I have no previous experience so I'm afraid I cannot add anything aside from what you and the others have written.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Jan 18
@allen0187 Okay, I think that is legit.
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
And what can you add?
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Anna
@LadyDuck (471330)
• Switzerland
30 Dec 17
I am with my husband from 46 years, we are happy being together and every day is a new discovery. Never enter a "routine" this kills romance and love.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (471330)
• Switzerland
30 Dec 17
@JustBhem I think that it's not impossible to have this kind of relationship, sure a lot of patience and of understanding are needed.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Oh, I so love that kind of relationship. Thanks for sharing yours, Anna.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
@LadyDuck Oh yes, of course. Because it's a long way.
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DianneN
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
30 Dec 17
Never go to bed angry. Kiss and makeup.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Okay, it is good sometimes. Thanks, Miss D for adding. How long have you been married to your husband?
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DianneN
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
30 Dec 17
@JustBhem A long time! lol
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
@DianneN Yay. I think 20 years?
Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Dec 17
Those are all good. Though I wouldn't call it 'sad'. A long term relationship requires friendship, trust, honesty, hope, and love. I'm sure there's a lot more than that, but those to me are key.
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Dec 17
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
And I believe that. Thanks for adding.
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ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 17
trust and honesty should always be present in a relationship, whether long distance, or within one's reach
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ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
31 Dec 17
@JustBhem happy 2018, hija
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Jan 18
@ridingbet Same to you my Dear friend.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Yay. I agree on this. Thanks for sharing, my friend.
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Danna B.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
30 Dec 17
Yeah, it's a lot of nerve wrecking work. It's best if things fall into place naturally.
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Danna B.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
30 Dec 17
@JustBhem try to have as fum a time as possible and hold it together as much as possible without being driven to drink.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
@db20747 Yay. Well, that's a good thought there.
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Okay, and what is the best thing for you then?
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peachpurple
@peachpurple (13962)
• Malaysia
30 Dec 17
Someone who can accept your flaws
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Oh yes, thanks for sharing. Someone who can accept your flaws.
prashu
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
30 Dec 17
After seeing the topic i thought , there may be some problem , but glad its not that.. its just your thoughts. yes of curse love should not fade away it should become stronger with time
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Nope, no problems with me. Thanks for sharing with us.
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LK2018
@Letranknight2015 (51938)
• Philippines
30 Dec 17
It is never easy to begin with but with communication I think it can be a great help to maintain a good relationship. At least have a video calls everyday.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Yay, and are you doing that at the moment.
Anne Marie Guyer
@LeaPea2417 (37350)
• Toccoa, Georgia
31 Dec 17
My husband and I will be married 30 years tomorrow. He & I share a lot of the same ideas and we are best friends.
Angie
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
30 Dec 17
You are right about a lot of that.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 17
Can you add to the list? I mean base on your own experience.
Esther Nwulu
@Esthern (5)
• Asaba, Nigeria
30 Dec 17
Hmmmm ok
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