An Incredible Visit with My Nephew

A Selfie My Nephew Took of Us
@bagarad (14283)
Paso Robles, California
January 6, 2018 2:52am CST
My younger nephew came January 2 to spend a few days with us, and I put him on the train home this afternoon. I haven't had such intense conversations far into the night since my college dorm days at UCLA. J played chess with my husband, let me tell old family stories to help him learn more about our family, and looked at a lot of photos. In turn, he opened up and shared enough from his own life to allow us to get to know him much better. I hope this will be the first of many visits, but this one came close to not happening. I have been very sick since the week after Christmas, as has my husband, who is still recovering not only from his accident in Dec. but also from an infection related to his prostate on top of the virus we've both had. The week after Christmas took him to different doctors every day the week after Christmas except Friday. Some days I was well enough to take him and other days a friend had to. Even Tuesday morning I was as weak as a kitten and didn't see how I could possibly be in shape to pick up J at the train station that afternoon. We had an unexpected visit from the plumber we'd been expecting for about three weeks. Then my friend came to clean. We had about an hour to rest after she left before I was supposed to drive to the station. I had been exhausted, but God gave me strength and I was able to do what I needed to do. Now the visit is over. I believe J is very vulnerable. I think that although he smiles and jokes a lot and is physically grown up and strong, this body language is deceptive. After intensive periods of conversation, I believe he's crying on the inside and searching for a good reason to live. I pray God will reveal himself to J and help him find the joy and peace that can only come from God himself. His family life was tough as a little boy, and though it's been much better in the past few years, it's left a lot of emotional scars that need healing. I'm very burdened for him, wanting to help and just needing to leave him in God's hands right now. My heart hurts for him. I so very much want for him to find the hope and peace he seeks.
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11 responses
• China
6 Jan 18
You did your best to have a conversation with your nephew ,though you were not quite yourself.The conversation definitely did your nephew a power of good.
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• China
7 Jan 18
@bagarad It is better for your nephew to talk to you about his problem than bottles it up.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
7 Jan 18
@changjiangzhibin89 I agree. I've found that sometimes when I talk about my problems to a third person, I begin to see them more clearly by verbalizing them, even if the person I'm talking to doesn't say much except to express that they are listening.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
6 Jan 18
What I most hope is that this time reassured him we loved him and are with him in whatever his struggles are.
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• Kathmandu, Nepal
6 Jan 18
Yeah, it's great to visit someone, especially the relatives. I am happy that you visited to your niece. Thanks for that.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
6 Jan 18
Actually, he's my nephew, my brother's younger son. I'm very glad he didn't let me scare him out of visiting.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
7 Jan 18
@creativeaashish We are grateful he came to us.
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• Kathmandu, Nepal
7 Jan 18
@bagarad Oh, I am sorry for the mistake! And yeah! He is a very smart young boy! We can see that clearly! Hope your wish will be fulfilled! He must be grateful for having you!
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
6 Jan 18
I hope he finds peace as well. He is such a handsome boy and he deserves to have a good peaceful life.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
7 Jan 18
@bagarad Let's pray for that and hope he would ask God for guidance as well. God knows exactly where to lead us if we only seek HIs advice.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
6 Jan 18
He has some huge decisions to make that would be hard for anyone. I hope he's able to receive God's guidance if he seeks it.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
7 Jan 18
@toniganzon That's exactly what I'm praying for. We know that God answers when we ask in faith. His problem now is that he doesn't have that faith to ask yet.
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@LadyDuck (470798)
• Switzerland
6 Jan 18
I am glad you were able to meet, even if you were sick. Talking with your nephew J surely helped him a lot.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
6 Jan 18
I hope it helps him think things through and find his own answers to the issues he faces. I hope God will grant him faith. Only God can.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
7 Jan 18
@LadyDuck That is what I'm hoping.
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@LadyDuck (470798)
• Switzerland
7 Jan 18
@bagarad Let's hope he can find the right answers he need to continue his path through life.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
6 Jan 18
Just visiting you may have helped him. I hope he finds inner peace. It can be a long journey to get there, especially when you have scars from your childhood.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
6 Jan 18
I think some parents would be amazed to realize how things they may have said carelessly or from their own places of pain may have had a lasting impact on their children. Even after relationships begin to heal, some of the scars from those hurts remain.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
7 Jan 18
@Srbageldog I hope you will be able to work this through to a place of forgiveness and peace. It's always hard.
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• United States
7 Jan 18
@bagarad This is something I struggle with in my own relationship with my parents.
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@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
6 Jan 18
Hope God touch his heart and his life, nothing is impossible if we have faith :) He's a good looking nephew by the way :)
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
6 Jan 18
He needs to find that faith himself. He has questions and obstacles. I'm praying God will give him the answers he seeks. He is handsome and could be a model if he wanted, I think. He has a marvelous range of facial expressions.
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
6 Jan 18
Hi there! I hope you`re feeling much better now I also wish that your nephew will get through with his difficulties. I always remembers those difficult times I have gone through and "Faith in God" has always been a big help for me Just learn to trust and he`ll be fine
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• Germany
7 Jan 18
@bagarad I believe you`re right and I wish the same
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
6 Jan 18
I'm hoping he will find the faith he needs to trust God himself. That's how I'm praying. Besides being my nephew, he is our godchild.
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@allknowing (135331)
• India
7 Jan 18
I am sure your nephew found solace talking to you.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
7 Jan 18
I hope so.
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@MALUSE (69373)
• Germany
6 Jan 18
Your conversations may have helped him a lot.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
6 Jan 18
I hope and pray so. It helps a lot just to know what he's thinking and feeling.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
10 May 18
@bagarad Having a not so good life can really leave scars and they are not pretty. I hope he can visit you more. I hope you and your husband are feeling better now.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
12 May 18
We are both over the flu long ago. Now we fight other issues. I don't think he will be visiting as soon as he thought he would. He needs to get a job this summer.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
15 May 18
@Hannihar I'm not sure I'm ready for another visit yet. I still need to file a tax amendment and find a place to put all that tax stuff I'm still sorting on the bed where he slept.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
13 May 18
@bagarad Barbara, I understand about health issues. So glad you are over the flu. Sorry about the health issues and hope he finds a job where he will be able to visit you some time.
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@kavinitu (5535)
• India
8 Jan 18
Hope you had a Wonderful Day with your nephew Lovely Picture of you both.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
8 Jan 18
Thank you. He came on a Tuesday afternoon and left on Friday afternoon, so we had two full days and a couple of mornings.