TMI! (Too Much Information!)
By Diana Bauder
@BloggerDi (3113)
United States
January 8, 2018 2:32am CST
I am on a bowling team and our league meets weekly. My teammate's wife comes with him almost every time. She's a very friendly, sweet lady.
This couple has been on leagues for many years. They know most of the other long-time bowlers. I've only been on that team for a couple of years.
I want to maintain a friendly and drama-free relationship with the wife. But she often takes me aside and whispers about people there who I don't even know! She tells me very personal information about them, like marriage problems, etc.
It makes me uncomfortable! I feel like saying "Please STOP! I don't need or want to know any of this stuff!!" But instead, I think I'll just suddenly need to go to the restroom or something, every time she starts gossiping to me in the future.
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8 responses
@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
8 Jan 18
@BloggerDi
That is good Diana that he knows.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
8 Jan 18
Thanks for your comments @Hannihar. Actually, her husband hears her do that all the time and he is used to it I think. I will try to take it lightly if it continues, but not participate in it. I don't want create a stressful environment for myself every week.
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
8 Jan 18
Maybe you need to tell her, that you'd rather not know this...that you prefer not to talk about others....isn't the weather??
The weather us usually a safe topic.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
8 Jan 18
Yes, good idea @Morleyhunt. I've responded before by saying "Woah! TMI!" and laughing a little. I might do something like that every time, followed immediately by a change of subject!
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
8 Jan 18
@BloggerDi it will be interesting to know how long it will take her to get the hint?
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
8 Jan 18
Some people just like to talk about other people's lives. I guess they have nothing else to do with their own.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
8 Jan 18
I had exactly the same thought! Thanks @toniganzon.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
25 Mar 18
Thanks for your comment @id_peace. I think gossip is a common problem everywhere.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
8 Jan 18
I think you are correct @yugocean. I've been careful not to share too much about my personal life with her. Thanks for your comment.
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@yugocean (9963)
• India
8 Jan 18
@BloggerDi I have experienced many such people, and avoind those who only badmouth others.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
8 Jan 18
Thank you.
I've tried to be diplomatic and not offend her. I also don't want to get on her gossip list. But yes, @jstory07, I might have to be blunt with her.
@121266lulu (350)
• China
8 Jan 18
I think maybe she will speak bad words behind you.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
8 Jan 18
Hello @121266lulu. I agree, so that's one reason I'm being very careful about how I approach this situation. Thanks for your comment.
