Nephew Is dead to me
By Heartstalker
@Onsoul (82)
Buffalo, New York
January 15, 2018 11:53pm CST
So I got really close to my nephew when he was younger, but as time went on I realized he was just a piece of trash.. always using me for his own amusement just because no one else wanted to put up with his crap! I bought this kid a 400 dollar ps4 system.. loaded it with games and hes still asking for more. when we play a game its the game he wants and we do what he does...
he never listens to me or even asks or acknowledges me, and so I left him go.. got into a HUGE verbal fight, over email and texting and phone calls.. told him to grow the heck up and stop being the victim.. he never got it.
time went on about 7 months later after I cut him out of my life and forget about him and started focusing on me.. he calls out of the blue and I knew it was him because it was late. ( which means he was properly high) and called me twice. finally leaving a voice mail, stating how much he missed me and loved me, and blah blah... I believed it and let that whole theory stew in my head and ruin my weekend away...
I decided to give me nephew another chance, he was 20 now.. 7 months without me must have changed him.. so I tried to reconnect with him... same old nephew.. I listened to this kid with my boyfriend cry and ball his eyes out over a girl that he gave his first time too, after she plays him, and sleeps with other guys and gets her friends involved.. my nephew still continues to deal with her... so all my time listening to him and feeling bad for him was for nothing... I was pissed... so after I can only take so much, I've cut him off.. this time for good! no more hurt in my heart, no more sleepless night worrying about him and not myself.. and he never cared a damn...
how would anyone else have dealt with this situation? I spoiled this kid with everything and I get neglected and stuff.. not cool right? let me know
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4 responses
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
16 Jan 18
At 20 he really should be a responsible adult or at least be showing signs of being one. I'm not a parent but I have a brother with a 13-year gap. Was spoilt by my late mom. Always got what he wanted. When my mom passed away, I immediately assumed parenthood. With me, he finally heard and understood the word "No". And that he does have to work for what he wants, or at least save. He needs to understand that he has to live within his means, or within the amount of money I give him as an allowance. He still has a streak of being spoiled topped with vanity but I am happy that he has become more independent, more determined to finish school so he can try and find a career for himself. He is a work in progress and I'm proud of it. There is something about a sheltered life, and materially provided kids that make them complacent and unmotivated in life.
Reconnecting with him is totally your choice. I don't think you can turn your back forever on someone who is almost a son by heart. But if you do, you better put your foot down against some of his outlandish demands, and if he does something wrong, he should be told off.
I always believe that kids develop their own personality but 90% of the time, it is a reflection of good or bad parenthood.
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@Onsoul (82)
• Buffalo, New York
18 Jan 18
man honestly couldent agree with you more! .. Im down for now, twice is enough. having a good support system from your parents is always a step in the right direction... alot of people dont have that, he is included.. I feel like Ive become the parent my brother was suppose to be. I talk to the kid, offered to help him find a job... nothing, like a wall... so Im tired ya know? he will get it one day, my past was horrible too but I grew and learned and what not from it.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
18 Jan 18
@Onsoul I totally hear you. You seem like a very caring person. You must be seeing yourself in your nephew's eyes but there's only so much help and guidance you can do to a person who refuses to help himself.
@Letranknight2015 (52072)
• Philippines
16 Jan 18
Reminds me of my own nephew, but I'm happy how he turned out because he's more disciplined now than he was before. You'd think he has a gf when he's completely different from his Dad because he focus more on his studies. I hope he doesn't fall in love soon.
It's heart breaking but maybe it's better off if you don't talk to him this time and let him see how wrong he's been doing. I think it's his Karma if he keeps on dealing with her.
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@Onsoul (82)
• Buffalo, New York
18 Jan 18
yeah Idk, Im real fed up.. maybe one e will grow up? Ive honestly think ive done enough.. just hope he grows up before I die... ha
@jstory07 (139782)
• Roseburg, Oregon
16 Jan 18
That is not cool. Maybe he will grew up and see where he went wrong or he will never think he was in the wrong.
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
16 Jan 18
Too much of everything is no longer good at all. When you spoil him with the things he wants, it makes him feel so special and valued that he has forgotten how to value and acknowledge your presence too.
I hope he could finally realize your worth and that he would appreciate all the things that you do.
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@Onsoul (82)
• Buffalo, New York
18 Jan 18
yeah he gives me a sad sob story over how much he cares and he doesnt,, his actions show this time and time again. his upbringing like I mentioned before is bad but I believe anyone can change their situation, and I had it worse than he does, so In a way I cant feel anything per say anymore.. given my last two attempts..
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