Are You Being Rude? Ways You Might Be
By DB
@dgobucks226 (35733)
January 20, 2018 4:12pm CST
Is it possible to be rude and not know your actions are offending someone. Could being overly polite and well-mannered actually be taken the wrong way?
Here are 8 examples where being well-intentioned actually may be misinterpreted:
1. Asking someone eagerly and happily "Hey how's It Going" at a funeral. Maybe not the place to be so chipper right.... Best to turn it down a notch because "Doing Great" probably won't be the answer.
2. Offering Unsolicited Advice- a common mistake. Best response is to just listen. Offering your advice without being asked could annoy the person.
3. Saying "I'll Call You"- I bet many have heard that line before. You finished an awkward date but you want to be polite. Best not to say it if you don't mean it.
4. Giving Directions From The Passenger Seat- You've heard the term "backseat driver." You might think you are helping, but may be bothering the person instead.
5. Guessing Someone's Age- Do you really want to play that game? If you do, take a few years off that guess!
6. Saying I'm On My Way- Your running late or haven't even left the house yet but you want to reassure the person with this white lie. Sure many are guilty of this one myself included.
7. Asking A Friend Why They Are Still Single- Your so nice looking I'm surprised your still alone. Stating the obvious to someone who already knows their status probably feels like rubbing it in to that person.
8. Failure To Correct A Person Who Gets Your Name Wrong- You may out of politeness let it slide. But this just eventully leads to embarrassment (for that person) when after the fifth time you decide to correct them.
These are just a small samples of unintended rudeness. I am sure their are many other examples one can come up with in addition to those I've mentioned. Maybe you've been a victim or commited some of the one's I've mentioned here (I know I have).
Care to comment on a personal experience or chime in with another example?
Source- Summarized from Expresso online article (by Amelie Vachon)
Photo-U Tube/google images
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
20 Jan 18
Happens to the best of us. Usually unintentionally.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
23 Jan 18
@dgobucks226 true but there are some who thrive on being rude so there's that. Best way against these people is to just flat out ignore them.
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@dgobucks226 (35733)
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23 Jan 18
@allen0187 Sound advice allen 
I do it on this site.
I do it on this site.2 people like this
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
21 Jan 18
Many of these I am sure we all have done. I know the one with the name I have accidently called someone something else, and not had them correct me for awhile.
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@dgobucks226 (35733)
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23 Jan 18
That is very true. I have been called by the wrong name and have done the same to others. Especially if you only met the person once and are meeting them again. I know how much that can be rude so I will ask them again what their name is if I forgot.
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Jan 18
White lies upset me. I like the truth. It is rude to lie. I think it shows a lack of respect. Now days these little white lies seem to be okay and are over looked. Not with me. I think that if a person is going to tell a white one they are just as apt to tell a black one.
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@dgobucks226 (35733)
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23 Jan 18
I do detest lying. I also know white lies are told to spare one's feelings at times. It can be a real moral dilemma for some. For example, my Aunt had leukemia and the family decided to white lie and tell her she was ill from something else not terminal. In this case I would not say they were rude.
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@dgobucks226 (35733)
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23 Jan 18
That's a good one Judy. Parents have hinted at that with their children and relatives too. Very embarrassing and uncomfortable for the couple.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
21 Jan 18
#6 and #8 I have done a lot. Those are some great pieces of advice.
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@dgobucks226 (35733)
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23 Jan 18
Yes, I've done those 2 myself! I had a guy call me Butch thinking it was my name. Since I wasn't going to see him again, I just let it slide 
@seaprimavera (46)
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20 Jan 18
I used to struggle with this so much. I am slightly autistic (Aspergers), so I often do not realize when someone is uncomfortable socially. Also my filter is not so good, so sometimes I will say something I am thinking and then realize, oh maybe that was not good to say. I tried years to fix it, and though I am not as bad as I was when I was younger, I still do.
Though I myself recently have experienced something I thought came off as a bit rude. I told someone I was pregnant and they said oh you can tell, even though my belly had extruded and others have said I definitely am showing. Felt like she was saying oh no you just look chubby. lol
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@dgobucks226 (35733)
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23 Jan 18
That is rude on 2 counts. She did not believe you were pregnant and commented negatively on your appearance. 
