How much is too much?

By DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
Bangalore, India
January 21, 2018 6:11am CST
Seriously? I know some peeps have no sense of personal boundaries or privacy and this is largely true for peeps in my country! But geez! Let's put forth a scenario: So, this woman walks up to you and start a conversation. You know this woman so, it isn't strange for her to do so. And somehow topic of conversation changes and suddenly she is grabbing your butt and boobs to measure! WTF?! Have you encountered such a person or witnessed something like that happening? How would you react? What do you think about this person's actions?
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
22 Jan 18
I'd get away from that person very fast.
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Jan 18
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
26 Jan 18
@just4him I did. She was a clingy one though.
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pgn
@pgntwo (22408)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
21 Jan 18
Not a common occurrence with menfolk, in my experience. And not one I think I would appreciate were I female, either.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100296)
• India
21 Jan 18
What if it was a female doing it to you pgn? Sorry....
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vanny
@vandana7 (100296)
• India
23 Jan 18
@pgntwo How honest can you get..lol.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100296)
• India
23 Jan 18
@DaddyEvil Sigh...Poor pgn...
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vanny
@vandana7 (100296)
• India
21 Jan 18
Time to wear pants and bras with spikes perhaps. Weird ..she needs help!!!
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vanny
@vandana7 (100296)
• India
23 Jan 18
@DaddyEvil ...There is a saying..."Don't trouble trouble until trouble troubles you". lol
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DE
@DaddyEvil (137259)
• United States
23 Jan 18
Nobody called me to this discussion, vanny...
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jan 18
@vandana7 She is long gone. It happened many years ago. She was brazen one for sure. Had affair with several men still being married. Had a son out of one of those affairs and kept the paternity secret until the boy was over 2 years old and one day just left the house to elope with her lover. She had no shame or remorse, whatsoever. During divorce proceedings, she said to give the boy to the one who fathered him. She didn't care what happens to him. It was easy for her to say but think about the family who raised him until then even though he wasn't blood-related. They didn't even have a say in the matter legally because only biological parents decide the fate of the child.
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Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jan 18
Only seen that when someone is drunk.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100296)
• India
21 Jan 18
They do it? Blink
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jan 18
@LovingMyBabies At least they have excuse
Jabo
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 18
I would definitely not be ok with that, in fact I would be very offended. I'd tell her to keep her hands to herself.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100296)
• India
23 Jan 18
A glare and a twisted face showing repulsion is something that will help. I have stayed in hostel so I know. :)
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vanny
@vandana7 (100296)
• India
24 Jan 18
@jaboUK ...Generally, they know who is like that based on looks and behavior. So they do not cross boundaries. This one that DJ came across was a deviant. Such people opt for girls who are not standing up for themselves.
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Jabo
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
24 Jan 18
@vandana7 I'm glad to say that it's never happened to me.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Jan 18
I think she has an issue with her personal thoughts? I mean, we have a friend, when you talk to her, the conversation runs smooth and at the end, she will get upset at you, sometimes get mad at you. Like, what the heck happens to her?,
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vanny
@vandana7 (100296)
• India
21 Jan 18
Some people are weird...they have something in their mind, and they don't know how to get it out...
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jan 18
@JustBhem She is not from here. Maybe not well versed in how personal space works
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Jan 18
@vandana7 And we cannot read their minds too.
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 18
I don't think this is normal behaviour of that person. I would have definitely asked him/her about it and resisted it.
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 18
@Daljinder I lived in bhiwadi for around 6 years and have visited Rewari many times
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jan 18
@sjvg1967 Come to Haryana! lol
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jan 18
@sjvg1976 Really? My Dad used to work in Bhiwadi years ago. His factory shifted base from Delhi to there. We used to spend summer vacations there. Beautiful place, isn't it?
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Arthur Chappell
@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
28 Feb 18
more often a problem women have with men - for me if a lady makes such advances it would depend who she was, where we were and how private we were and if we were both sober
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Arthur Chappell
@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
28 Feb 18
@Daljinder then clearly she is violating you
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
28 Feb 18
@arthruchappel It is acceptable in privacy AND with consent. This lady had neither.
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Anne Marie Guyer
@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
21 Jan 18
I would be upset and let her know that.
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
26 Jan 18
@LeaPea2417 Definitely! Her actions were inappropriate
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DianneN
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
20 Feb 18
Yikes! If that ever happened to me, I'd slap their hands away!!!! Sick!
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Cindy Tolbert
@cintol (11261)
• United States
28 Feb 18
I have never had anyone do that before, so weird. You sure they weren't trying to pick pocket you?
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
28 Feb 18
@cintol No, we were at a training centre for women. She used to be our neighbour
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Namelesss
@Namelesss (3365)
• United States
1 Mar 18
Haha, some people just don't have the hang-ups most of us are saddled with. I probably would have laughed out loud and said, "What the hell are you doing?"
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
4 Mar 18
@Nameless yeah no personal boundaries. In their mind, they are doing nothing wrong
Miss Nikki
@MissNikki (5237)
• Maple Ridge, British Columbia
27 Jan 18
Sooo, this is a woman doing this to another woman? Wow ... either way, gross!! No one should be touching your body without permission ...
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
1 Feb 18
@MissNikki yeah no sense of personal space
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Miss Nikki
@MissNikki (5237)
• Maple Ridge, British Columbia
3 Feb 18
@Daljinder That's not cool
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Nitin
@nitirrbb7 (4317)
• India
11 Mar 18
That's really absurd
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
11 Mar 18
@nitirrbb7 ...... not for her ...apparently.
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maezee
@maezee (41988)
• United States
21 Jan 18
I would not be ok with that.
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jan 18
@maezee understandably so!
Jellybelly
@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
27 Jan 18
I seen it t a Christmas party, this woman was hanging over all the men, after having too many drinks touching and all.
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DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
1 Feb 18
@CookieMonster46 She was inebriated but this woman was not.
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