No Communication For A Week
By Firefly
@cttolledo (5454)
Legaspi, Philippines
January 22, 2018 5:01pm CST
Last night I made a declaration of" No communication" for a week or more at my own discretion, starting today.
I'm not sure if what I am doing is right, but that's the thing came in my mind as best solution to give each other a time to think deeply about our intense argument last night.
What do you do after you had arguments with your partner?
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
22 Jan 18
Really?. Hope this tactic will work for him He must learn his lesson also. Lets see
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jan 18
Yes bhem. Eversince he's the one who used to say sorry first. Well I must admit that I'm kinda have a high ego sometimes, but maybe girls really like that. Anyway, silence is sometimes helping to calm down and re evaluate.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jan 18
@cttolledo
Before, when we used to live with each other. Whenever we have a fight, we cannot let the fight end the night. Usually, he is the one who will offer peace offering by taking me to Jollibee.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jan 18
@JustBhem haha that's nice peace offering haha food! Hehe.
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@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
24 Jan 18
Hello @cttolledo oh, that got me curious as to why you want silence with your husband? I hope that you two would reconcile.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
24 Jan 18
not yet a husband. well, lets say it has something to do with time, priorities something like that. Not actually a big fight, just wanna have a little bit space and silence .
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
24 Jan 18
@Letranknight2015 Well I'm not sure if he's worried. But, I know everything will be fine. Just need time to vent.
@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
24 Jan 18
@cttolledo He would get worried that's for sure. He loves you that's for sure.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jan 18
But for how long is the ideal period to be silent?
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jan 18
@Madshadi in your own experience, have you experience that?
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@Madshadi (8840)
• Brussels, Belgium
23 Jan 18
@cttolledo depends on the situation I suppose
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jan 18
Yeah exactly. Must have a clear mind and calm feeling in settling any issues and in decision making.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jan 18
@rheicel yeah. That's very true. So my decision is just right
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@rheicel (7065)
• Philippines
23 Jan 18
@cttolledo It can avoid a heated argument because you might say a word that could truly hurt and you won't be able to take it back.
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@BabeSays (8575)
• Mauritius
22 Jan 18
I remain silent and stay away. But he is nice he always comes and ask for forgiveness even thou it wasn't his fault. Seeing the love he has for me melts my heart and we patch up.
I suggest you appologize even if you are right. Do not waste a week not talking to each other when you can spend it having fun together.
Life short my friend every moment counts. I think it's betyer to lose arguement than losing the one we love.
Good luck dear. I hope things get better between you two. 
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jan 18
I got your point, but sometimes, you have to leave space to think and calm down.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jan 18
@BabeSays That's true , maybe this is one way also to test our commitment to each other
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@BabeSays (8575)
• Mauritius
23 Jan 18
@cttolledo I agree but don't let the empty spave fill by something else until the love fliea away dear. A week is way too long.
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@Angela150 (928)
• London, England
22 Jan 18
Yes it is best to keep silent and wait for the bad moods to pass and then everything will perfect.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
22 Jan 18
Yes. This is my first time to do it. A week is too long for us not to talk already . But anyway this is something that I have to go through to have a secured relationship.
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@Angela150 (928)
• London, England
22 Jan 18
@cttolledo Yes a week is too long. I could not do it for more than 48 hours|!
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
22 Jan 18
@Angela150 let's see. As of today he has 2 miss calls and 2 messages already. Lets see
@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jan 18
That's true. Maybe there's a risk also because that's a chance also to think if everything between you are still worth it.
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@PriscillaKing (53)
• Gate City, Virginia
23 Jan 18
Whatever it takes.
My husband and I had only one Real Disagreement (unresolvable while it lasted: two different relatives in different places would've been better off if both of us had been with them). It non-resolved in his favor, sort of--we stayed with his relative--and we *limited* communication and he did lots of things to (try to) make up for it.
Apart from that, we were adults, dual income no kids, so it was easy to form a habit of thinking "Do I want what I want, right now, or do I want to stay with him/her and what s/he wants?" Mostly we wanted to stay together. If not, it wasn't a real problem; we could work, travel, or shop separately.
Having to stay together and try to minimize the emotions for children...could be more problematic.
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