Should I Let This Go Now?
By Alian123
@Alian123 (549)
Philippines
January 29, 2018 6:04am CST
I have a boyfriend, we were friends before we got into a serious relationship. As time passes by, I can feel a different kind of love. It seems like I love him as a friend only. And I've been having this weird feeling that something isn't right, that I should stop. My mind, my body, and my soul are shouting and demanding for freedom.
I don't even know what kind of love am I feeling for him right now. All I know is I want to find myself, think about me, my goals in life and everything. I just want to be alone. Yes I am a 100% sure that I love him, I just can't figure out what kind of love am I feeling for him.
I don't really know what to do. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but if I keep this going then it will me who is going to get hurt...
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6 responses
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
29 Jan 18
I and the boyfriend were friends too when we get into a serious relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend.
And I don't feel anything like that. And as the days moved on, my love for him gets deeper and I know he is for me too.
Maybe you are very confused at the moment.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Jan 18
@Alian123
Well, if that's the case. Tell him to his face about how you feel.
Let me share this with you. It happens to my friend too. She broke up with his boyfriend of 5 years because she was confused and she wants to find herself. She was honest about her feelings towards his boyfriend. The boyfriend was devastated because he thought everything was perfect for them. So they broke up. My friend thought she will have all the freedom in the world because she travels a lot and meets new friends. Until one time, she noticed something missing and she cannot figure it out. So he visits the guy hoping to see him and know if his okay of course as in excuse for missing him.
She saw the guy with another girl, and what surprise her is that the girl was pregnant.
And they look very happy.
My friend ended up heartbroken, she still in love with the guy. But the guy is already taken.
Never heard of my friend anymore. I think she went abroad.
The thing is, I don't want you to end up miserable because you want freedom or you want to find yourself.
There are ways you can be yourself even if there is somebody loving you.
All you need to do is focus and be happy, and of course love yourself more.
Sorry for the long statement here. 
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
29 Jan 18
Could it be a simple case of honeymoon stage dying out? A lot of relationships start off very exciting, very inspiring, very romantic, the trivial things are bursting with meaning and serendipitous feels that you wanna run off and get married....until it simmers down.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
30 Jan 18
@Alian123 Well, that is quite a predicament. You want time for yourself, without sounding selfish. I guess you need to be honest with yourself and with him. The more you stay in a relationship that's not going two ways the more it is unfair to him. Have a conversation
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
19 Feb 18
Yeah I think you should just let him know and break up with him and be friends as early as now before you both get into a fight and such.
@Gita17112016 (3611)
• Trinidad And Tobago
31 Jan 18
If you don't know exactly what kind of love you are experiencing, you need to put some space, pull back, and watch yourself to see if you understand how you feel. If you hurt, are missing him, and can't think of anything else, that it's the right kind of love for a boyfriend. An easy test is to see if you feel jealousy. I think if you don't have the right 'feelings' then you'll end up hurting him even more.
