Is it wrong to mourn a dead cat more than a dead relative?

No-one can help the way they feel, and there's no need to feel sorry for someone dying when they have dementia. Pets become members of our family, don't they?

I actually feel more grief when one of my "babies" has passed on also...meaning one of my cats. I've had cats since I was about five years old, I'm now 62, so I've had many "deaths" in the family. Our pets give us unconditional love in such a way that a relative may not. My mother passed away eleven years ago. She had many medical issues, so with her passing it was almost a sigh of relief as I had been her caregiver for many years

I don't think so, especially in the case of your mother-in-law. She's no longer in pain and that's a good thing.

You lost a "meazer"?? I am terribly sorry and yeah, I would be crying for days over the loss of my fur person. I still mourn two of my meazers and its been a couple of years. They had cancer so I had to do it but dang its a miserable business. I am addicted to all things Siamese. I rescued another from a shelter so last night at 2 a.m. there was Beau Teak all ready for a snuggle. I truly am sorry for your loss and that includes your human loss.

I dont think so, it also depends who is dying, mother in laws arent amongst the most favorable when passing, jk, sorry for your loss either way

Hi John. I haven't heard from you in a long time. There is nothing wrong with the way you are feeling. They are our babies. I have lost 5 of my furbabies since December of 2016 and I still cry. It is so good to hear from you @indexer even under these sad circumstances.

There is no right or wrong in this case, it is simply human nature.

I don't think it's wrong at all. It's a different level and there is a different connection. We mourn deaths because we will miss their presence, whether it be human or pet. My cats have been my best friends, someone I can talk to about anything. They're there when I'm happy and when I'm down. It's the unconditional love and trust thing. When I lose one or have to put one down, it's a devastating and gut-wrenching experience, With relatives or friends, there are usually others to share the grief. With a pet (whether it be cat or dog or other), it is more of a personal loss -- a very real part of our own life is gone forever.

I think your mother in law was glad to be free from the pain,if she was lucid enough to notice it.If she was,she probably wanted you to be glad for her,because she would want you to think aout what you would want for your self in the same situation.

Losing a pet can be devastating. We have a totally different relationship with humans and pets and I'm sure the grief you feel is understandable

It is what it is. We grieve each loss in different ways. I grieved the loss of my horse more deeply that that of most humans I've lost. We were together for 23 years.

It is not wrong and you can grieve for both. Our cat was laid to rest Thursday and we are still in mourning. My deepest condolences to you. I feel your pain.

No I think our pets love us unconditionally whereas we humans not always. Prayers for comfort for you and your family in the days ahead.

I say no. It all depends upon circumstances and yours is quite understandable.

It depends . Yes our pets are like our family members and it hurts when they die and leave us. I am sorry for your car and MIL.

Agreed, a pet becomes a member of the family and it is a release from pain for a very sick person to leave us. When a dear one is in intense pain family members feel helpless to alleviate the pain. Yes, some pets are akin to own family - siva

If you felt closer to the cat then why not mourn the cat more. How did you feel about your mother-in-law? Was she nice? They both were members of the family and can mourn them equally.