Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend is it really necessary?
By Shadow N.
@ShadowNetz (23)
Nigeria
February 10, 2018 2:46pm CST
From Kindergarten up to higher institution everyone around me talks about girlfriend and boyfriend but sometimes i kinda feel left out...not because i don't want to have one but i feel i do not need one probably till im ready to get into a serious relationship.
Do you think there is a concrete reason behind why someone should be in a relationship they aren't sure of?
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
10 Feb 18
There is no need to follow the crowd. Do what is right for you. Concentrate on your studies.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
11 Feb 18
@db20747 It's good to have a variety of friends.
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
11 Feb 18
@1hopefulman yes, a variety is a good idea!
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@MashaVickina (2184)
• Russian Federation
10 Feb 18
I am pretty sure that it is a bad idea to have a bf/gf only because you should have someone in your age.
If your significant other is not your best friend, this relationship will bring only quarrels and problems. People should date if they consider each other as future spouses, it will help in avoiding unnecessary troubles.
Concentrate on yourself and your self-development
When you bump into a right person, you will not doubt in this question
On the other hand, true relationships give an opportunity to feel life from all specters, they bring happiness(not broken nervous system).
Well, this is my point of view, based on my experience. I wish you all the best, I am sure that one day you will find a true love and have a happy relationship
When you bump into a right person, you will not doubt in this question
On the other hand, true relationships give an opportunity to feel life from all specters, they bring happiness(not broken nervous system).
Well, this is my point of view, based on my experience. I wish you all the best, I am sure that one day you will find a true love and have a happy relationship3 people like this
@ShadowNetz (23)
• Nigeria
11 Feb 18
@MashaVickina What do you say of someone who is very shy for as long as it has something to do with relationships.
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@MashaVickina (2184)
• Russian Federation
11 Feb 18
@ShadowNetz I would say that this person should have a reason why he/she is shy. And I even do not know which this reason should be. At around 1999-2000, when I was in my first or second year at school, one cool boy with a Down syndrome was finishing school. Just imagine, I was 6 or 7 years old, and that boy was maybe 17, and he had the same height as me. He had many friends, all boys liked him. He had at least two girlfriends when he was at school. Soon he graduated, and I have not seen him after. But this example demonstrated me that there are almost no reasons to be shy for datings
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
10 Feb 18
The key to being happy is learning to love and accept yourself and enjoy your own company. Then anyone that comes along and you befriend complements your life, adds to it, and makes it enjoyable. If you NEED a companion, there is something wrong with you and you probably won't have a successful relationship until you solve your own problems.
I am single, have been since my divorce 12 years ago. I'm happy this way. I have a bad tendency to pick emotionally abusive men. This late in life I won't waste the money for therapy to find out why, since I'm very happy to do without them completely.
If you are not sure of a relationship, that's a sign that there is something wrong and you need to do some serious introspection!
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@lovebuglena (44553)
• Staten Island, New York
11 Feb 18
Having a bf or gf is not an obligation. No one said you have to have one. But it's nice having someone in your life (even though it may not always be smooth sailing). It's nice to feel wanted, cared about, loved, needed. However, there is nothing wrong with being alone. And if you surround yourself with people that care about you and love you, and you can stand on your own two feet, then not having a bf or gf is okay.
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@Melanie_Marie (1871)
• New Baltimore, Michigan
11 Feb 18
I don't think it's necessary. I've had many boyfriends in my lifetime, many of them were steady boyfriends, even one fiance. But you know when I seem the happiest? When I have a crush on someone....and it isn't really going anywhere. For some wacky reason, that's just the most fun for me. Or if a can have a few crushes going on at the same time....whoooah that's even better. 
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@taciaelisepeace (1809)
• United States
11 Feb 18
I think if you are unsure then you should take a step back from it and really communicate with that person in what you are unsure about. If you don't need eye to eye then it won't work out. Or if there is something, spend more time to get to know them before rushing into a relationship.
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@ShadowNetz (23)
• Nigeria
11 Feb 18
@taciaelisepeace i know of a friend who is into a relationship now, but he wants to get out of it and doesn't know how. He fears that it would break the girl's heart and he wouldn't want such to happen and yet the girl loves him more than he does loves her.
If you were in this position what would you do?
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@taciaelisepeace (1809)
• United States
11 Feb 18
@ShadowNetz I was in that position, two years ago I was in a relationship with this man for 3 and half years and lost feelings for him.
Eventually you just have to let them know. Dont drag out the relationship longer because they are just going to fall for you more and the more it is going to hurt when you tell them.You can't force yourself to love someone you don't, you will just end up more miserable. Its best to be really gentle with that person and really, really explain why you do not have feelings anymore.
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@ShadowNetz (23)
• Nigeria
13 Feb 18
@taciaelisepeace Nice...are you a relationship instructor
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@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
11 Feb 18
Do whatever you want when you are still young. When you are married its hard to look back.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
10 Feb 18
It varies for everyone ! Boyfriend girlfriend significant other can be for some, whereas some want to be by themselves (all depends)
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@lookatdesktop (27134)
• Dallas, Texas
13 Feb 18
There is certainly no good reason to get into a relationship just because of other people's expectations of you. You will know when you are ready to make the move. You first must feel something real for the other person. Usually, boys and girls grow mature at different rates, sometimes the boy faster but usually the girl of the same age will be actually a bit more mature in the area of personal relationships between the sexes.
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@Mike197602 (15505)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 18
It certainly isn't a necessity.
I'm very happy being single and, as things are currently, I can't see myself ever wanting another relationship.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
10 Feb 18
Nowadays relationship like having boyfriend or girlfriend is becoming common most of them ending up in breakup .it's like rule that one have to lover.its not at all correct.in young it's all seems fun.one will definitely know what the true love is only with our age and experiences.you must feel and sense it.
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