Self esteem and self confidence issues

As I grow older I have become wiser and learned from my past mistakes. I developed self-esteem from my own personal experiences and success. And I don't care much about what others say.

Self-esteem can be acquired. One of the more popular theory is Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. We become more confident in our abilities as we succeed in providing for our needs. At the lowest level that would be food, shelter, clothing and security. With each step up the ladder of success our self-esteem grows.

Just keep on trying to achieve your dreams.

Life is not fair. That's the first lesson you learn in life101. The second is don't give up in doing your best. Opportunity knocks at the doors of those who do not give up.

Many of us will feel like this because you want to do more and didn't or you just feel like you could have done more in your 20s. I am 28 and a stay at home mom that writes and does legal work from home sometimes. I am so trying to excel this year because I feel the same way especially being a mom. I want my own career like everyone else or just to accomplish something that I have yet to do. I mean we can only do what we can and move on. I am becoming content with that myself but I still have the feeling that once I am older I would have done nothing. We always seem to want to accomplish something and that is okay. Remember that we can only do so much and then we can't belittle ourselves because we couldn't do more. Sometimes life is what we make it and other times it can turn us in a certain direction to where we can't do what we are setting out to do. I always say what I am doing must be within God's plan and then he will give me more to do later. Good luck and don't get yourself down. Trying is what we do and all we can do at times and that is okay.

Self-esteem and self-confidence are two different ideas. You may lack self-esteem but have self-confidence in your driving, or your job or a number of things. The reverse is also possible where that you have self-esteem but lack confidence in some areas because you lack experience in these areas. You can improve both. Self-esteem relates more to what our overall thoughts are of ourselves ... do we love ourselves and find ourselves worthy of the love from others. Self-confidence relates to our positive approach to tasks, such as jobs, activities, challenges; both physical and mental. Let's say in your example of doing well but others think it is not enough ... let's put a real life event to that and say you took a course in world history but your final grade was just average and others in your class did better and therefore think you didn't do enough. Self-confidence would relate to the actual performance and grade. Your confidence level may be higher than it was when you started the class because you learned more than you knew before and you also learned better as the class went on, how you could have scored a higher grade if you choose to take another class. Self-confidence wouldn't let other people;s thoughts of not enough, deter you from taking on the next challenge. Self-esteem is not as easily measured in a tangible way. Low self-esteem may have played a role in lowering your overall confidence to perform and has now been reinforced by your average performance. Low self-esteem is what is likely to bring about every possible reason as to why you shouldn't and won't do well in this class or any other that you might want to take in the future. A healthy self-esteem would recognize the good of completing the class, regardless of the final grade or thoughts of others. A healthy self-esteem recognizes your own self-confidence to almost convince you before you opened the first text book, that you could handle this work and even if you fell short a bit by what the grade indicated, that healthy self-esteem would not allow that to stand in the way of taking on another challenge. It would almost welcome another challenge. Self-esteem and self-confidence can be positively or negatively impacted by each other and recognizing where each stands within yourself helps the influence to be a positive one.