Choose Your Battle

@cttolledo (5454)
Legaspi, Philippines
March 1, 2018 2:17am CST
I've mentioned it here many times that I have a group of friends in the office, we actually have a unique personality, but most of them are introvert people while I'm an extrovert one however being matured people we managed to go along with each other despite of that dissimilarity. It's been 3 weeks already that a " silent war" between us and one of our friends in the group is becoming obvious and others are starting to ask us why. There's no serious reasons why, we just all realized that, we're tired of always tolerating her possessive child like behavior, for letting her to make life complicated , unhappy and put ourselves in a uncomfortable situation just to please her all the time. There's no room for her to understand and accept our advises we've given. In life, we have our own individual battles and it's draining as day goes by. We have to choose our battle and this time we are not choosing her as one. Maybe we have to give ourselves a space to breath and her to realize something in life.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
2 Mar 18
Didn’t she initiate to sit down and talk about the problem?
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
2 Mar 18
She never take an effort. Actually we did our part already, we've tried to talk to her but she doesn't like it. So that's all maybe.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
2 Mar 18
@sol_cee very, but maybe all we need is space. If that could makes her a better person why not.
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
2 Mar 18
@cttolledo how sad..
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
1 Mar 18
is her behavior work related? or her personal issues spilling into work?
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
1 Mar 18
Both. She easily hates people in and outside of the office specially those doesn't fit to her standard. She's so demanding of time and attention. So draining. It's sad to end up a 3 years of friendship with her but all of us needs to learn and go on with our lives based on our own phasing.
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• Philippines
1 Mar 18
@cttolledo are you tasks dependent on each other? i hope the work output isn't affected.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
1 Mar 18
@hereandthere luckily no.
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@Jackalyn (7558)
• Oxford, England
1 Mar 18
Perhaps you should all sit round a table and talk about this. An atmosphere is not going to be conducive to work productivity in the end, and while I can see your point, this sounds like a very insecure individual.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
1 Mar 18
Yeah. I hope one everything will be alright. But you know what we are happier now, no pressure , just a free spirit, we are not in a situation wherein we have to consider her always in every decision we want to make
• Philippines
1 Mar 18
Is this person your boss or co worker? of course if the boss thinks you need to work with her you got no choice. Well, I don't really know the situation entirely but good luck with your decision. Some people can't live with out getting attention.
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
1 Mar 18
Not my boss , just an officemate but not so related with my job. Anyway we can still be civil, work is work we shouldn't mixed it with our personal issues.
• Buffalo, New York
1 Mar 18
I agree some people need professionals to speak to. I am an introvert n try very hard to be outgoing and have made a lot of progress. But yes do not put up with a downer in the mix of conversations it is draining
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