Update on my Husband

By Jabo
@jaboUK (64354)
United Kingdom
March 2, 2018 6:31pm CST
In my last post I told you about my husband's surgery to have some growths removed, and how he was bleeding constantly. Some of you have requested an update, so here it is. The bleeding eventually stopped yesterday (nearly a week later), and we went back to the hospital for our appointment today. I thought we would be told whether the growths were cancerous or not, but apparently it takes 5/6 weeks to get the results back from the lab, so that didn't happen. We see the consultant on April 10th, so we won't know until then. To be honest I'm not too worried, as even if the growths were cancerous it's the easiest type of cancer to treat. The surgeon went deep enough anyway, so he thinks he got it all out. My husband has been through this before, and that time they didn't get it all, resulting in a course of radiation. My main concern now is the wound on his head. He's in some pain from this, and it looked a real mess when they took the dressing off. The skin graft has only partially taken, but the nurse at the hospital didn't seem too worried - she said the skin would regenerate on it's own, it will just take longer. We have to go back to the hospital in a few days, and the surgeon will be there so we can see him if necessary (we only saw nurses today). In the meantime the District Nurse will continue to come in to check on him. Thank you all for your concern and good wishes.
66 people like this
63 responses
@Juliaacv (51378)
• Canada
3 Mar 18
I'm glad that his bleeding has stopped, that must be a relief to you both. Hopefully it is good news at the consultation appointment. So he'll be starting to see a district nurse.......make sure that he behaves himself.
8 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Do you know my husband??? Even when he was going through the pain of having his stitches out he was flirting with the nurses!
4 people like this
@Juliaacv (51378)
• Canada
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK Aren't they all alike?
4 people like this
@oahuwriter (26777)
• United States
3 Mar 18
Jesus, please help Jabo's husband in every way and keep him well. Thank you Jesus, amen. (you're welcome in advance for prayers.) Hope things get better quickly. Surgery is not easy to live with nor is it easy when it's a loved one going through it...feel so helpless. Take care!
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thank you so much for your prayers. Yes I'd rather have the pain myself than see him suffering, but hopefully he'll feel better soon.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
@oahuwriter Thank you.
1 person likes this
@oahuwriter (26777)
• United States
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK In time your husband will be all better. Luckily, the doctor caught it in time and got rid of the danger. This is a big blessing. Just that if only doctors had a different and less invasive way of stopping cancer would be great. So hang in there for there will come the day all the pain is gone and all the disease is gone too.
• Pamplona, Spain
3 Mar 18
All healing wishes going out to you and your Husband. Hope the news of the results will be good news.
4 people like this
• Pamplona, Spain
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK That´s okay I have been through something similar and sort of going through it again and they are operating on her on Friday coming week quite serious but should be okay.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
@lovinangelsinstead21 Is this your mother you are talking about? All the best to her.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thanks, I appreciate that
3 people like this
• China
3 Mar 18
It is great your husband is recuperating from his operation. Hope the results you will get from the lab on April 10th suggest that the growths aren't caused by cancer !
5 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thanks Chang, he's feeling better today but it will take time for him to heal.
2 people like this
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
3 Mar 18
i hope your husband will recover the soonest.
4 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thank you Ingrid - he's feeling much better already.
2 people like this
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Mar 18
@jaboUK thanks God.
1 person likes this
@Namelesss (3365)
• United States
3 Mar 18
I'm sad to hear about this but am heartened to here the bleeding has stopped. It's tough road to say the least but I imagine you are right and worst is over. ((Hugs to you both))
5 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Oh hi Elaine, good to see you. Yes, the worst is over, I think he'll be fine once he gets over the soreness of having the stitches removed (or in the case of his head - the staples). Thanks for the hugs, sending some to you too
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
3 Mar 18
Good that the bleeding has stopped and that you have a visiting nurse. I will continue to watch for updates.
4 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thanks Heather, he's feeling considerably better today
@much2say (56053)
• Los Angeles, California
3 Mar 18
Hope your husband continues to heal and that all is well for the April appointment. It sounds he is well taken care of!
3 people like this
@much2say (56053)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Mar 18
@jaboUK I sure hope he is feeling better by the day !
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Yes, we have had excellent medical treatment all the way through. He'll feel better by tomorrow I expect - he shouldn't be so sore by then.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 18
@much2say He's been much better today thanks, not much pain at all.
1 person likes this
@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
3 Mar 18
I think that the healing process takes longer as we age but I hope your husband recovers quickly. If the nurse wasn't too concerned that's a good sign. I went to the doctor about my patch on my arm. It is a keratosis and although not cancerous it's best to get it treated so I'm glad I went. If it was exposed to the sun it could become something more sinister. I have some steroid cream to put on twice a day and I think I can see some improvement. Healing thoughts for your husband.
3 people like this
@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK The cream is already working.and the patch seems flatter. Sending healing thoughts your husband's way.
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
I'm pleased that your patch was nothing worse and I hope the cream works. My husband is 87 so it could take a while before he's healed completely. Thanks for your thoughts.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 18
@sprite1950 Thank you.
1 person likes this
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Mar 18
When the nurse is there, does she put on any pain-relieving cream or gel @jaboUK to the scalp location? Since so many of the nerve-endings are located in the scalp, maybe that would help.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Today is the first time the nurse has changed the dressing on his scalp, as it wasn't necessary to touch that one because of the skin graft. The hospital put a gel pad directly onto his scalp yesterday, and put some padding on top of it. They sent a gel pad home with him in case the District Nurse didn't have one. Good job they did as she didn't, but now she knows she'll bring one with her tomorrow. So that's all good.
2 people like this
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK Oh that is excellent.
1 person likes this
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
3 Mar 18
I missed your earlier discussion. So sorry to hear that your husband is in pain. Hopefully the pain eases quickly and that the wound heals as it should.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thank you, and he's feeling better already. The staples on his scalp were pulling before, but now they are out, the pain has lessened considerably.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 18
@Morleyhunt Yes I am - it's not nice seeing someone you love in pain.
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK that is good news. You must be relieved.
@franxav (13849)
• India
3 Mar 18
I send prayers of healing for your husband.
4 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
That's very kind of you, thank you.
1 person likes this
@Dena91 (16686)
• United States
3 Mar 18
Glad that the bleeding has stopped. Prayers for continued healing for him.
4 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thank you so much Dena.
2 people like this
@Bullshark (3477)
• Netherlands
3 Mar 18
Thanks for the update! I'm glad to know your husband is doing much better now. I hope he will have a speedy recovery... :)
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thank you very much, at least he hasn't so much pain now.
2 people like this
@Bullshark (3477)
• Netherlands
4 Mar 18
@jaboUK I hope things will turn out well for you and yours... :)
1 person likes this
@LadyDuck (472087)
• Switzerland
3 Mar 18
I am glad I found this update, I asked you about your hospital visit in a comment some minutes ago. For what you writes, it seems they went deep enough to get rid of the problem. Your husband should be fine. Best wishes.
3 people like this
@LadyDuck (472087)
• Switzerland
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK I am glad he feels better today, it is such a worry to have health problems.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
I've only just come on Anna, so haven't seen your previous comment yet. I'll get to my notifications once I've replied to everyone on this post. Yes, my husband should be fine eventually, he's feeling much better today.
3 people like this
@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Glad all went well Janet but sad you have to wait a few more weeks to find out the results.It sounds like the nurses were not too worried otherwise you would have been fast tracked to see the surgeon. Hope the pain settles soon. Use any analgesia they have recommended for him regularly!
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
He's a lot more comfortable today Gary, though his head isn't very pretty. The District Nurse has just been to change that dressing, the others she left alone. He's taking paracetamol when needed.
2 people like this
@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK Good early days yet Janet I am sure by this time next week he will feel much better!
2 people like this
@moffittjc (121729)
• Gainesville, Florida
3 Mar 18
Wow, glad to hear he is doing okay! And glad to hear you are not too worried, which means you are confident the doctors took care of everything correctly. I hope he continues to heal without incident and that the results come back negative on cancer.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thank you Jeff. He's had excellent treatment, we couldn't have asked for better. The site on his head will take a while to heal, but we'll get there in the end.
2 people like this
@moffittjc (121729)
• Gainesville, Florida
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK Your positive outlook is very refreshing in today's gloomy world!
3 people like this
@just4him (317241)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 Mar 18
I hope he won't need any radiation and the nurse isn't concerned about the skin graft. I'm surprised it takes that long to get results.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
We went today fully expecting to get the results, so we were somewhat taken aback. The consultant wasn't there today, it was just a clinic, but I expect he'll look at my husband on Tuesday.
2 people like this
@just4him (317241)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK I hope there's good news on Tuesday.
2 people like this
@JudyEv (342112)
• Rockingham, Australia
3 Mar 18
It's good that the nurse is coming regularly to check him. I'm not very good playing at being a nurse.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
I don't mind doing what's necessary, but we need the nurses' expertise to check that things are going as well as they should.
2 people like this
@JudyEv (342112)
• Rockingham, Australia
3 Mar 18
@jaboUK I tend to get a bit panicky and not know if I should call for another opinion or not - to supplement my own I mean.
2 people like this
@paigea (36315)
• Canada
3 Mar 18
Glad the news is no worse than that. Still a nuisance to deal with it all
3 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 18
Thanks Paigea. Yes it's not very pleasant, let's hope it's all worth it in the end and he recovers completely.
2 people like this