I had a friend tonight. Old age problems. / myLot

Chile

March 2, 2018 9:44pm CST

Good night, friends. I was planning to do more mylotting, but I did not count on the visit of a dear friend that I had not seen for over a year. We had a lot to tell each other. She had been very ill and she was not well yet. Sometimes it is difficult to decide what to do after a certain age. We are not capable of taking care of ourselves, but sometimes there are not many alternatives that suit us. I remember that my mother decided not to go to a senior´s home although she had the money to go to a very good place. But she did not like the idea of having hours to go to the dining room to eat as she was used to get up late if she wanted and go about doing her chores at home in her nightgown. Finally, my sister took her to her house for the last year of her life. But sometimes there are people who don´t have that option or have no money for a good place to stay. Have you thought about this? What would you like in that case?

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (340216)

• Rockingham, Australia

3 Mar 18

We have been doing a lot of thinking and talking about this as we are getting close to the age where we need to think about what will happen when we need to move from our present home. It is a real dilemma and it is really hard to know what to do for the best.

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

3 Mar 18

I have reached the conclusion that I will live at my house unless they are selling a house very near my youngest daughter´s house.

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Toni

@toniganzon (72281)

• Philippines

3 Mar 18

In this country, homes of the aged isn't really common and when we grow old and frail we expect our children to take care of us. The children usually do take care of their parents. It's how we do it here normally. What if the children don't have money? They always find ways to survive, no matter what.

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

3 Mar 18

It is similar here, but it is changing now.

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ShannyBananny

@shaggin (72141)

• United States

3 Mar 18

That is so nice your sister took your mother in for the last year. Some people need more care and have to be put in a home. I hate thinking of those days and what my life could be like.

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

3 Mar 18

Still my mother was well taken care of at her own house. Her house was between my brother´s house and mine.

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Nnaemeka

@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

3 Mar 18

Old people homes are aren't common here. People generally take care of their old owns by keeping them with them in their homes. Old people homes I believe can be boring and constraining.

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

3 Mar 18

I think so too. But in my country old people´s homes are getting more common

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

3 Mar 18

@mydanods I see. It used to be like that here too.

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Nnaemeka

@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

3 Mar 18

@marguicha Different countries; different values. Sending your parents to old people's home is seen as having rejected your parents here.

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RasmaSandra

@RasmaSandra (79892)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

3 Mar 18

I pray every day that the Lord gives me the strength to get through another day. I would prefer to always be able to take care of myself so I hope that will be possible. I too would not want to be in any kind of home. Too depressing to see others around me who perhaps are really bad off and also too institutional. For that reason too I am glad that when I have the possibility to return to my homeland the U.S. I will have an apartment in my best friends house in Florida. She has three floors and lives downstairs with her husband and she has three grown sons. In this way I won't be totally alone, she is like a sister to me and of course, there will be family around. SIGH that is such a big releif to me.because until I get to move here in Riga, Latvia I am completely alone.

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

3 Mar 18

That is difficult, my friend

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (61157)

• Centralia, Washington

4 Mar 18

I'm not sure what I would do. That is a deep question.

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

5 Mar 18

It depends on so many things. I would not want to be a burden for my children.

Morley Hunt

@Morleyhunt (21744)

• Canada

20 Mar 18

I hope that I'm clever enough to take up residence in a senior's residence and eventually a nursing home. Our savings should cover the cost.

Angie

@andriaperry (116936)

• Anniston, Alabama

3 Mar 18

I am sure I will do as much as I can till the money runs out and then I will probably be places into a old folks home till I die.

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

3 Mar 18

Do you have children?

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John Roberts

@JohnRoberts (109846)

• Los Angeles, California

3 Mar 18

My mother is elderly so that could happen someday. It depends on what health status and what type of ailment.

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

3 Mar 18

Illness takes a lot of money away from your savings. It happened to me.

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Yehezkiel Ronaldo Botu

@Dirren_Ronaldo (291)

• Yogyakarta, Indonesia

5 Mar 18

this is difficult.. but there is always a reason for someone to do something or in considering something.. including when you're mother decided to don't go to a senior's home.. but if they're just have no option, it's so sad..

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marguicha

@marguicha (223107)

• Chile

5 Mar 18

Some people just don´t have the money to go anywhere. Much less, a decent place.